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Made a fool of my self tonight and now I feel so low

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passwordrequired · 27/07/2024 22:29

Oh I need to just write this down to calm down. I love on a fairly long street and it's a quiet area all people are lovely.

We have this one guy who lives on the road who is a pain I've had run ins with past. He drives up and down it at 60 miles per hour on a 20 mph road. (School on the road)

My kids I darent let them out on the front to play just incase he's bombing it down the street. He's always got police at his door or arguing.

Last night 3 am and then at 4.30am he's fighting in the front with his dad. I had no sleep because of this.

Then around 8pm tonight he's arguing driving recklessly way above the limit. My little girl got upset because the cars are so loud.

Any way he pulled back up got out of his car and I went over lost my shit. Said it was unbearablle.

He threatened to batter me and I had half the street watching.
My husband is mr nice guy and didn't get involved much. My next door neighbour was sticking up and saying she has young. Children and it's unbearable.

It was resolved in the end he said sorry but I feel so ashamed that I was so hot headed and got angry and all the street were watching,

Some of the ladies on the street said good on me for doing it.

But I just feel like a complete nutter now.

Why did I react like that 😔😔

OP posts:
DrinkUpBabyDown · 27/07/2024 23:19

You didn't mention clapping but I assume the whole neighbourhood clapped.

Sheelanogig · 27/07/2024 23:19

I think if you are the type of person who rarely loses their shit with people (especially people you don't know that well), it kind of shocks you.

You lost your shit at someone who deserved it.

Just act friendly but not overboard when you next see him. You hold your head up high. He's an arse, you aren't.

I bet your neighbours were secretly cheering you on.

Colinthecaterpillarstrikesagain · 27/07/2024 23:19

You behaved like a responsible adult asking a fast driver to slow down and quieten down.

I would think the neighbours are very happy to have you as their neighbour and hopefully it will give them confidence to speak up and/or report him the next time and every other time he drives dangerously on your road.

AzureAnt · 27/07/2024 23:19

Well.done. Shame the men of the street, including your DH, ,didn't rally round and threaten to paste him. I would reporting his behaviour to the police. He WILL kill someone (preferably himself) if he carries on

BlackShuck3 · 27/07/2024 23:19

Good on you OP!
He said sorry, you got him to accept that he is in the wrong. You faced up to this horrible aggressive person & he backed down.
You won.

Persiancouscous · 27/07/2024 23:18

Buttercupsandpoppys · 27/07/2024 23:11

An aggressive drunk man threatened to batter you and your DP did... Nothing?!

That's unforgivable for me and I wouldn't be able to look at him the same again. It would probably signify the end to be honest.

The last thing I'd be worried about would be looking like an idiot to neighbours and more about the coward I had sleeping in my bed.

He threatened to batter you! Your DP did nothing! It's not being a 'nice guy' it's actually being a selfish coward to the point he'd rather his wife potentially get assaulted than him put himself at potential risk of harm. Hiding behind the guise of being nice.

You can do better!!

Would you say the same if DH confronted a woman and then when he was threatened to get battered, you would expect the wife to jump in? Very odd.

seethingmess · 27/07/2024 23:17

Well done for trying to do something about protecting the people on your street. I'd have a think about your DH not having your back though. That's not what you need in life.

Justrolledmyeyesoutloud · 27/07/2024 23:16

I expect you are their hero op - well done for saying something xx

Tigergirl80 · 27/07/2024 23:16

All that built up frustration has come out at once. He sounds a bit self indulgent. He probably doesn't realising how much of a nuisance he is.

Wingedharpy · 27/07/2024 23:16

Well done @passwordrequired .
I think you're awesome and I'd bet good money that most of your neighbours think you are too.

itsmylife7 · 27/07/2024 23:13

You had the "red rage" Well done and feel proud you've stood up to this arsehole.

Take note of his car make and reg number for future use with his drink driving.

Adviceneeeeded · 27/07/2024 23:12

Wish more would stick up for what's right. Well done @passwordrequired

PizzaPastaWine · 27/07/2024 23:11

Report the drink driving to CrimeStoppers. They will provide the information to police.

