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Controlling for being angry at DH using oven

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SharpOliveHam · 30/07/2024 13:32

Dh likes to eat healthily which means he never fries any food. Even the 1 cal spray is not acceptable. Fine.

But DH knows I’m very funny about the heat. Hate it and do very well to keep a cool house. I’m the person who goes around closing curtains, opening windows at the optimal time to keep things cool.

Just got off a work call to a sauna downstairs. DH has made himself a fry up (chicken sausages, egg, mushrooms, tomatoes). The kitchen is reading 26c - it was 22.5c when I looked at around 12 pm.

I told dh that this was really selfish behaviour. And now I’ve been called controlling.

AIBU?

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JMSA · 03/08/2024 00:01

Of course you're being weird and unreasonable!

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 02/08/2024 22:15

ScottBakula · 02/08/2024 14:42

Good lord don't encourage the dogs to start cooking their lunch too . 😮

Or do you mean the mats are used to cook dogs ?
Then yes they may get a tad warm 😂

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Now if her fella had cooked the dogs she might have a complaint to make

Not sure the frozen towels would have made a difference after though...

ScottBakula · 02/08/2024 14:42

Nomdejeur · 30/07/2024 17:56

How do you think dogs cope in countries where it’s a lot hotter, for longer! If your dogs aren’t using the cooking mat, I’d say they have decided they are perfectly cool enough.

Good lord don't encourage the dogs to start cooking their lunch too . 😮

Or do you mean the mats are used to cook dogs ?
Then yes they may get a tad warm 😂

MildredSauce · 02/08/2024 13:42

So, @SharpOliveHam out of 3467 voters, just 208 thought your chicken sausage guzzling 'aul fella was in the wrong for making himself Home on the Range(Master).

That feels like pretty compelling evidence that you might have a teensy issue with control. My question is, will you be issuing an apology to him or will you be letting the double-coated hounds loose?

PrimitivePerson · 02/08/2024 13:37

There's no cooking facilities in my workplace so I'm tucking in to a ham sad.

Grammarnut · 02/08/2024 11:54

RB68 · 30/07/2024 15:15

CAlling it controlling is taking it too far. I would call him inconsiderate as he clearly gave no thought to the impact what he was doing would have. I think the manner in which he is asked to try and keep the dogs cool by minimising use of heating equipment makes a difference. Making it clearly about the dogs and the cost of having to use the vets if animals overheat and get ill and not to mention the cruelty is the issue at hand here.

But also yes maybe look at solutions rather than slinging insults.

Oh for heaven's sake. He used the oven for 40 minutes in a range cooker which will be well-insulated. Not inconsiderate in the least (except in not making OP some food). OP is maybe not controlling but she has some issues about being in control.

Commonsense22 · 02/08/2024 09:22

I feel this thread is the stuff of legends - it will be talked about on mumsnet in years to come.

MildredSauce · 02/08/2024 07:31

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 01/08/2024 15:02

"Today it's cooler and DH refuses to use the cooker to help heat the house and is eating a ham salad. It's selfish of him. My dogs are going to freeze unless I throw blankets on them"

It's not a cooker, it's a RANGE!

Grammarnut · 01/08/2024 19:37

HowardTJMoon · 01/08/2024 10:29

Building design isn't just influenced by climate but by available materials and economics. Eg, in the US most houses are built of timber rather than brick. Timber is cheap and abundant in the US whereas here in the UK we chopped down most of our trees centuries ago so we use brick instead.

We used specifically oak for ships, so it was less available for building. But it does depend on area. For example Norfolk especially built wooden houses with a specific cladding of overlapping wood - clinker built like a ship. Shetland uses stone because there are hardly any trees.

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 01/08/2024 16:59

RedPoster · 01/08/2024 16:26

Don’t you mean a ham sad?

