Parents who constantly swear at their kids

Surely the problem in this scenario is the neglect not the language. The assumption that the two always go hand in hand is just that - an assumption.

A few years ago I was in the swimming pool changing rooms with my daughter. I heard a parent let rip with the foulest tirade of language I'd ever heard directed to a child - the F word, the C word - you name it, that wee boy had it shouted at him.

The following Monday morning I met our new school PSA - the same woman!!

For me it's the hypocrisy - although I don't think my Dad ever swore AT me as a kid he was forever swearing in front of me, I probably learnt all my swears from him.

When I was about 4/5 he THOUGHT I said a swear word in the car once and hit the absolute roof. I was shocked and confused about why he'd blown up with such aggression because I hadn't sworn at all but he didn't ask me to clarify what I'd said, he just misheard me and blew up.

The word being used in the quote I referenced was “shit” , the word that the friend who worked on the farm used. It was specifically that word that I asked about. I asked if the friend used the word shit as a swear word or as a descriptor. I was asking a question, and I’d be interested to know the answer. Personally, I don’t think it is swearing to say that I’ve stepped in dog shit. That’s what it is. If the friend said “oh shit”, then that would be swearing, though of a pretty low level sort. In your examples, I think that people do use the words as you’ve described: crude language, but not swearing imv

It is, rude vulgar and I would avoid you lot.

It is awful and is verbal and emotional abuse. Imagine what is happening behind closed doors of that's the version of herself she's portraying in public.

Near me we have 2 households that frequently shout and swear at their children. The children also frequently swear as well.

Examples, 6 years old runs over to his mum and she tells him to f off (I reported this to the NSPCC and other instances).

At 6.15am another household, mum was saying shut the f up, f you, f off to a 5 year old.

All the children in these households are neglected, poor supervision, poor behavior ect. It's indicative of the level of overall care and love

Heard my neighbour call his 3 year old a nasty little cunt once... called social services.. they said the family are known to them.. shocker.

I don't like swearing at or around young children at all. I don't mind the odd swear around teenagers, but not swearing at them. I like swear words to be used for comic effect with teenagers and adults. I don't like aggressive swearing.

I swear really quite liberally at work, and in adult social situations, and when driving alone, and in WhatsApp chats, and....

But I don't think I've ever swore in front of DS7, and wouldn't thank others for doing the same. And I'd judge people who do so in front of other children of a similar age.

Depressing, eh?

We come from a place swearing is just a part of the everyday language. We don’t swear at our child, but bad language is used by us & all of our family in conversation. It’s not rude or abusive.

Total difference between swearing at and around. My parebts swore a lot but myself and brother did not as children and not until we were much older adults. My older teens swear a lot and its not seen as much these days and just word, using words at someone is different, but same as calling someone stupid etc. swearing is much more common now .

I can't stand parents who aggressively swear at their children. I'm not talking about one offs. I am talking about everyday constant swearing. It is emotional abuse. I knew a DC who was sworn at first thing in the morning, every morning. Funnily enough DC grew up and uses horrendous language towards his parents now. The way they speak to each other is utterly vile.

Well if a husband did it to a wife everyone would say LTB.

But children can’t leave.

Swear words is a funny thing. They’re actually just words, the meaning is something we’ve made up.
“bitch” isn’t abusive, calling someone a stupid bitch obviously is.
Yeah, swearing and shouting at young children is gross. But the same if a parent said, you’re useless, or a horrible child or whatever.
Swearing in front of them is totally different. As a pp said, ‘fart’ was a swear word in our house, and I struggled when I had young kids that other children and adults would say it in front of them (it was the level of ‘shit’ to me).
Now I have a raging potty mouth. I’m not proud of it but not ashamed either. I’ll swear in front of my kids (older teens), but never at them.
The co-op mum you describe sounds hideous.

Chavvy abusive parents

I just don’t care about swearing I’d never swear AT my kids although I’m sure I’ve called them wee shites before - and we have NEVER called them stupid idiots etc - THAT is massively damaging. so yep those people you overheard are abusive scum bags. I love my children and would never belittle them in private never mind public.

however
I just don’t think language should be censored.

I swear all the time in front of whoever happens to be there. I'm Irish though and most people I know tend to swear quite liberally.

Yes to this.

My mum swore at us all the time, not just overhearing her swear, but directly calling me a fucking bitch and a lazy fucking cow at a really young age. It definitely damages kids :(

Dreadful parents who will end up with aggressive kids!

i personally do not like it, and i never swore infront of my children and if anyone ever hears me swear then they know i'm very very annoyed.

that said, i also think its a society thing; for example, my husband works in a factory and his language can be shocking, although i do gently remind him not to swear in front of me, and with my job, i speak to a lot of people where swearing in conversation is actually normal for them.

if i'm speaking on the phone to a 'client' we will call them, and every other word is 'fuck' or 'cunt' i again gently remind them not to swear at me and they admit, they are not meaning to swear, and they are not swearing at me, its just how they speak!

doesn't make it right.

I will likely be flamed for my view.

I NEVER swear at my children but have dropped many frustrated swear words over the years (now teens).

In all honesty, I know it is a bit uncouth to swear in general but feel it is utterly despicable to actually aim any kind of insult at children- swear or not. Telling a child they are an idiot is something that hurts, they understand and will carry for a long time- much worse than a swear in my eyes.

is there? They would use it in terms of there is shit everywhere, they had the shit cleaning job.

how do you use a swear word not as a swear word.

if someone said the doctor is going to look at my cunt

or

just off for a quick fuck

would these not count?