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Controlling for being angry at DH using oven

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SharpOliveHam · 30/07/2024 13:32

Dh likes to eat healthily which means he never fries any food. Even the 1 cal spray is not acceptable. Fine.

But DH knows I’m very funny about the heat. Hate it and do very well to keep a cool house. I’m the person who goes around closing curtains, opening windows at the optimal time to keep things cool.

Just got off a work call to a sauna downstairs. DH has made himself a fry up (chicken sausages, egg, mushrooms, tomatoes). The kitchen is reading 26c - it was 22.5c when I looked at around 12 pm.

I told dh that this was really selfish behaviour. And now I’ve been called controlling.

AIBU?

OP posts:
thankyouangela · 30/07/2024 16:27

This is a really weird post.am I reading it right:
Dh likes to eat healthily which means he never fries any food.
but
DH has made himself a fry up (chicken sausages, egg, mushrooms, tomatoes).
?

And the fact this seems like a non-event. Man had to eat. Doesn't happen everyday.

Weird.

NewName24 · 30/07/2024 16:25

I'm with the 94%
Your dh is right, you ARE being controlling.
You are also being somewhat bonkers.

I've read all your posts, but can't see that you have explained anywhere why you don't just put a fan in in whatever room you are, if you are this affected by the heat today ?
The dogs will soon move to where they are most comfortable - I'm not sure sticking a frozen towel on any animal that is feeling the heat, is the right thing to do.

Magnastorm · 30/07/2024 16:25

CocoapuffPuff · 30/07/2024 16:19

Solution is to trot out to argos, currys, wherever, in an air conditioned car and buy a decent air fryer, an extension cable and a camping table so the poor fucker can cook his fry up outside without you bursting a blood vessel.

It's not hard.

Any oven that isn't some stupid AGA thing is not going to put out enough heat in 40 minutes to increase the temperature of a room by 4 degrees.

It's just not.

Solution is for the OP to unclench, not to ban use of the oven.

TVRose · 30/07/2024 16:24

I’m with you OP. We only cook outside on the BBQ during a heat wave or eat salads as we work hard opening and shutting windows and doors and curtains early and late to keep the house cool.

KeirSpoutsTwaddle · 30/07/2024 16:23

PuddlesPityParty · 30/07/2024 16:04

How much heat do you seriously think putting the oven on for a bit causes? 🙄

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Loads! That’s why ovens are inefficient. It uses lots of electricity to get them hot, then keep them hot.
That heat radiates out into the kitchen. It’s basic science. Using an oven to cook, say, a chicken uses much more power than using a slow cooker, and using an electric pressure cooker takes even less.

RomanticOutlaws · 30/07/2024 16:21

THE DOGS ARE DOUBLE COATED. 😂

CocoapuffPuff · 30/07/2024 16:19

Solution is to trot out to argos, currys, wherever, in an air conditioned car and buy a decent air fryer, an extension cable and a camping table so the poor fucker can cook his fry up outside without you bursting a blood vessel.

It's not hard.

Notmycircusnotmyotter · 30/07/2024 16:18

This is a wonderfully loony thread

Marseillaise · 30/07/2024 16:17

SharpOliveHam · 30/07/2024 13:39

I had a ham sad for lunch precisely so I didn’t heat up house.

Im the one running around throwing frozen cold towels on dogs.

Why are you running around? It'll only make you more hot and bothered, and the dogs won't melt if they have to wait a few more seconds for their cold towels.

GinAndBeerIt · 30/07/2024 16:17

I'm trying to imagine my husband's reaction if I told him he couldn't use a household appliance, or he was selfish for doing so 😂
I have dogs and I certainly haven't been throwing towels over them, frozen or otherwise, they just lay on their cooling mat in front of the fan.
They're quite happy.

user1492757084 · 30/07/2024 16:16

Put two things on the birthday list.
An airfryer for DH and a portable air conditioner or a reverse cycle cooler for you.

Both you and your husband could be more respectful of each other on these odd very warm days.

Now that the house is very hot I suggest that you, dogs and all, take a family trip to a very large air conditioned shopping complex or other public buildings that are well cooled.
Follow up with a lovely evening walk in a leafy forrest or dip at the beach before eating a cold meal in a cooled off home.

GaryLurcher19 · 30/07/2024 16:14

SharpOliveHam · 30/07/2024 14:18

I’m annoyed because the house is now warmer than it needed to be for the rest of the day. Yesterday it hit 29c here. I managed to keep the house below 23c.

All because one person fancied a fry up.

It's probable that the ambient temperature would have risen in any case. Your OH making lunch won't have had that big an effect. Honestly OP, I think you owe him an apology. YABVU in my opinion.

Macaroni46 · 30/07/2024 16:14

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TheLastTimeEver · 30/07/2024 16:13

You do realise @SharpOliveHam the point of AIBU is to listen when you are told by over 90% of people that you are being unreasonable???

Plimsoll73 · 30/07/2024 16:13

I'm assuming it's also his house to do as he pleases.

So yes YABU, and controlling, and also very selfish to be fair - you want to put yourself above what he wants.

butterpuffed · 30/07/2024 16:13

SharpOliveHam · 30/07/2024 13:40

We have an extra wide range and the kitchen is sweltering now.

What does an extra wide range have to do with it , or is he using an extra wide frying pan...

TheLastTimeEver · 30/07/2024 16:12

You really sound bonkers. The man can’t cook in his own house? Catch yourself on, honestly.

AgathaX · 30/07/2024 16:12

Your poor husband.

AinmEile · 30/07/2024 16:11

Very controlling, and not listening to any replies, it seems

Beezknees · 30/07/2024 16:11

OP, pretty much everyone on this thread has said YABU. Take it on the chin and apologise to DH. Nothing worse than people who can't accept when they are wrong.

JackieGoodman · 30/07/2024 16:11

Agree, you need an air fryer.
And also, double coats help keep dogs cool

Keswick1967 · 30/07/2024 16:11

So what will happen when it’s time to cook your evening meal surely your kitchen will get hot then, or don’t you have hot meals when it’s warm outside?

pinkstripeycat · 30/07/2024 16:11

DavidBeckhamsrightfoot · 30/07/2024 16:02

You're telling me not to be ridiculous 🤣🤣

Have you met you?!

And no it's not ridiculous to expect responsible dog owners to choose dogs based on their needs.
If you can't meet their needs without this ridiculousness then you have failed

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Have you met you? 😂 brilliant!

Fercullen · 30/07/2024 16:10

I sympathise OP, you’ve worked hard to keep the house cool and now it’s broiling for the sake a few sausages. Unless you typically control what he cooks, I don’t think it’s controlling at all. I’d be really annoyed too in fact I have been annoyed in a similar situation.

ActualChips · 30/07/2024 16:09

Most dogs have an undercoat. It helps keep them cool, shaving would make them much, much hotter.

Don't freeze towels or fill paddling pools if it's a big deal.