Do you play music in public? WHY?

Oh god, eating misophonia, I sympathise!

Erm, I think so, pretty much. He was very nice and very attractive but I knew it was a case of, love me, love my shit music so the butterflies never developed.

Totally annoying. I’m in Portugal on holiday and we went canoeing down a river. A young couple arrived at the same time to start down the river and got in their canoe with a massive Bluetooth speaker. I died a little inside.Can’t think of anything worse than having to listen to any kind of music being played whilst I’m in the middle of the countryside doing something calm and peaceful. It’s just a reflection of a very selfish state of mind.

We have music on during mealtimes at home (unless we have houseguests) as I have misophonia and can’t bear the sound of chewing (it makes me feel very stabby 😂). However, I wouldn’t need it outside and nor would I want to disturb others with my music.

Was it just because of this that he was briefly a boyfriend?

Also in rural Portugal the month of August is considered a party month, and they broadcast music and local sermons live from the churches for hours, for the whole valley to enjoy. (I grew up with this and felt a mix of amusement and annoyance)

It’s selfish and always bloody awful music.

One thing I can’t stand are a couple of households back of my flats who play crap music til the small hours. I know it’s actually illegal but these people have no consideration for those who go to bed early - the young, the elderly, those who need to wake up early and the sick.

I think in certain settings where there's a party atmosphere, and everyone attending such setting / within ear shot is there for the party / accepts this is a party-atmosphere situation it is ok. If it is not an obvious party-type situation, then no.

We once visited a stunning remote lake in a very non-touristy mountain area in Portugal, which had a lovely cafe on the lake, which unfortunately was blaring techno music. (we were the only ones there)

Ah, that'll be it - never flown with Jet2.
You haven't sold it to me!

This really pulls my chain. How dare people assume that I want to hear their bloody music?

There is a sweet little place by a river near here where I go with my family to chill out and paddle. One day an idiot couple arrived with their ghetto blaster - unbelievable. My 14 year old GS was the most irate - and he makes a fair amount of din at home, but is sensible and civilized enough to know you do not impose this on others.

Another bugbear of mine is builders with their bloody loud radios. Is it not possible to lay one brick on top of another without disturbing the entire neighbourhood with noise?

@tribalmango , if you go on any TUI/Jet2 flight, the planes are absolutely full of people allowing their children to do as they please. It drives me mad.

Gosh, I've never seen that. Air stewards are pretty hot on antisocial behaviour on the flights I've been on.

I think people should feel more confident to confront the people playing music and ask them to turn it down/off. People play music or watch videos loudly on the bus so often here and no one says anything, they just quietly seeth or exchange glances. If people know that they'll be asked to turn it off whenever they play public music then eventually they'll realise it's culturally socially unacceptable

I am more annoyed if it's playing out of a phone rather than a speaker. It's far more grating and intrusive.

It also bothers me massively on planes, when people allow their children to sit there with their ipads on full volume. Just bring headphones. So so rude!!

I ask every person to turn them right down, and I continue to bother them until they do.

On my most recent flight, I got an ear full from one family so I turned on my music and just played it right next to their head until they turned their child's Netflix down.

Rude people need to be confronted.

There is a special place in hell for these people that foist their shit music on innocent bystanders especially in beauty spot. This includes watching reels. If you can afford a smartphone you can afford headphones.

Live music granted isn’t quite as bad but not exempt. A table of a choir started singing at a restaurant we were at in Rome it was actually quite annoying

I remember going to a party at a picnic spot out in the hills and the host did play some music quietly. It was a big area so easy for each group to get some peace. But in general, YANBU. People can enjoy their music through headphones.

Our local bin men like to treat the neighbourhood to a quick blast of something that isn’t very family-friendly. The last song I remember was The Bad Touch by The Bloodhound Gang. It makes me smile actually.

I initially thought you were talking about taking instruments out and playing them in public. I was thinking I'd have no problems with a family bringing out their guitars and having a little sing song. But I realise you are probably referring to Spotify and speakers in which case - only acceptable at the beach (I don't mind it out the beach), every where else absolutely no way. Not everyone has the same taste and it is rude to enforce your choice of music onto other people.

So:
Live music - YABU
Phone&speakers - YANBU

Do you just not care as long as you have what you want?

Based on a lot of the responses about children screaming outside I think many people just don't care about others any more.

Drives me nuts

I was looking at a cool bag yesterday with a built in bluetooth speaker and thinking why

Went to the beach yesterday and loads of people around us had speakers with them playing music loudly. It all just blended into one noise. Very disrespectful and entitled. Don’t get me stared on all the smokers around us and people setting up their blankets right next to us. We were there first and then suddenly surrounded but all this. We had a large group next to us who were standing on our blanket and my kids swimming costumes. I said, excuse me I need our swimming costumes. They didn’t move so then I started to pull the swimming costumes, still didn’t move so I had to pull them really hard to get them back!! I said can you move you are on our stuff- still no action from them. I got so angry I started shaking our sandy towels on them-still no reaction from them! Fucking idiots. When my kids came back from the sea to pour water in the moat they had built around their sand castle, the moat was filled with their rubbish! Anyway there should be designated areas for for speakers, smokers and idiots

Poll options were initially confusing and I voted the wrong option - however YANBU I strongly hate people who play their own music in unexpected places (I.e beach, park etc) and I’m glad other people agree as DH thinks I am unreasonable.

The world is an increasingly crowded place. Some people might love to sit and listen to music with friends by a river. You're right that there's a balance to be struck between doing it reasonably and doing it too loudly.

I think it depends on the music.
If its crap then it irritates me.

Absolutely bloody hate it!! A neighbour a few doors down plays shit music so loud I can hear it boom booming when it’s sunny. If I wanted to hear fking music, I’d have my own on - why would I want to hear their shit?