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Controlling for being angry at DH using oven

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SharpOliveHam · 30/07/2024 13:32

Dh likes to eat healthily which means he never fries any food. Even the 1 cal spray is not acceptable. Fine.

But DH knows I’m very funny about the heat. Hate it and do very well to keep a cool house. I’m the person who goes around closing curtains, opening windows at the optimal time to keep things cool.

Just got off a work call to a sauna downstairs. DH has made himself a fry up (chicken sausages, egg, mushrooms, tomatoes). The kitchen is reading 26c - it was 22.5c when I looked at around 12 pm.

I told dh that this was really selfish behaviour. And now I’ve been called controlling.

AIBU?

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Youcantellalotofthingsabouttheflowers · 30/07/2024 18:40

You sound unhinged. Don’t sweat the small stuff 🥵

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ByKindOpalPoet · 30/07/2024 18:36

Oldermum84 · 30/07/2024 18:27

Oh and rather than you being controlling he is being disrespectful and unthoughtful.

Would you say OP was being disrespectful and unthoughtful if it was the other way round or would you be calling the DH controlling?

TheoriginalMrsDarcy · 30/07/2024 18:32

You sound controlling and unreasonable. Just because you don't want to eat a fry up or use the oven, you shouldn't stop your husband from using the oven.

I have two large dogs too and have had the paddling pool out for them since last week. (Change the water every couple of days), or they go lie in the shade outside or hide in my cool utility room.

Last year I bought a mobile air conditioning unit for them when the weather was too hot. Why don't you try that instead of being controlling with your husband.

ManchesterLu · 30/07/2024 18:32

You're being absolutely batshit, unfortunately. The heat can make us crazy, however your husband also has to eat, and has the right to prepare/cook his food however he likes.

Swollenandgrouchy · 30/07/2024 18:29

Is this a reverse ? Of course you are being controlling !

Bluebirdover · 30/07/2024 18:29

Outnumbered99 · 30/07/2024 18:28

This has to be a wind up surely?

Maybe, but people like @Oldermum84 think it's acceptable!

Crazy

Bluebirdover · 30/07/2024 18:29

Oldermum84 · 30/07/2024 18:24

I'm with you op. My DH understands we don't use the oven in this heat. Our baby's room is 28 degrees anyway, don't want it any hotter.

An oven in your child's room, what a novelty!!

Outnumbered99 · 30/07/2024 18:28

This has to be a wind up surely?

Jc2001 · 30/07/2024 18:28

Buy an air fryer/ ninja.

Bluebirdover · 30/07/2024 18:28

Oldermum84 · 30/07/2024 18:27

Oh and rather than you being controlling he is being disrespectful and unthoughtful.

Cooking a lion h is disrespectful... just what the fuck am I reading??

Kippersbigfeet · 30/07/2024 18:28

Left · 30/07/2024 18:17

In the minority but I agree with you OP, I wfh in my kitchen diner so would not want the oven on… But at least it’s an electric one and would cool down quickly after, the old style ranges keep warm for ages 😩

Pretty sure she just means a range size cooker. I have one and it cools down just as quickly as every other cooker. I don't think she means an aga type as that stays on all the time and would be a nightmare in summer.

OkapiSandwichAndARoastEgg · 30/07/2024 18:27

If things go so horribly downhill just as a result of a few degrees change in temperature, you need to change things urgently OP.

Oldermum84 · 30/07/2024 18:27

Oh and rather than you being controlling he is being disrespectful and unthoughtful.

Oldermum84 · 30/07/2024 18:24

I'm with you op. My DH understands we don't use the oven in this heat. Our baby's room is 28 degrees anyway, don't want it any hotter.

Kippersbigfeet · 30/07/2024 18:20

If you have double coated dogs then you just need to be grooming them properly so that the undercoat is not compacted. They can then regulate their own heat and won't need frozen towels. Comb them right down to the skin so that all loose hair is removed.

somanynamesbynow · 30/07/2024 18:18

So many people saying 'his own house'. It's not 'his' house. It's their house.

I just wouldn't do it if I were sharing with others, and I would be very surprised if DP were to do it while I'm in and complaining about being warm. It's just consideration and community-mindedness. He could go to a greasy spoon if he were really desperate.

Garlickest · 30/07/2024 18:17

YAB excruciatingly U. And for god's sake buy him an air fryer!

Left · 30/07/2024 18:17

In the minority but I agree with you OP, I wfh in my kitchen diner so would not want the oven on… But at least it’s an electric one and would cool down quickly after, the old style ranges keep warm for ages 😩

ZiriForGood · 30/07/2024 18:17

YANBU.
There is a shared home of you, your husband and your dogs.

If the layout is an open plan and the kitchen doubles up as the main living space, it is stupid to artificially heat it by running an oven for the sake of frozen sausages of all things.

SwordToFlamethrower · 30/07/2024 18:15

Quick google:

"Double-coated dogs have an undercoat of hair that insulates their bodies and helps keep them cool in hot weather. In the summer, dogs with double coats will shed some of their undercoat, but the remaining layer traps cool air next to their skin. Brushing your dog regularly can help remove the undercoat and allow air to circulate, which is another natural cooling mechanism. However, you should avoid shaving or cutting your dog's hair, as this can interfere with their ability to stay cool. "

Scirocco · 30/07/2024 18:12

The man made food in his own house. YABU.

And stop throwing frozen towels at dogs. That's just unnecessary. Get a fan or air con.

Whaleandsnail6 · 30/07/2024 18:12

You are being very unreasonable and controlling. You're basically saying your husband cannot eat food that he fancies in his own home.

If we had a hot summer for weeks, does that mean that you would expect noone in the house to have hot food cooked in the oven until autumn?!

Why not just shut the dogs out of the kitchen until it has cooled down in there? Although I'm sure they dont need all of the ice towels and paddling pools, I think you are a bit ott.

I can't believe you actually cant see that your reaction to your husband cooking himself a meal is completely bonkers.

Caththegreat · 30/07/2024 18:11

Eats healthily?????

ThisBlueCrab · 30/07/2024 17:59

Liverpool52 · 30/07/2024 17:56

@ThisBlueCrab sadly there's a few on here today. See also "I told my boyfriend to bin everything from the fridge, he double checked that he was supposed to do that, I confirmed and he did it. Now I'm upset he binned everything from the fridge".

I think it's a combination of school holidays and the heat.

@Liverpool52 oh god 🤣🤣

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