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I think ham sad is reserved for OP and her limp lettuce

RedPoster · 01/08/2024 16:26

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 01/08/2024 15:02

"Today it's cooler and DH refuses to use the cooker to help heat the house and is eating a ham salad. It's selfish of him. My dogs are going to freeze unless I throw blankets on them"

Don’t you mean a ham sad?

FrostedCupcakes · 01/08/2024 16:20

What's the qualifying criteria for classics? This is hilarious 😂

januaryjan · 01/08/2024 15:59

cauliflowercheeseplease · 01/08/2024 12:05

Is this real???

About as real as it gets. 😁

I find it helps if you leave your sanity at the door.

PrimitivePerson · 01/08/2024 15:44

Shiningstar80 · 01/08/2024 15:30

This tickled me a lot

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Thank you, ladies and gentlemen! I'm here all week!

Shiningstar80 · 01/08/2024 15:30

PrimitivePerson · 01/08/2024 10:38

DH has had a shower and added to the moisture in the atmosphere, the thoughtless BASTARD! I'm running around after my quadruple-coated dogs with hairdryers!

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This tickled me a lot

Shiningstar80 · 01/08/2024 15:29

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 01/08/2024 15:02

"Today it's cooler and DH refuses to use the cooker to help heat the house and is eating a ham salad. It's selfish of him. My dogs are going to freeze unless I throw blankets on them"

😂

Shiningstar80 · 01/08/2024 15:28

ImplacableDiscernment · 01/08/2024 10:33

I hate being too hot, once I overheat, it takes me a long time to cool down and I feel unwell. My OH is cold all of the time.

I would sleep with the windows open and the fan on all year around. I don't because my OH could not sleep in those conditions. We compromise, use common sense and think of other people. Unlike the Ops DH who sounds selfish and irritating.

Hé doesn’t sound selfish at all. It’s HIS home and if he wants to cook in it then he should be able to. The OP sounds unstable

Fluffytoebeanz · 01/08/2024 15:13

I'm an Aussie by birth and a Brit by upbringing. I have family in Qld, WA and lived in Sydney. In the winter I was fecking freezing living in apartments that were damp, no insulation or heating. That was Sydney. Albany was even worse. When my dad built his house he built it with insulation and heating for the winter and to be cool in the summer using environmentally friendly building techniques and solar/wind as he didn't have electricity where he was.

I like the heat, hate being cold. But I don't like it over 30, houses here are not designed for it and it's very humid. But would use the oven if necessary. Mostly I use the air fryer though

RampantIvy · 01/08/2024 15:03

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 01/08/2024 15:02

"Today it's cooler and DH refuses to use the cooker to help heat the house and is eating a ham salad. It's selfish of him. My dogs are going to freeze unless I throw blankets on them"

😁

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 01/08/2024 15:02

"Today it's cooler and DH refuses to use the cooker to help heat the house and is eating a ham salad. It's selfish of him. My dogs are going to freeze unless I throw blankets on them"

cauliflowercheeseplease · 01/08/2024 12:05

Is this real???

ChiefEverythingOfficer · 01/08/2024 11:44

Your dogs will survive. Where I live (not UK) we set our AC in summer at 26 degs to COOL the house. Dog and cat are still alive to tell the tale.

It doesn't dip below 23 degs even in the middle of the night for 5 months.

Said kindly - get a grip.

RampantIvy · 01/08/2024 11:37

Unlike the Ops DH who sounds selfish and irritating.

Don't you mean the OP?

She could have easily kept the dogs out of the kitchen and shut the door.

What a lot of fuss about nothing.

PrimitivePerson · 01/08/2024 11:20

Wordysmith · 01/08/2024 11:18

LTB @PrimitivePerson

No reasonable person wouldn’t want to sit and swelter in their own sweat and dirt.

Showers aren’t for summer!

This thread is comedy gold.

Wordysmith · 01/08/2024 11:18

LTB @PrimitivePerson

No reasonable person wouldn’t want to sit and swelter in their own sweat and dirt.

Showers aren’t for summer!

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