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Kids want Halloween over AI holiday in turkey

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amyjane1989 · 29/07/2024 13:34

My two children age 14 and 12 would prefer Halloween in the uk over an all inclusive holiday in Turkey with onsite waterparks. Am I being unreasonable to be upset about this and think my children are brats?

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LaDamaDeElche · 31/07/2024 09:06

How are they being brats? Most kids that age prefer to be with their friends, especially on a fun night like Halloween. Most teenagers I see at hotels look bored and are on their phones while their parents are enjoying the unlimited booze.

ShouldhavebeencalledAppollo · 31/07/2024 06:13

The problem isn’t Turkey or Halloween or kids that are brats.

Its that Ops boyfriend is an abusive twat.

Ponderingwindow · 31/07/2024 04:26

Halloween is my child’s favorite holiday. I think I could get away with saying we are going to skip Christmas, but not being home for Halloween and going all out for it would be sacrilege.

She is 15 and has already been talking about our preparations for a couple of months now. Our house would be covered in decorations inside and out if I was willing to indulge her.

Safi7 · 31/07/2024 03:00

Do they have 2 weeks for half term or just the one - schools vary?

Is there a compromise / eg. you could go for 10 days instead of 14, or 5 instead of 7?

On the other hand, they may find their friends are all going away for half term away anyway.

Ilovecleaning · 31/07/2024 02:48

Ilovecleaning · 31/07/2024 02:47

Didn’t the OP mean it would be cold and miserable in the UK and that’s why they would like a break in Turkey?

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My mistake. OP didn’t say that. Other posters did 😊

Ilovecleaning · 31/07/2024 02:47

Waitingfordoggo · 29/07/2024 13:57

Surprised some people expect Turkey to be cold and miserable in October. I’ve been to Turkey once- in October- and it was definitely swimsuit and sunbathing weather. In fact I stayed in the shade as it was too hot for me. July/August would be far too hot in Turkey for many Brits.

Didn’t the OP mean it would be cold and miserable in the UK and that’s why they would like a break in Turkey?

lanadelcake · 31/07/2024 01:24

Aww, my now 15 year old daughter used to be mad keen on Halloween! Embrace the enthusiasm for life while it lasts Grin

3CustardCreams · 31/07/2024 01:14

Halloween is probably my favourite holiday - I have honestly such wonderful childhood memories of Halloween parties with my school friends going out trick or treating and a few early at home fireworks. The crisp autumn days and evenings .. it’s my favourite time of year.

pollymere · 31/07/2024 01:09

Aww. My DC would get all dressed up and go out with friends at that age... The following year they felt too old. Enjoy the dressing up and pumpkin carving whilst you can!

ZenNudist · 30/07/2024 19:16

Not bratty behaviour. Fair preference. Go a different time of year. February in Dubai instead?

Can you get a family member to stay and go on a mini break with your partner instead? You could still go to Turkey if you wanted then!

BoredAuditor · 30/07/2024 18:57

OK, so Halloween is on a Thursday this year. I'd be tempted to fly out Friday and return morning of Halloween. Love Holidays is very easy to do different dates etc.

LostTheMarble · 30/07/2024 18:48

Lulu1919 · 30/07/2024 18:31

Will the hotel be doing something Halloweeny ?
At that age they do as they are told
Missing a weeks holiday for one day ...well Evening is batty 🦇

Have you read the thread? One child is autistic and the op has a back history of posting about her abusive partner. These poor kids don’t want to be stuck with him in the UK never mind a road where they can’t get away from him at all.

jackstini · 30/07/2024 18:39

Why don't you compromise and go for a short break somewhere sunny 26-30 Oct, but be back so they can go trick or treating?

Temperatures in south Turkey are ok then, but unless you have heated pools they are fricking freezing and you won't be able to use them!

Lulu1919 · 30/07/2024 18:31

Will the hotel be doing something Halloweeny ?
At that age they do as they are told
Missing a weeks holiday for one day ...well Evening is batty 🦇

wooda180 · 30/07/2024 18:27

I'd rather have Halloween in the UK than a week in turkey. I love Halloween and hate resorts and the heat would make it so much worse for me too. They're allowed to have a preference just as you are but in the end your the parent so if you decide you're going then you're going

ThisRedLion · 30/07/2024 18:06

You go to Turkey and leave your kids with a family member if your able 12 and 14 not really a choice for them....

Mummadeze · 30/07/2024 17:50

I booked Tenerife last October half term and my autistic DD was gutted because of Halloween. I felt terrible. There were actually loads of Halloween celebrations in the hotel which was amazing, but she would rather have been trick or treating locally with her friends. I will never make that mistake again as the holiday was meant to be nice for her at the end of the day.

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 30/07/2024 11:18

I don't think OP's coming back after being soundly told calling her children brats is uncalled for, especially the fact one is autistic, and her previous threads being found...

Daisy12Maisie · 30/07/2024 08:57

I actually had a horrendous time in turkey last summer. My son picked up a bug and was ill for the whole holiday and several weeks when we got home. An absolute waste of money.
I just wouldn't go if I was you. It's not the right time if the kids are at the ages where they don't want to go. In a few years you can just go away without them.

Crysti · 29/07/2024 22:44

Createausername1970 · 29/07/2024 17:19

And here's your answer OP.

Your "brattish" ND 12 year old that sees the world his way, would appear to be seeing it a very good way.

Some of the comments on here are harsh, but if what you have previously posted is true, why aren't you doing something about improving their situation rather than trying to enforce something that might be very far from what most of us would class as a "family holiday"

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Jesus it gets worse

OP what the hell are you at? And to call them brats for not wanting to go!

Crysti · 29/07/2024 22:43

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 29/07/2024 16:31

Well, no wonder. Quite a bit of missing info!

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Oh ffs 🤦‍♀️ any wonder they don’t want to go!!!

Crysti · 29/07/2024 22:41

Just read the updates from other posters. Brats? Really?

VickyEadieofThigh · 29/07/2024 21:44

HappierTimesAhead · 29/07/2024 20:14

What is the point of these threads? @amyjane1989 did you really expect everyone to agree with you and say oh yeah your kids are such brats and you are amazing for dragging them on a cheap AI holiday in October?

...with your unpleasant partner, who is abusive towards your kids and you, whom you've previously said you want to leave but can't afford to.

HappierTimesAhead · 29/07/2024 20:14

What is the point of these threads? @amyjane1989 did you really expect everyone to agree with you and say oh yeah your kids are such brats and you are amazing for dragging them on a cheap AI holiday in October?

tuvamoodyson · 29/07/2024 20:00

Starlight1979 · 29/07/2024 14:17

My family and friends are shocked by their decision

What have your friends and family got to do with anything? Why have you told them? And why would they even be bothered??? If one of my friends told me her (teen) children didn't want to go on holiday with her I don't think I'd be "shocked" 😂

Me neither…I couldn’t even raise an eyebrow!

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