Controlling for being angry at DH using oven

Your behaviour and attitudes are very bizarre and toxic. So your husband is never allowed to cook and eat hot food when the temperature increases? You are unhealthily obsessed with keeping the house cool- why? If you want to remain cool, use a hand held fan or keep a wet towel on your legs or go work somewhere else where they tolerate your whims.

How do you think dogs cope in countries where it’s a lot hotter, for longer! If your dogs aren’t using the cooking mat, I’d say they have decided they are perfectly cool enough.

@ThisBlueCrab sadly there's a few on here today. See also "I told my boyfriend to bin everything from the fridge, he double checked that he was supposed to do that, I confirmed and he did it. Now I'm upset he binned everything from the fridge".

I think it's a combination of school holidays and the heat.

I’m with you OP. I think a lot of people posting have no idea what it’s like to live in a house/flat which gets hot and is impossible to cool down. On days like this I have to be obsessed with keeping windows and blinds closed, and working out when to open the windows to cool everything down (often not til 9/10pm). I chose not to bake bread this week because it would mean having the oven on super high for 40 mins, and that heat is just going to sit inside the flat all day. I’d be pretty upset if my husband decided to bake some sausages when there are lots of other food options available (and you can fry sausages anyway!!)

I do a fry up in the air fryer, except a fried egg when the pan makes a short appearance.

My blinds windows and blackout curtains get shut when the outside temp gets hotter than inside. My lift hatch is open I't definitely keeps it cooler.
Fans work in the same wage wind chill does breeze lowers temp.
I still cook

Hot food originated in very hot countries, if you increase your inner temperature with hot, spicy food then your body loses heat and cools down. If your inner temperature is cool then it takes in heat from the surroundings. It's all about balancing the two temperatures.
Tea is very cooling in Summer.

Oh somebody please tell me this is a reverse. Surely you cannot be that devoid of sensibility to not see that you are totally unreasonable, massively controlling and completely batshit.

Buy him an air fryer if a hot lunch is that big a deal.

And yes you’re being incredibly controlling. Poor bloke.

@somanynamesbynow

he can eat what he wants. Op and the dogs will just have to get over it 🤷‍♀️

I'm thinking that what bothers you, doesn't bother your DH. Do you think he knew it would annoy you, but he did it anyway? Or is it that he didn't consider you when he did it? There is indeed an impact on heat in the kitchen when the oven is on- and depending how your house is set up- this may impact where you normally work, sit, chill etc

I'm guessing this is the end point of a lot of friction. And you are hyperfocussed on this because you are hot, your don't like to be hot, and you think DH has deliberately made you hot. This is a rabbit hole. The connection seems logical now, but may not later

Wrap the dogs paws in cold towels or get a cool pad!

I’d hate to live with someone like you. You and the dogs will just need to get over it. Absolutely absurd. You’re the selfish one.

Yep, that's ridiculous on your part.

No, you're the selfish one.

You don't like the heat, so he has to jump through your hoops.

And as for running round throwing wet towels over your dogs? If I did that my dogs would think I've lost the plot 😳

Stick a fan on and chill out.

Does David Attenborough know about this? Polar ice-caps melting, higher occurrence of tropical storms, ocean temperatures warming up and extreme weather events on the increase? Climate Scientists are assuming global warming is due to the excessive burning of fossil fuels - and all along its been due to your husband opening the oven door to periodically check on his baked potatoes?

Don't anyone tell Greta Thunberg, she'll never cope.

Agree with you OP! Some houses are really, really hot and that sounds selfish. He could have eaten a salad.

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Sort yourself out! You should go have a cold shower and imagine what it must be like living with you!

Yanbu OP. I have just filed for a legal separation from dp because he came in from work all hot from walking home and insisted on giving me a kiss which made my inner core temperature rise by 0.25%. Bastard.

Im now lying in a chest freezer with a husky to recover.

Close the kitchen off to the rest of the house.

Open the windows / doors into the kitchen when it gets cooler outside.

It may not help much- but will make you feel like you are doing something.

You are being controlling. Which I think you know too.

I think you're wrong here op

Get advice from your vet about your dogs. I don't believe wet from the freezer towels are recommended.
Once you've done that maybe you can leave your husband (if he hasn't already fucked off) to get on with making what ever he wants to eat because
A) he's an adult
B) he lives there too!!
Then maybe check with your GP because you sound very very stressed.....

What absolute bat-shittery! Sending your DH my first ever LTB 😂😂

That's a contradiction he can use it but he's selfish if he does ....maybe your being selfish in dictating that he can only have cold food.

What's going on today with this and the no tits on the beach post? Is it just the summer holidays?

I had my oven on at lunchtime.... I survived and so did my cats and family.