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Do you play music in public? WHY?

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Grau · 29/07/2024 12:31

Today me and DCs have gone to a local beauty spot by the river. It's really peaceful, usually a few people having picnics and kids paddling and that's it. Today a family has set up near us and is playing music very loudly. For me it really spoils the vibe of being outside with just the sound of the breeze and the water. I've noticed this on the beach too. The worst was someone setting up a big speaker on some rocks in a spot of absolute staggering beauty abroad where everyone else was talking quietly and snorkeling. I just don't get it. I'd genuinely like to hear from those who do this, some of you must be here. Do you think because you like the music, others will too? Do you think it sets a nice energy and that everyone else will be thankful/enjoy it? Do you just not care as long as you have what you want?

YABU - it's not a problem
YANBU - it's antisocial and/or selfish
(Edited by MNHQ at request of OP)

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Isittimeformynapyet · 29/07/2024 12:45

Grau · 29/07/2024 12:44

I have! And I can't edit. Or reply to people.

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TonyeKnausgaard · 29/07/2024 12:45

In general, I strongly agree with you. I wouldn't say every single public place as some are either so isolated or so busy that it makes no odds. But most of the time, it's jarring and unpleasant.

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Grau · 29/07/2024 12:45

Octavia64 · 29/07/2024 12:42

Yes.

I'm in a band and yesterday we played for two hours at the bandstand.

It was a lovely concert if a bit hot....

A band playing at a bandstand is a bit different. People come for the music. Being forced to listen to someone's shit music through a tinny Bluetooth speaker though...

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GenAvocadoOnToast · 29/07/2024 12:45

EmeraldRoulette · 29/07/2024 12:43

@GenAvocadoOnToast how did you not tell him to switch it off? That would drive me nuts. And I’d have to ask whyyyyyy!

I don't know, I just felt awkward I guess as we were in the getting to know each other stage. I did ask him a few times to change the music though as it was a particularly abrasive genre.

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Grau · 29/07/2024 12:44

KreedKafer · 29/07/2024 12:42

I think you might have your YABU and YANBU the wrong way round?

Either way, I agree playing music in public like that on the beach, in a park, at a beauty spot etc is antisocial. It's just as antisocial as playing music through phone speakers on public transport. I don't have any problem with being able to hear music drifting over from neighbours' gardens occasionally - everyone's entitled to host a barbecue in their own garden now and again - but it's just shitty behaviour to turn up at a public space and act like you own it by playing your choice of music.

I have! And I can't edit. Or reply to people.

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EmeraldRoulette · 29/07/2024 12:43

@GenAvocadoOnToast how did you not tell him to switch it off? That would drive me nuts. And I’d have to ask whyyyyyy!

KreedKafer · 29/07/2024 12:42

I think you might have your YABU and YANBU the wrong way round?

Either way, I agree playing music in public like that on the beach, in a park, at a beauty spot etc is antisocial. It's just as antisocial as playing music through phone speakers on public transport. I don't have any problem with being able to hear music drifting over from neighbours' gardens occasionally - everyone's entitled to host a barbecue in their own garden now and again - but it's just shitty behaviour to turn up at a public space and act like you own it by playing your choice of music.

Octavia64 · 29/07/2024 12:42

Yes.

I'm in a band and yesterday we played for two hours at the bandstand.

It was a lovely concert if a bit hot....

GenAvocadoOnToast · 29/07/2024 12:41

I dated a man briefly who seemed like a really nice guy, very sweet and considerate. One of our dates was a picnic in a park and I was horrified when he took out a bluetooth speaker and started playing music. I died a bit inside, especially when he went to the loo and I was left on my own looking like a twat who plays music in public spaces.

In his case it seemed like he was someone who was very uncomfortable without music. Every time I went to his house he had to have music on in the background. When he came to my house he would ask if we could put music on. It's one of the main reasons I ended it because, despite being musical myself, having to listen to music constantly does my head in.

EmeraldRoulette · 29/07/2024 12:41

Your poll is confusing

but I hate it when people do this.

NoraLuka · 29/07/2024 12:41

I hate music outside in nature, it ruins it and makes it feel like a shopping centre or something. I’m interested to know why people do this. The only exception is if I’m running, then it’s nice to have a podcast or music but always with headphones. I’ve noticed other runners and cyclists playing music without headphones, maybe it’s a safety thing?

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Grau · 29/07/2024 12:40

Grau · 29/07/2024 12:31

Today me and DCs have gone to a local beauty spot by the river. It's really peaceful, usually a few people having picnics and kids paddling and that's it. Today a family has set up near us and is playing music very loudly. For me it really spoils the vibe of being outside with just the sound of the breeze and the water. I've noticed this on the beach too. The worst was someone setting up a big speaker on some rocks in a spot of absolute staggering beauty abroad where everyone else was talking quietly and snorkeling. I just don't get it. I'd genuinely like to hear from those who do this, some of you must be here. Do you think because you like the music, others will too? Do you think it sets a nice energy and that everyone else will be thankful/enjoy it? Do you just not care as long as you have what you want?

YABU - it's not a problem
YANBU - it's antisocial and/or selfish
(Edited by MNHQ at request of OP)

I DID MY YANBU AND YABU THE WRONG WAY ROUND HAHA and now I can't edit it.

YABU - it's not a problem
YANBU it's antisocial and/or selfish

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Notcontent · 29/07/2024 12:40

I would love to know the answer to that question!

I actually think there should be more laws regarding this kind of thing. Noise is a type of pollution.

TomatoSandwiches · 29/07/2024 12:40

It is antisocial, the only time I think playing music in public is ok is if you're busking.

Why is it always really shite music as well?

ThatSnappyPlumBear · 29/07/2024 12:39

It’s massively anti-social but the majority of people are only interested in themselves.

Thatsfrenchforstopahorse · 29/07/2024 12:38

No. Because I’m not a bellend.

Elphame · 29/07/2024 12:38

People are not being brought up with consideration for others any more and it can only get worse.

I'm out in the garden at the moment listening to the neighbours children screeching, grass cutting going on across the road (he uses a strimmer for a large patch of grass so it's a couple of hours twice a week at the moment) and other neighbours playing some radio station loud enough for me to hear every inane word from 100 yds away.

My dog has just started barking at a passing horse. I was going to call her over to me to be quiet but thought fuck it. No one has any consideration for me. Let her bark.

BabySnarkDoDoo · 29/07/2024 12:35

YANBU. Likewise people who have their headphones turned up so loud they may as well be not wearing them. I have one regular customer who keeps asking me to repeat myself, as he can't hear what I'm saying because he's playing his music so loud through his earbuds. I've politely asked him to turn the music down, as I'm sure the other customers don't want to hear it either, but he takes no notice. Some people are very entitled.

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