Kids want Halloween over AI holiday in turkey

I suspect this will the the start of a lot of excuses they make to not spend time with you and this partner. Start listening to them. They are prioritising something fun over something with him. You are choosing him over them.

Hmmmmm. I searched your name as I wondered if this was actually their stepdad or your boyfriend.

Not 3 months ago you were posting that you were in an emotionally abusive relationship with a man who had an affair and who was horrible to your kids - whom his own adult children no longer bothered with.

Maybe they prefer the make-believe horror of Hallowe’en rather than the day to day shit of being with a man who is nasty to them, ramped up by the close quarters of a holiday?

They’re not brats - they quite reasonably don’t want to be on holiday with this bullying arsehole. Did you take up the advice last time to speak to Women’s Aid?

Oh and it’s hard to leave because you’re in debt - so why the holiday anyway?

At those ages they want to be with their friends and think that missing out on events that everyone else is going to is devastating tragedy. Your kids are just being normal.

You need to reassess your life and your opinions.

You are calling your children brats (one of whom is ND) for not wanting to go on holiday with a man who:

•Is emotionally abusive (your words)
•constantly criticises your children, including accusing your ND son of simply being “badly behaved”
•has taken money from you for the house but refused to have you on the mortgage/deeds so you have no security
•had an affair with a woman at work, and has told you that he doesn’t trust you
•gets sulky and cross when you go to the office/go on a night out/leave the house.

Add to this that you’ve said you can’t afford to leave because of the debt that you’re in - why spend money on a holiday?

Advanced search, as suggested by a previous poster shows that you are not in a good relationship, and your children are suffering from living with your boyfriend

I did read the thread thanks. I chose to ignore the massive leap in assumptions that everyone else made and just responded to what the OP is actually asking in her own posts.

It’s almost like it’s not really about Halloween isn’t it? Like perhaps it’s about not being with an abusive step parent?

perhaps read the thread before you start waxing lyrical about glorious family time 😬

You’re assuming kids give two shits about a hot holiday or nice weather in general. My kids are much happier splashing around in the rain and running about in the woods with family and friends than flying abroad for some sunshine.

Would be south Turkey near Cyprus so better time to go. North Turkey Izmir is colder. So sad that they choose Halloween over family time and their only holiday abroad. Expect it at 14 but not 12. My son is autistic at 12 years old so sees the world in one way and what he wants. Just know that as a child I loved holidays and loved my friends. My family and friends are shocked by their decision and they just said do I won’t go.

You need to reassess your life and your opinions.

You are calling your children brats (one of whom is ND) for not wanting to go on holiday with a man who:

•Is emotionally abusive (your words)
•constantly criticises your children, including accusing your ND son of simply being “badly behaved”
•has taken money from you for the house but refused to have you on the mortgage/deeds so you have no security
•had an affair with a woman at work, and has told you that he doesn’t trust you
•gets sulky and cross when you go to the office/go on a night out/leave the house.

Add to this that you’ve said you can’t afford to leave because of the debt that you’re in - why spend money on a holiday?

Advanced search, as suggested by a previous poster shows that you are not in a good relationship, and your children are suffering from living with your boyfriend

Where about in Turkey? I've been the middle of October and it's rained and been chilly. How good is the AI? Tbf Turkey isn't somewhere I've enjoyed. But as said, teens want to be with their friends.

Would be south Turkey near Cyprus so better time to go. North Turkey Izmir is colder. So sad that they choose Halloween over family time and their only holiday abroad. Expect it at 14 but not 12. My son is autistic at 12 years old so sees the world in one way and what he wants. Just know that as a child I loved holidays and loved my friends. My family and friends are shocked by their decision and they just said do I won’t go.

I said I am booking our holiday to Turkey in October half term as the temperature will be more manageable and less busy. We can get some sunshine whilst it’s cold back home and be a nice break between summer hols and Christmas. I have also told them it’s the only time my partner and I can get off together apart from Christmas due to new jobs, so it’s the only time we can go on holiday this year and they both said no we won’t be coming.