AIBU by people's reactions.

Just no.
I would not have kids forego their Christmas presents to help fund a family holiday

A PP advanced searched the ages of the kids and they are about 1 and 4.

OP has not told us the age of the children. Which makes a difference I think as to how some people would feel.

Is this a reverse and @ZebraGiraffe12 is the irate grandmama?

OP has more brass neck than the tin man, even without the additional deets about the kids' ages and the husband's humungous salary.

so many typo I’m on a phone

YABU. Graspy and controlling. You want the monies intended for the children to be spent collectively benefiting the adults
If you want a fancy holiday paid for who,e family group inspection yku, then you work more or if you can’t afford that exact holiday reconsider your expectation & budget. You cannot reassign monies intended solely for the kids to be siphoned off to benefit whole group inc adults
Frankly I’d give you heehaw if you made that request to me

Thanks, I guessed the S was Search, but no idea what the A was for.

Thank you.

Haha I can just imagine what kind of reaction I'd get if I said to my MIL that I wanted cash for a summer holiday instead of Xmas presents for the kids. I don't think she'd speak to me again.

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We decided last year to stop doing adult Christmas presents amongst family (not even money) but it was never in question that we would stop doing presents for the children.

I understand your logic, but there's something a bit miserly about asking family to fund a family holiday instead of giving presents to your children at Christmas.

Perhaps it depends on the age. Younger seems more miserly, older less so.

Either way though, you can't dictate whether your MIL chooses to spend HER money on a gift for her grandchildren instead of giving it to you to pay for your family holiday.

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What is AS and how does it work?

Yeah, wouldn’t be paying for someone else’s holiday. Good luck with that.

One of the many lessons we have taught our children is not to expect or dictate what and when people should buy presents . Especially not to ask for money.
A gift is simple that . A choice someone has made . You are taking that choice away . You sound spoilt .
Save for a holiday like everyone else does . And apologies to your mil

your 1 year old and 4 year old decided they wanted to forego presents and spend the money on a family holiday instead....right.

At that age you can wrap up a 2nd hand present in paper and they would be happy with the concept of opening something.

You sound so entitled asking people for money instead of presents. You don't want presents? Fair enough ask for no presents or for people to donate the money to charity...but to donate the money to you? How cheeky.

When 92% of voters tell you that you are being unreasonable, take heed.

You are being incredibly unreasonable, @ZebraGiraffe12 - you don’t get to dictate what people give you, or get angry because they won’t give you cash. And if, as a pp said, you have a combined income of £142,000, you can afford your own holidays!

How old are these kids? I've seen people suggesting they're 1 and 4, which appears nowhere in the OP. If they're teenagers and have freely agreed to this, that's a bit different.

BUT - you've no right to dictate to others, especially grandparents, what they can and can't give withr egard to Xmas gifts.

I’m a grandmother and I’d find it really difficult, to not give my grandchildren anything for Christmas. A gift is voluntary and whilst you can make suggestions, you can’t dictate what they should do unfortunately, as nice of an idea as it was

1. Neither you nor your children are entitled to Xmas gifts off anyone so it's presumptous of you to think you can tell anyone what to give them as a present. I'd never tell someone what I wanted for Xmas unless they specifically asked me.
2. Your preschool children are not responsible for paying for your family holiday and asking your parents to pay towards it is not a gift to them. You're just asking for a handout which is entitled af.

Hold on you want your family to fund your summer holiday?!
Fair enough if as an immediate family with the DC you decide to only do token gifts and go on holiday instead but you can't expect other people to fund it in lieu of buying your children presents! If you want to take your children away it's your job as parents to fund it

You can’t dictate what others do.

You can suggest no presents for adults and reduce what you buy but you can’t dictate what other people do.

At 1 and 4 you can buy Christmas presents for your children very cheapily. You can try suggesting events and family passes from family members so you save more money on entertainment through the year but this doesn’t go down well with my MIL who likes to give stuff (which takes of space but gwts forgotten about).

I didn’t see the ages at all in the OP, and assumed older kids who don’t want toys!