Kids want Halloween over AI holiday in turkey

Hallowe’en is a big deal to the young teens around here. No more trick or treating because they are too old, so it’s fancy dress parties and scary movies with takeaways stretched over two or three nights.

Of course they’d rather be with their friends.

Heydiddlediddlethecatandthefiddle

definitely start trick or treating, halloween games and pumpkin carving this Halloween- great excitement and fun!!!

I’d prefer Halloween as an adult, love it!! To be honest I disagree with the people saying’just book it’ , I’d make sure to be back for halloween or you’ll have the moaniest holiday ever- and you’ll be bitter and fighting them all the way. Halloween and Christmas are sacrosanct here, too many traditions and fun times to be had!!!

They almost certainly will! Make the most of being in charge - by late primary / early secondary they start to have their own opinions and Halloween is massive for young teens no matter how much parents may disapprove! Friends booked a child friendly theatre trip for their 13 year olds one Halloween - big mistake.

I see OP has gone quiet now the truth is out. Is it the same boyfriend? No wonder they don't want to go

Gratitude for her abusive partner?

YABU. I wouldn"t want to miss Halloween for a holiday in Turkey either...and I'm 45!

I would say that there isn’t a choice. My child has never had Halloween at home because we always go away in October half term. Maybe it is an opportunity to teach them gratitude for whatever they get.

Well, no wonder. Quite a bit of missing info!

They’re probably saying no to that time because they know you’re only choosing it so that your partner can go. They’d rather go with just you, in the summer, at the same time everyone else is going on holiday.

Your tone sounds a lot like emotional blackmail. At 12 and 14 they're supposed to start prioritising friends over family - it's not about you and doesn't mean they don't love you. Halloween is a big deal to kids now (much bigger than it used to be) - mine would also refuse to go on holiday and miss it, unless it was their dream holiday. I wouldn't take it personally though and nor would I force them to go on hols against their wishes.

Absolutely this. As a parent of autistic children, holidays are very much arranged around how much they can cope. It’s not as simple as ‘your parents have booked it so tough shit’.

We went to canaries AI last year. They did lots of Halloween activities/shows in the hotel that week and it was lovely with a real spooky atmosphere. Not so sure about Turkey, I think they do have something similar at the same time🤞.

My 10 year old loves Halloween. More than Christmas. No idea why as we don’t do anything major - he gets a costume and we go trick or treating for an hour or so. But he loves it.

He wouldn’t want to go on holiday here Halloween either - not because he’s a brat but because he loves Halloween.

You can't decide what your kids would like based on what you liked as a child, they're not brats, they are their own people. One of then has ASD as well FGS, do you know anything about kids with ASD or are you only interested in the apparently awful boyfriend? How awful that you would call them brats just because they don't want the same as you.

Maybe they don't want to go on a holiday with someone who calls them a brat because they dare to have a different opinion?

Mine would love a family holiday. I also would not give them a choice.

When I first read your post, I wondered if it was about your partner. And then it was confirmed that there were issues…

Why have you given them a choice?

See, I'd just be delighted that I'd raised kids that have no qualms declining an all inclusive holiday in Turkey tbf, it would be my idea of hell but horses for courses!

I once had to leave a half term jolly to London slightly early to get mine back to Yorkshire for a Halloween Party and still missed it due to traffic, they were so disappointed and I felt guilty for ages afterwards. It is a big thing at their age.

Especially when the option is a holiday miles from home with some dodgy bloke their mother has made them live with. I'm with your kids on this one!

Just seen the extra information, I can see why they might not want to and it wouldn't them being bratty if that is true.

Yes, I wouldn't want to miss Halloween, and I wouldn't want to miss Christmas either. I never see the point going on holiday at a time when you know you are going to miss something fun.

Yes, YABU.
These brats dare to have preferences.
Now, my generation wouldn't be even able to peep anything against what "parents" decided.
80 percent of people of my generation are in MH
treatment, I'm long time NC with one surviving "parent".
45 yo, different country.

Just seen all the missing missing info.

Proberly happy for a break from your arsehole boyfriend. Jesus get you kids away form such a knob head.

honestly at that age it was so important being there for social events.

Im aware people pay thousands for holidays abroad etc, but kids don't appreciate them as much as we do

Kids want a bucket and spade and a beach - uk works for younger years!

listen to your kids, save your money!

I never ‘celebrated’ Halloween as a child so I can’t really understand their POV. I’d have always picked a holiday (and that was always a UK break too!) Do you go all out for Halloween normally? We don’t make a big deal out of it now with our young children. No trick or treating etc and all we do is pick a pumpkin and carve it really. Hoping they don’t see it as a big deal in the future!