If he's actively drink driving at that moment in time call 999 with his registration number.

Buttercupsandpoppys · 27/07/2024 23:11

An aggressive drunk man threatened to batter you and your DP did... Nothing?!

That's unforgivable for me and I wouldn't be able to look at him the same again. It would probably signify the end to be honest.

The last thing I'd be worried about would be looking like an idiot to neighbours and more about the coward I had sleeping in my bed.

He threatened to batter you! Your DP did nothing! It's not being a 'nice guy' it's actually being a selfish coward to the point he'd rather his wife potentially get assaulted than him put himself at potential risk of harm. Hiding behind the guise of being nice.

You can do better!!

sprigatito · 27/07/2024 23:09

passwordrequired · 27/07/2024 22:36

No my husband it the let's be every one's friend I ended up losing my shit with him as well . He's a different problem lol.

Reading your replies I feel better. Very anxious person mixed with hot headed and firey and I lost it lol. Took me every thing not to strangle him lol

When I had my daughter 7 years ago he was doing this and I had no sleep for months and lost my head then so this is how long it's been going on for years.

I would have done the same as you - stood up to him, looked and sounded fierce and assertive - then gone indoors and curled up in a ball with embarrassment and horror 😂

It will pass. Do things that soothe you and restore your sense of normality. You've done nothing wrong Flowers

PaminaMozart · 27/07/2024 23:09

Watchwatchmymysteedsteedgogofarfar · 27/07/2024 22:50

I am so anxious I think in your position id go round to his when he's sober and try and make friends with him/laugh it off so that in future it may be possible to tell him of again and he'll accept it (may be wishful thinking but that's how I've gotten around irritating people in the past. Kill with kindness)

Are you mad? I hope you are getting/planning to get treatment for your anxiety...

Mnk711 · 27/07/2024 23:08

Drink driving? Threatened to batter you? Call the police!

You did an absolutely understandable thing. I'd say shame on your husband for not backing you up but the presence of another man seems to escalate conflict sometimes with these kind of nutters.

Itsmecathy87 · 27/07/2024 23:07

Sounds like you were in a protective mummy bear mode!
Good for you!
I've been there, used some harsh words at irresponsible dog walker when dog approached my son. I did feel embarrassed afterwards but no regrets.

Americano75 · 27/07/2024 23:05

I'd have backed you right up if I'd been there. Mind you, I hollered at an old bastard in the road recently when he hit his dog. Total red mist.

SussexLass87 · 27/07/2024 23:04

Why are you beating yourself up? Sounds like he deserved it! Glad the neighbours are supporting you 🙌

2chocolateoranges · 27/07/2024 23:04

Good on you, he’s sounds a complete twat!

sometimes when we get to the end of our tether this is the reaction we have. Seems he needs brought down a peg or two and looks like you were the woman to do it!

however if at any point you think he is drink driving then phone the police.

Echobelly · 27/07/2024 23:04

Hats off to you, you confronted him about his dangerous behaviour and got an apology. And hopefully that's made an impression on him. This wasn't like going off about some trivial thing, he needed to be told and he deserved you being angry.

Normalwahatisnormal · 27/07/2024 23:04

Well done! You sound very brave and astoundingly patient! 😊

NachoChip · 27/07/2024 23:04

You were probably speaking for everyone on the street. I doubt this kind of person would have listened to reason and if he ended.up apologising , maybe that was the tack you needed. I suspect everyone who.witnessed it would have been either sympathetic or grateful, they all know what he's been up to and he will be driving them mad too. Sometimes you've got to lose your shit to stay sane. You stood up for yourself good for you

FairyLightBan · 27/07/2024 23:03

passwordrequired · 27/07/2024 22:47

Thank you all I do feel better for reading the comments. I did say to my children don't react like that 🙈.

I hate it that he just does what he wants when he got close to me he had been drinking so he's drink driving, just an over all scum bag. He gets away with it all time I just lost it

Report the cnut before he kills a child