Controlling for being angry at DH using oven

Consider getting aircon.

Sorry OP but you are the selfish one here. A kitchen is there for cooking food, not keeping cool.

I’ll be kind and say the heat has made you tetchy. You are being ridiculous.

I couldn't be doing with being around you. Honestly.

I think some people really don’t have the personality or skill set to live with other people. One of the keys to happiness is to identify if this is you and move towards a more independent life. If you want to make things as difficult as possible instead then share your home with 2 creatures who you deem to be on the brink of death at every moment and must constantly work towards keeping alive - think real life tamagotchi, and another human who eats and exists in the same space as you.
If I were him I’d be gone before the next sunny day - and I’d keep the oven.
Why don’t you have an air conditioner? If you can afford 2 enormous dogs and a range cooker then it is unlikely to be financial.

Yep you’re being very unreasonable OP.

I have a double coated dog too. The double coat actually helps them regulate their temperature.

You sound genuinely unhinged.

You cannot control the other adult who lives in your house in this way.

In the future, you’ll be posting that your husband has walked out one day and you have no idea why as you were happily married…..

Obviously.You are controlling.

in terms of dogs we bought a cool mat which is triggered by the heat /weight of the dogs body and the dogs love them (Black Labs). We have utilised some paddling in back garden under a canopy and only engaging them in play/games in am or later pm.

We have an always on cooker which does make the kitchen warmer but is also well insulated, the dogs still like the cool of the tiles in the kitchen and as others have said only for a few days

Poor dogs being chased around with frozen towels. My own double-coated dog would hate me if I threw something that cold over her.

I'd be more annoyed if my DH made a whole fry-up and didn't at least put on a couple of extra sausages and some eggs for me.

Maybe OP should change her nickname to Goldilocks eh? Poor guy!

CAlling it controlling is taking it too far. I would call him inconsiderate as he clearly gave no thought to the impact what he was doing would have. I think the manner in which he is asked to try and keep the dogs cool by minimising use of heating equipment makes a difference. Making it clearly about the dogs and the cost of having to use the vets if animals overheat and get ill and not to mention the cruelty is the issue at hand here.

But also yes maybe look at solutions rather than slinging insults.

This? even if we dont have soaring temps of nearly 40, we always get a few hot days EVERY year. It's can't be a surprise by now.

YABU! I presume it’s his house, too!

An extra 3.5 degrees is hardly earth-shattering. You are being completely controlling and unreasonable. Give the dogs a shower. Have one yourself. Buy a fan. It’s summer but DH is still allowed to cook a meal he wants in his own home.

Jesus Christ the man was hungry made himself something to eat and then had to deal with your bollocks.

It's not a fry up if it was cooked in the oven..you shouldn't soak dogs in very cold water,it's bad for them..it causes blood vessels to narrow and then they overheat.my kitchen/conservatory which is NE facing is 31.6 ATM,so the doors are open and we have both an air cooler and a portable air conditioning unit,that will be used later..

Yes, it's hot in the kitchen here too!
Personally I don't think my oven would make it that much worse.
I'm "old school", dinner is gonna be very fuss free, but if my husband expressed a wish for a super hot meal, I'd take care of it myself. 😁
As posters say, life is quite short to get angry about such things.

Do you have issues with anxiety OP? The hottest part of the day is after 12pm so the kitchen was going to get warmer regardless. You can’t police what someone eats in their own home

Stop running around, you will only get hotter, walk calmly, you will feel better for it.

That poor man.

I think this is a wind up.

If DH told me I couldn't use the oven because it was a hot day, I'd laugh at him and put the oven on. Very bizarre, controlling behaviour if this is true.

Better still, buy a couple of air con units and save yourself the hassle of running around with cold towels, opening and closing windows and curtains, pulling paddling pools out etc 🙄

I’m not telling him he can’t use it but I’m calling him out on being selfish.

Well that's a contradiction right there.

And stop it with the towels. They'll stay cold for all of a minute. Then they'll turn into a blanket - you know, the sort you would throw off on a warm night? Would you want someone to insist that you kept it on?

Is this a humble brag because you have a range cooker? You know they aren't hotter than a 'normal' one?? Thank goodness you don't have my aga. 😁

If you have cool mats but the dogs won't use them, then the dogs aren't feeling too hot.

94% of us think you're controlling and unreasonable, so I'm not sure why you still think that you're not.