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Controlling for being angry at DH using oven

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SharpOliveHam · 30/07/2024 13:32

Dh likes to eat healthily which means he never fries any food. Even the 1 cal spray is not acceptable. Fine.

But DH knows I’m very funny about the heat. Hate it and do very well to keep a cool house. I’m the person who goes around closing curtains, opening windows at the optimal time to keep things cool.

Just got off a work call to a sauna downstairs. DH has made himself a fry up (chicken sausages, egg, mushrooms, tomatoes). The kitchen is reading 26c - it was 22.5c when I looked at around 12 pm.

I told dh that this was really selfish behaviour. And now I’ve been called controlling.

AIBU?

OP posts:
Boomer55 · 30/07/2024 17:16

Yes, you are controlling.🙄

GiddyMoose · 30/07/2024 17:15

YABU. Appreciate it’s hot and I have two dogs I am trying to keep cool but not letting people eat? Madness.

willWillSmithsmith · 30/07/2024 17:15

HamBagelNoCheese · 30/07/2024 16:59

This is the same poster whose teenager pretended to go to college for 2 years because they couldn't tell them they failed their first year and did an access course instead.

Can't think why 🤔

Ah I remember that thread. Hmm a teen too scared to tell the truth and a man having to be scared to use the oven. Not a home I’d want to live in.

feelingbattered · 30/07/2024 17:15

SharpOliveHam · 30/07/2024 13:39

I had a ham sad for lunch precisely so I didn’t heat up house.

Im the one running around throwing frozen cold towels on dogs.

Are you nuts?

Sugarlily · 30/07/2024 17:15

You clearly hate your husband. This isn't about a fry up. So just leave.

willWillSmithsmith · 30/07/2024 17:13

Well I couldn’t live with someone where I was scared to use the oven. Maybe an air fryer would be a good purchase.

Sugarlily · 30/07/2024 17:12

There’s something wrong with your oven if using it heats the kitchen up by 4 degrees in like 20 mins. In fact use it in winter in lieu of heating!

WorriedMama12 · 30/07/2024 17:10

OP, you're being very unreasonable here I'm sorry to say. The man should be able to cook a meal in his own house without getting it in the neck. He must be walking on eggshells.

Do you have any anxiety issues or other similar issues?

SD1978 · 30/07/2024 17:10

You are being ridiculous and controlling, dictating what he can and can not eat. The house clearly would have naturally increased in temp, him having an oven on didn't increase it by 4 degrees. You chose a ham salad, he didn't want that. I live in Australia, with a double coated dog, and have never gone to the extremes you are, or objected to anyone making food when they are hungry. You are being very OTT

twomanyfrogsinabox · 30/07/2024 17:09

SharpOliveHam · 30/07/2024 13:39

I had a ham sad for lunch precisely so I didn’t heat up house.

Im the one running around throwing frozen cold towels on dogs.

You wanted a ham salad, he wanted a fry up, you both had what you wanted. I'm cooking now and yes the house is getting warmer, I don't fancy a salad. This weather will only last a couple of days get over it.

iamtheblcksheep · 30/07/2024 17:09

I don’t know why you’re all arguing with her. She thinks she’s right.

please buy an air conditioning unit. They aren’t expensive and cost very little to run.

Wolfpa · 30/07/2024 17:07

You are being selfish and controlling just cool the room you are in so no one else needs to suffer.

LondonFox · 30/07/2024 17:06

SharpOliveHam · 30/07/2024 13:39

I had a ham sad for lunch precisely so I didn’t heat up house.

Im the one running around throwing frozen cold towels on dogs.

Dogs don't need wet towels at 26° ffs!
Get air condition if you are so obbsesed with heat and let the poor bloke make himself some food.

Labracdabra · 30/07/2024 17:05

My double coated dogs are currently laid in the full sunshine in the garden where it's 30 degrees. I've also cooked a quiche and had the oven on for 40 minutes.

The only time I've taken special measures was when it was pushing 40 a couple of years ago.

