Have you ever dropped a friend?

Yes.
And i didn't give a reason why because it was past that point. If I had thought it useful to give a reason why, then I wouldn't have dropped the friendship.
I knew if I gave a reason why it would just have looked like it was up for discussion, and one of the big issues with this friend was lack of respect for boundaries.
I'd been friends with her for 10 years so it was hard but I haven't spoken to her for 4 years now and yes my life is better for it.
She took up so much of my mental energy and absolutely wouldn't respect my boundaries. It was like a weight was lifted off me when I finally blocked her on all channels.

No I haven't, because I've never been in a position where I would allow myself to be treated like that long term. I'm a good friend and would give someone a by-ball once or twice (depending on the circumstances), but if someone treated me very badly I'd have no issue in telling them to fuck off and never contact me again.

Yes I did. Friend of nearly 40 years. We were very different and had completely opposite outlooks on life. My friend was very needy, whereas I'm not. She was focused on money, i couldn't give shit, plus lots more. It all just got a bit too much, so I had to move on for my MH. No regrets here, put myself first for once.

Yes college friend of 20 years,no regrets at all.

Exactly, I feel the same. I distanced myself when I realised I was essentially her personal therapist, and being used. She was selfish, and many others had the same issue unfortunately.

A few - one because I realised that they made me feel like an option rather than a priority . Always very busy , always apparently in demand - was also very guarded and didn't like to let you too close yet wanted to know everything about you . Realised after that she was a very jealous, insecure person who was impossible to be friends with unless you accepted her definition of friendship .

A second because she was plain rude and selfish . Could talk for hours about herself and her life and expected advice and answers - yet never asked a question about my life !

A few who I realised I had little in common with .

I used to envy the people who had big friendship groups but now I realise most of them don't even like each other and true friendship is much rarer .

Yes. Both have good hearts but one is exhausting, gossips non stop about her interactions or other people (“you know her, she was xyz 😴 🙄)
and the other is weirdly competitive, has no filter and can be really rude. Unburdened and peaceful without it all.

Yes a friend I knew from childhood till our twenties. She moved to NZ after uni, but used to visit her family here every few years and insisted we should meet up. If i refused. she'd get sarcastic and rude.

It took me years, YEARS!! to realise that she was still that rude 11 year old whenever she didn't get her way.

We lead very different lives and had little in common. And I no longer give fucks about hurting someone who doesn't care about my feelings.

I blocked her on FB and WhatsApp. That was a few years ago. No regrets!!

Well done!

Yes I have and it hurt a lot at first but my life is better now. If you feel hurt, just remember why you made the decision.

I dropped a friend because she was so unreliable. She asked if we could try again, I agreed, but her behaviour didn't change, she was actually worse. I dropped her again. I often think about her, hoping that she's ok.

Yes. I met someone who moved in same social circles and we got on well so our friendship evolved.

It was in lockdown I started noticing a few things that annoyed me about her. It came to a head on a girls weekend away with a group of us which she monopolised and made it all about her. We had words on the train home and haven’t spoken since.

After that she bumped into my twatty ex a few times and posted selfies hanging round his neck smirking at the camera. I couldn’t care less about the pair of them but I know it was a deliberate FU.

I crossed paths with her a few months ago and she tried to say hello - I just walked past her. I don’t miss her at all - I realised how much negativity she created.

Yes, but never in a dramatic way - more just privately deciding to downgrade the friendship. I have also been dropped by a friend who, in retrospect, had dropped all her previous friends every time she made a fresh start. It still came as a surprise, which reflects poorly on my judgement!

Couldn't finish your post because it was incomprehensible. Sorry.

Yes after she continually sided with her awful awful awful boyfriend. He's a totally useless cheater, lazy, sponging arsewipe who would hit on me when she left the room. I came to her with proof he was cheating and she told me I was jealous of their love 🙄😂 There was a lot of other stuff as well as we'd been friends since we were teenagers, but that's what broke it in the end. All of our friends had fallen out with her at least once by this point, I was the last holdout.

They're still together, he's still useless, probably still trying to get his leg over anything that moves. I bear no ill will towards her, but my life is better without her (and by proxy, him) in it.

im avoiding a neighbour,not lived here long she completely comes over the road everytime i come in the car/am in my front garden,when i walk my dog she appears and fetches her dog, asks me to go round for drinks,must be early and have to stay till very late/they brag about everything they have bought from the car to the cost of a tin of paint,they both work, some days she has to trvel for work texts me night before saying she has left me her door ket let the dog in their back garden at dinner time, so last few times i have been out had to come back specially to let dog out,they have fake grass it wont wee on it, i was fuming,so said im not letting dog out again,she complained it wasnt fair on her dog,she texts a lot about the neighbours , so im guessing i will be on the slagging off list now,just think of your self lose a friend if its not working for you

One friend who was quite high maintenance, same rounds of problems year after year, with no appreciation that if you do the same shit, you get the same results.
Stopped the car and asked her to get out, Never heard of or seen since.
Probably about 12 years ago now, and I'd probably known her about that length of time when it happened.
Think of her from time to time, hope that she's OK, but generally very freeing.

Yes and I have no regrets.

It feels great to be free from them both
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One was taking over and trying to control my life - I could barely make my own decisions or manage my own time without them telling me how I should do it.

The other was actually also a family member which has made it more tricky, but I'm still happy they're no longer part of my life.

2 in my entire life.
One of them literally same monologue about her life for decades.
Other was a nasty drunk who also used to put shite comments on Facebook. She popped up in my life a few years later thanks to my then teen daughter but managed to drop her again.

I wouldn't say dropped but friendships do sometimes run their course. I had a friend who I had been very supportive of when she was dealing with problems, helped her out looking after her dd, provided a shoulder to cry on etc. Turns out she wasn't the sort of friend to reciprocate and couldn't even be bothered to send a message to check I was ok when going through tough times of my own. I saw her for who she really was and decided she wasn't really for me anymore and just drifted away from her. She pops up every now and again when she wants something.

Yes I dropped lots after divorce.
Some I realised were just bullies and I've never looked back. So so pleased to be away from them.

Yes a few

One stole off me

One didn't pay me back

I got dropped by a good (not best) friend during covid by her returning a birthday gift with a note basically saying because I didn’t pay enough attention to her during covid our friendship was over… and she was sure I had other friends to replace her. what she didn’t/doesn’t know was I was going though diagnosis for a lifelong condition during that time and couldn’t take on anyone else’s issues, and I didn’t think it fair to overburden others with my personal issues. Getting the note and returned gift was emotionally destroying, I wish she hadn’t. I wish she had kept the little gift and just never bothered to contact me again.

@asruralasitgets , you know the answer. Does she add anything to your life ? Move on and find a friendship that’s a two way thing. Life is too short .