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Controlling for being angry at DH using oven

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SharpOliveHam · 30/07/2024 13:32

Dh likes to eat healthily which means he never fries any food. Even the 1 cal spray is not acceptable. Fine.

But DH knows I’m very funny about the heat. Hate it and do very well to keep a cool house. I’m the person who goes around closing curtains, opening windows at the optimal time to keep things cool.

Just got off a work call to a sauna downstairs. DH has made himself a fry up (chicken sausages, egg, mushrooms, tomatoes). The kitchen is reading 26c - it was 22.5c when I looked at around 12 pm.

I told dh that this was really selfish behaviour. And now I’ve been called controlling.

AIBU?

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LoveHearts69 · 30/07/2024 14:00

SharpOliveHam · 30/07/2024 13:42

Yes I am placing towels I’ve cooled in the freeze on my dogs who won’t lie on cooling mats. Later on I will be the one getting their paddling pools out. Not dh.

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This is incredibly dramatic. You sound highly strung and very stressful to live with.

RivkaTheBold · 30/07/2024 14:00

You'll be on the divorce threads next, no one would put up with being told what to eat for lunch.

MyOtherCarisAVauxhallZafira · 30/07/2024 14:00

26 degrees really isn't that hot. YABVU

Happygogoat · 30/07/2024 14:00

I hate the heat too OP and am currently very very pregnant so I have lower tolerance than most and even I think this is a little far! Kitchens are to be used.

Its a roasting hot day and I don’t think him cooking a fry up is gonna make or break that.

Magnastorm · 30/07/2024 13:59

SharpOliveHam · 30/07/2024 13:45

The range oven was on for 40 mins. Sausages were frozen.

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Running an oven for 40 minutes is not going to heat up a house by 4 degrees. That's just, y'know, physics.

TheFormidableMrsC · 30/07/2024 13:59

This has got to be a wind up. Nobody is this stupid surely?

DavidBeckhamsrightfoot · 30/07/2024 13:59

SharpOliveHam · 30/07/2024 13:50

My poor dogs have thick, long coats that cannot be shaved. Double coated.

How cruel of you to buy dogs unsuitable for the climate they live in.

Mnk711 · 30/07/2024 13:58

I understand you being frustrated about him seemingly working against you, but it also sounds like you are frustrated because he isn't helping more widely. Can you not ask him to help with the dogs instead of doing it yourself? I think you need better communication between you - it is fine for him to cook and it likely didn't make much difference, but if you are this anxious about the heat you should have discussed with him and asked him not to do it in advance.

Have a cold shower and don't worry about it.

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pinkyredrose · 30/07/2024 13:57

SharpOliveHam · 30/07/2024 13:41

I’m not telling him he can’t use it but I’m calling him out on being selfish. His meal has impacted the entire household.

Wow. Poor guy did nothing wrong. If it's too hot in the kitchen then stay out of it.

Starlight1979 · 30/07/2024 13:57

SharpOliveHam · 30/07/2024 13:50

My poor dogs have thick, long coats that cannot be shaved. Double coated.

So do mine @SharpOliveHam and they don't need frozen towels on them when it's 20-odd degrees and they're inside 😂

They just go and find somewhere cool(ish) to lie in the house. In fact one of them actually loves lying in the direct sunlight in the back garden but he's just strange.

Cas112 · 30/07/2024 13:57

Double coated dogs 😂😭😭😭😭

Ellie1015 · 30/07/2024 13:57

Yabu. People should be allowed to use the oven or hob for any meal.

Peonies12 · 30/07/2024 13:57

YABU it's his house to. And you know dogs survive living in far hotter countries? The temperature will drop down once he has turned oven off, and surely will only affect the kitchen.

Toucanplaysguitar · 30/07/2024 13:56

NetflixAndKill · 30/07/2024 13:55

You would absolutely bury me, I’ve got the drier on 😆

@NetflixAndKill same, I hate crispy line-dried towels 😂

Crystalselfcare · 30/07/2024 13:56

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Izzymoon · 30/07/2024 13:56

You are choosing to go to “all this effort”. Your dogs don’t need a padding pool. You are being ridiculous.

HotCactus · 30/07/2024 13:56

You sound bonkers and very controlling. I’ve dogs with long coats. One is sunbathing in the garden at the moment, he loves it and will come in when he wants.

The other one is sleeping on the sofa and is coping perfectly well. I have never draped them with cold towels, and they would be most confused if I tried that 😂

It gets really hot here and we just open the windows and live with it, and my DH doesn’t need my permission to use the oven. Your behaviour is very odd.

savethatkitty · 30/07/2024 13:56

Get a grip.

Seaglassandchampagne · 30/07/2024 13:55

SharpOliveHam · 30/07/2024 13:50

My poor dogs have thick, long coats that cannot be shaved. Double coated.

I always feel sorry for heavy-coated dogs when I see them in the UK. A neighbour of mine had a husky and it was so obviously utterly miserable for 4 months of the year.

I don’t think I could cope with the guilt of having a dog so unsuited to the climate. I expect your anxiety about that is why you’ve taken it out on your husband, but you must know your dogs are uncomfortably hot in summer temperatures anyway! If you made the choice to get dogs who are going to suffer in hot weather you need to take the necessary steps to cool them down with good grace and not act like everything would have been fine and dandy if your husband hadn’t used the oven for an hour.

Starlight1979 · 30/07/2024 13:55

SharpOliveHam · 30/07/2024 13:39

I had a ham sad for lunch precisely so I didn’t heat up house.

Im the one running around throwing frozen cold towels on dogs.

Frozen cold towels?!?! Where the hell are you?! The Arabian desert?!

You sound like a massive hypochondriac I'm afraid 😐

NetflixAndKill · 30/07/2024 13:55

You would absolutely bury me, I’ve got the drier on 😆

Boopbeepbeepboop · 30/07/2024 13:55

How absolutely ridiculous. It's a bit hot yes, your dogs will be fine, you'll be fine.

Toucanplaysguitar · 30/07/2024 13:55

This is wild OP, just close the kitchen door and go in another room? I could understand if he had opened the oven door onto your face but this is crazy.