JollyGreenSnake · 30/07/2024 17:05

Air fryer. Problem solved.

Ihopeithinkiknow · 30/07/2024 17:04

Aquamarine1029 · 30/07/2024 13:43

Are you aware that dogs don't melt?

You ever heard of chocolate Labradors? I haven't read the whole post but I will be upset if someone else has already said this shit joke lol

EllyGi · 30/07/2024 17:04

GingerPirate · 30/07/2024 15:13

Yes, it's hot in the kitchen here too!
Personally I don't think my oven would make it that much worse.
I'm "old school", dinner is gonna be very fuss free, but if my husband expressed a wish for a super hot meal, I'd take care of it myself. 😁
As posters say, life is quite short to get angry about such things.

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Ya in all honesty I'm very unlikely to throw a fit if this happens, but I will be quietly grumpy and sweaty for a while. 🤣

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 30/07/2024 17:04

Good grief !

what breed of dogs do you have ?

I expect the dogs are indoors ? as it is warm outside today.

3 of my dogs are brachycephalic and I am not rushing around with frozen cold towels to cool them down !

I have just looked and it's 26.5 in this room - 3 are sleeping on the sofa beside me, and the oldest dog is in a dog bed and she is 17 tho she isn't brachycephalic

total overreaction on your part !

OneHeartyCat · 30/07/2024 17:03

Nosleepforthismum · 30/07/2024 14:02

Buy an aircon unit or an air cooler if you are that concerned about your dogs. We did for our spoilt, normal coated rescue who enjoys having it on while lying in the direct sun 🙄.

This was exactly what I was going to suggest. And an air fryer. I’m very heat sensitive especially after growing up with aircon and my husband and I bought an air con to limit my heat drama.

the other option is make him lunch if you don’t want him to use the oven? I tend to make the lunches in the morning. We also just got a ninja grill which we use outside to prevent the house getting hot.

Xmasbaby11 · 30/07/2024 17:03

I get it's annoying that the kitchen is now warmer, but you can't expect DH not to have hot food for that reason.

I prefer a cool house too but I still cook in this heat because we all want to eat cooked food.

nopurchasenecessary · 30/07/2024 17:03

Just saw thyroid mentioned maybe that’s why I detest getting even a bit overheated my internal temperature gauge must be up the creek!

KeirSpoutsTwaddle · 30/07/2024 17:03

And as for the suggestions of air con- yes great. Use fuel to create extra heat, and then a bit more fuel to cool it down again.

Madness.

brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 30/07/2024 17:02

I went running in it - 6km this morning and 10km bike ride this afternoon. Didn’t even need a frozen towel.

YouveGotAFastCar · 30/07/2024 17:02

SharpOliveHam · 30/07/2024 14:02

The kitchen is now 26c according to hive. I checked at around 12 pm and it was nowhere near that.

I just went and touched range and it is scolding to the touch still. The kitchen was lovely and cool for the dogs and now it is the hottest room in the house.

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It's common for it to get warmer in the afternoon. Hive may not be that accurate, either - but it hasn't gone up 4 degrees purely because the oven was on. Nobody would need central heating if that was the case, everyone would just have range ovens.

YABU. You don't like the heat and make decisions to try and keep it cool, fine. If he was going around after you opening up all the windows and curtains because he likes the sun, you'd maybe have a point. But he made a meal for himself using an oven. Most people will do that today.

Createausername1970 · 30/07/2024 17:02

CharlotteLucas3 · 30/07/2024 16:52

Why’s it mad? It’s perfectly sensible not to use an oven in this heat.

I am assuming OP is in the UK. It's not that hot.

To be fair, I have chosen not to cook for the last couple of days, but her reaction is OTT.

I have a flat faced dog, so I am aware of keeping the house cool, but I don't "work" to keep it cool.

It sounds very martyrish and as if she is looking for a reason to have a moan to/about DH, rather than him actually doing anything unreasonable.

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