Kids want Halloween over AI holiday in turkey

You need to reassess your life and your opinions.

You are calling your children brats (one of whom is ND) for not wanting to go on holiday with a man who:

•Is emotionally abusive (your words)
•constantly criticises your children, including accusing your ND son of simply being “badly behaved”
•has taken money from you for the house but refused to have you on the mortgage/deeds so you have no security
•had an affair with a woman at work, and has told you that he doesn’t trust you
•gets sulky and cross when you go to the office/go on a night out/leave the house.

Add to this that you’ve said you can’t afford to leave because of the debt that you’re in - why spend money on a holiday?

Advanced search, as suggested by a previous poster shows that you are not in a good relationship, and your children are suffering from living with your boyfriend

They aren't brats. They just prefer the idea of Halloween here over a Turkish holiday. Many people would, because AI in Turkey isn't what everyone has at the top of their list of things to do.

Personally, I love Halloween. I like the decorations, the spookiness, the dark. I'm not a massive fan of AI holidays and Turkey has never appealed. Doesn't mean other people can't enjoy it or would like it more. Or that people who prefer something else are bratty.

Depending on their ages, is there an option for them to stay home and do what they want, while you and your partner go and enjoy some time?

Surely brats would be demanding a holiday abroad not wanting to stay home.

Since you say partner I presume this is not their father. So they are asking to stay with dad rather than holiday with mum and her bf.

I note the date is also because it suits you and partner rather than say you and your children.

Maybe they are not so keen on him.

I very much doubt the water park will be warm enough at the end of October and I suspect most things will be closed by then anyway
as the season tends to finish mid October in Turkey

Oh that’s really upsetting :( Just saw your other comments as well- definitely not a mystery as to why they don’t want to go on holiday with this arsehole of a man!

“They weren’t being bratty anyway, but to learn that your son is autistic and you’re calling him a brat for seeing ‘the world in one way and what he wants’ is pretty unpleasant.”

@Pharticle the shithead boyfriend thinks that his autism is just bad behaviour.

They weren’t being bratty anyway, but to learn that your son is autistic and you’re calling him a brat for seeing ‘the world in one way and what he wants’ is pretty unpleasant.

Brats would insist you jet off to an all inclusive holiday somewhere exotic. Staying home for Halloween is as far from brattish as you can get. At that age, they are less interested in water parks and more interested in hanging around with their friends. My kid thinks family holidays are absolutely the worst thing ever, even though she does eventually manage to have a good time.
This doesn't mean you can't book but please have some sympathy for your kids who did nothing wrong. They just expressed their preference. It's not brattish and it is pretty strange to be upset about it unless you actually believe they will barricade themselves at home.

You’ve been less than transparent about your dodgy boyfriend on this tread, OP. Or so it seems.

The posters advising you to insist on the holiday may have had a different view if they’d been told the full tale.

Just put your kids first. Leave them with grandparents if you can’t possibly take them somewhere without your partner in October.

I wish posters were honest.

What a waste of time

Christmas?

It's Halloween...

They said that, did they?

I'd be disabusing them of the notion that they're in charge!

I don't think it's brattish at all to prefer staying at home to socialise with friends to a fancy holiday abroad. Quite the opposite really.

How much weight you apply to their wishes is a different conversation, but I don't think they're brats at all.

I suspect this will the the start of a lot of excuses they make to not spend time with you and this partner. Start listening to them. They are prioritising something fun over something with him. You are choosing him over them.

Glad it’s not just me!

friends and family have fuck all to do with any decision I make about holidays or anything else for that matter.

You do realise you'd be taking your kids to a country in the middle of two major war zones?

Please don’t make this a big thing about it’s not being family time

Ah, if this is the case then Turkey is the least of your worries.

Yikes! No wonder they don't want to go.

Yeah agreed they don’t get o choose at their ages. However, I would HATE to go on a sunshine holiday that time of year. October I’m well over summer and so ready for autumn and winter, cool crisp weather and Halloween and bonfire night-my favourite time of year! So I’m with them in that?

Is your partner their dad? My friends parents divorced when she was young and every family holiday was then with her mums partner and she hated it. Could that be at play?

Genuinely, why are they brats? They have a stated preference. If you don't want to know what they want, then you shouldn't ask.

Halloween has become massive here in the UK for teens, and mine prefer it over Christmas. I can't bear it tbh but it is not my life.

I worry the 12 year old is going along with their older sibling's choice.

Can you compromise and have a halloween party before you leave???

Halloween events end in year 6 here. (Year 7 upwards don’t trick or treat and scary movies are available to stream all year round) Did they do something exciting for Halloween last year ? My teens eat sweets while watching scary movies and answering the door to trick or treaters as they accept that it’s there’s turn to give rather than receive.

I voted YABU because of your wording - my children “prefer” isn’t bratty behaviour. Bratty would be insist/demand etc

I think that your kids are an age which commonly don’t enjoy family holidays but they shouldn’t be holding you hostage either. Do you have someone who could look after them while you and your partner pick a holiday that would suit you as a couple rather than them (the kids)?