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Made a fool of my self tonight and now I feel so low

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passwordrequired · 27/07/2024 22:29

Oh I need to just write this down to calm down. I love on a fairly long street and it's a quiet area all people are lovely.

We have this one guy who lives on the road who is a pain I've had run ins with past. He drives up and down it at 60 miles per hour on a 20 mph road. (School on the road)

My kids I darent let them out on the front to play just incase he's bombing it down the street. He's always got police at his door or arguing.

Last night 3 am and then at 4.30am he's fighting in the front with his dad. I had no sleep because of this.

Then around 8pm tonight he's arguing driving recklessly way above the limit. My little girl got upset because the cars are so loud.

Any way he pulled back up got out of his car and I went over lost my shit. Said it was unbearablle.

He threatened to batter me and I had half the street watching.
My husband is mr nice guy and didn't get involved much. My next door neighbour was sticking up and saying she has young. Children and it's unbearable.

It was resolved in the end he said sorry but I feel so ashamed that I was so hot headed and got angry and all the street were watching,

Some of the ladies on the street said good on me for doing it.

But I just feel like a complete nutter now.

Why did I react like that 😔😔

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WalksInTheSunshine · 27/07/2024 22:38

Feeling low and like a nutter? Certainly not. High five!

TheFlis · 27/07/2024 22:38

Good for you! He is the one who should be mortified at his behaviour.

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 27/07/2024 22:37

Hey, that’s impressive - maybe he’ll calm down a bit now. You’ve nothing to be embarrassed about at all!

passwordrequired · 27/07/2024 22:36

No my husband it the let's be every one's friend I ended up losing my shit with him as well . He's a different problem lol.

Reading your replies I feel better. Very anxious person mixed with hot headed and firey and I lost it lol. Took me every thing not to strangle him lol

When I had my daughter 7 years ago he was doing this and I had no sleep for months and lost my head then so this is how long it's been going on for years.

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mathanxiety · 27/07/2024 22:35

Nobody enjoys confrontation with an unpleasant or aggressive person, but it seems you came away with a win there.

Reframe this - you had the guts, for whatever reason - to do what umpteen other people should have done years ago.

You might have made enough of an impression on him that he won't run over someone else's child now. At the very least, he can't say nobody warned him about his recklessness.

Pat yourself on the back.

HappierTimesAhead · 27/07/2024 22:33

Good for you!

Shockvote · 27/07/2024 22:33

Yeah, you’re definitely the one in the wrong here, not the person making an absolute racket who threatened to batter you, or your husband who didn’t get involved after someone had threatened to batter you.

Motherrr · 27/07/2024 22:32

Doesn't sound like you're the nutter. 60mph in 20mph zone...and your husband barely said anything to stick up for you??

Flibflobflibflob · 27/07/2024 22:32

Nah I would have been cheering you on (probably would have joined in with a “er well, you are a pain in the ass” to the bloke and then hid behind you) your husband should have had your back though. Lets be honest you said what a lot of your neighbours were thinking.