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The standards of being nice is commonly lower between siblings

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NoOtter · 28/07/2024 12:47

I have noticed that a lot of things that are borderline mean is considered okay to say or do to siblings while it is not considered appropriate to do to anyone else. Have any of you noticed this or is it just me? Can anyone explain this weird phenomenon?

For example it is considered normal for a dc to call her sibling greedy when she gets extra food while if said dc said the same thing in a similar situation to a friend, the dc would likely get told off.

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MrsPinkSky · 28/07/2024 12:56

How does it need explaining? Confused

You don't choose your siblings, you may even hate your siblings.

You do choose your friends and you tend not to hate them.

Or have I misunderstood and you're asking something else?

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NoOtter · 28/07/2024 12:54

Crazycatlady79 · 28/07/2024 12:53

If I hear either of my twins being mean to the other, I step in only if they're not able to resolve it themselves.

Would you consider them being mean to each other more okay then if they are being mean to someone else lets say a friend?

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ByCupidStunt · 28/07/2024 12:54

Did you nab the biggest chicken portion for yourself 😉

Crazycatlady79 · 28/07/2024 12:53

If I hear either of my twins being mean to the other, I step in only if they're not able to resolve it themselves.

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NoOtter · 28/07/2024 12:52

Malahide · 28/07/2024 12:51

It is not a weird phenomenon. Boundaries between family are far more relaxed as bonds are through blood and therefore (most of the time) stronger.

The thing is, I can also see this in siblings that are not close.

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Malahide · 28/07/2024 12:51

It is not a weird phenomenon. Boundaries between family are far more relaxed as bonds are through blood and therefore (most of the time) stronger.

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NoOtter · 28/07/2024 12:51

Personally I don't think it's closeness as siblings are not always close but yet the standards of politeness is still different. In fact sometimes it can be considered bullying if done to anyone else.

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