My DD is 11 and is becoming quite extreme in her planning and timekeeping, it seems to be getting worse.
A few examples would be that when I switch her lights off at night, she’ll decide they should go off at 9.22 and if I go up 2 minutes early she will get extremely upset.
As soon as she gets up in a morning, she will run through her plan of the day with me, and is becoming increasingly less flexible if it changes, I have been trying to counteract it with telling her my plans for the day so we can try and fit them around each other, for example she’ll set certain for screen time, shower time, what time she’ll get into her pyjamas etc. All resulting in getting very upset if they can’t be done at her specific time.
if she wants her hair doing in a certain way, she will tell me the day before - over and over and also sending messages to ask if I can do it.
Being late also, if she’s late or doesn’t know what time she’ll be home from her Dads house she will voice note me apologizing and crying about it…I always try to reassure her that it’s fine.
Does this sound like anxiety and how do others cope with it? What do you do to try and make your dc less anxious surrounding this kind of thing? Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated as it’s really starting to cause me and her a lot of stress.