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To think that Sensory Trauma is behind the Strictly allegations against Giovanni?

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kikir · 30/07/2024 05:56

Sensory trauma is a concept from the Autistic community - autistic people describe things like a sudden loud noise (eg a door slamming) or being exposed to overly bright lighting as often being a source of extreme distress, where they would likely be no more than a mild irritation to neurotypical people. Autistic people have often been shamed their whole lives for their "overreactions" when in fact their reactions are entirely proportional to their lived experiences.

I'm not autistic, but I am disabled by various other conditions and experience something very similar myself. Having spoken to others with ME/CFS in particular, I believe we as a group experience sensory trauma or something like it too. Some say that things they would've easily taken in their stride before getting ME/CFS (like their boss shouting at them at work), became intolerable and sources of extreme distress, once they'd got the illness, often leaving them shaken for days and needing to take time off to recover.

I'm now wondering if sensory trauma is in large part what's behind the Strictly/Giovanni debacle. It does not appear that there was any physical or sexual assault as that would have resulted in immediate dismissal and also no verbal abuse so bad it would have constituted misconduct. The media are reporting that there is no smoking gun. Which leaves me wondering if this man was just very explosive - erupting with rage at his celeb pupils, who were in a state of extreme exhaustion having been forced to train so hard and so intensively. And thereby causing actual trauma from the assault on the senses while too depleted to be able to cope with it. Has anyone got any thoughts on this?

I guess we may find out later on today unless the report has been delayed.

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Ducal · 30/07/2024 06:06

“no verbal abuse so bad it would have constituted misconduct.”

“just very explosive - erupting with rage at his celeb pupils”

What constitutes verbal abuse in your world?!

Thatsnotmynose · 30/07/2024 06:01

So it's the (alleged) victims fault for interpreting the situation too sensitively?

Hmm no. I think that these (or at least some) professional dancers have been brought up and socialised in a pretty nasty competitive world. They've learnt that the way you train involves aggression and chastising people to get the precision required. Combined with the intensity of strictly and the gaze on them as professionals, the risks to their career and the potential for embarrassment, I suspect that all culminates in them bullying and being aggressive.

OrangeSlices998 · 30/07/2024 06:01

EmBear91 · 30/07/2024 05:59

What on earth are you talking about? It was reported that two people saw video footage of Giovanni kicking & hitting ZaEven if that wasn’t the case - “erupting with rage” is unacceptable also.

Graziano was paired with Zara and apparently there is footage of him kicking her.

Giovanni was partnered with Amanda Abington, who has accused him of bullying and abuse. I think this may be what OP is referring to.

LuckysDadsHat · 30/07/2024 06:01

EmBear91 · 30/07/2024 05:59

What on earth are you talking about? It was reported that two people saw video footage of Giovanni kicking & hitting ZaEven if that wasn’t the case - “erupting with rage” is unacceptable also.

That was Gaziana not Giovanni.

EmBear91 · 30/07/2024 05:59

What on earth are you talking about? It was reported that two people saw video footage of Giovanni kicking & hitting ZaEven if that wasn’t the case - “erupting with rage” is unacceptable also.

kikir · 30/07/2024 05:58

If so, do we need to revise our understanding of emotional/psychological abuse? I've personally experienced trauma from only a few short weeks of very intense psychological abuse and it's been with me for 20 years now. It's frustrating to read people talk as if it takes years and years of such abuse for any damage to be done. I think Amanda's story and those of several of her colleagues suggests psychological abuse/bullying can do far more damage far more quickly than most people realise.

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