Made a fool of my self tonight and now I feel so low

Well he must have got the letter that week from the noise dept with a warning, as he never did it again
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Interesting that he backed down so easily in the face of an official letter. This makes me wonder if was on thin ice in some way (LL about to evict him?) such that one wrong move could bring about disaster?

I mean whether it's normal or not is by the by really (although in this rough part of London, it's far from normal).

The point is, we're a team and a family, and we'll always have each other's backs no matter how scary the situation.

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I did similar with a dickhead a few years ago. No-one stood up for me either - just watched from behind their curtains as I confronted him about midnight when he was still noisily working on his car.

He called me a f-ing C word and all sorts.

Am still proud of myself for doing it, though in hindsight he may well have attacked me with his spanners - other people on the street were fed up with him but didnt have the backbone to say anything.

He started the revving up too a couple of years later and I reported him to the council. As luck would have it, I was on the phone outside onto them when he was revving his car up. The council guy said (shouted actually, as I could hardly hear him over the noise) "IS THAT HIM?" "YES! HE IS LIKE THIS ALL THE TIME" I shouted back. Well he must have got the letter that week from the noise dept with a warning, as he never did it again

Well done OP. If more people stood up to these selfish dickheads, they wouldnt dare keep being so vile.

Well done you.. I would and have been the same.. One time one of the binmen outside mine was telling his colleague he was "f.. ng useless and I went out and squared him up, recently some men outside mine were fing and blinding and I went out and said I didn't want to hear it and neither did the children on our road either.
A few years ago I was on the underground with ds2 who is deaf and autistic. He was being a little noisy as he was excited. The man opposite him leant forward and kicked him (not very hard but enough to annoy me).. By the time I finished with the man who I realised was drunk he and the rest of the carriage were silent!!

Would you feel happier if your husband was lying in a hospital or a police cell tonight? What was he supposed to do when you start picking fights with violent idiots? One of you needs an ounce of self-preservation for your kids' sake.

If you are normally quiet your rage will have been even more effective
I agree with this from @Delphiniumandlupins

Maybe.
It was a volatile and unexpected situation, some people dont cope well🤷🏼
And the bloke did back down, maybe the husbands meek & subservient approach was a good tactic at the time?

No you're not a nutter, you're now the street hero. I would probably have done the same tbh or at least loudly backed you up when you and started rowing. Hopefully you got through to the twat

Either all your neighbours will already know that you're a bit feisty or else they will be stunned that you have acted so out of character. If you are normally quiet your rage will have been even more effective. I'm sure your neighbours were cheering you on.

He is an arsehole and you are married to a wimp.

Well done. Let's hope the neighbourhood women can unite to get the neighbour dealt with.

You’ll be the talk of the street for all the right reasons. Hopefully he won’t be such an inconsiderate rude idiot now.

@FuzzyWuzzyWuzABear My husband is the biggest pacifist I've ever met. I genuinely don't think he's ever had a fight in his life, not even at school and he's 57 years old.

That's normal. The overwhelming majority of normal people do everything to avoid fights. Men who get into fights are thugs.

You absolutely did NOT make a fool of yourself! This has been a long time coming! Surely the police would have to come out if he was drink driving?

Contact the police if he's been drink driving!

Otherwise, go you! Well done!

My husband is the biggest pacifist I've ever met. I genuinely don't think he's ever had a fight in his life, not even at school and he's 57 years old.

But there is absolutely NO WAY he would stand by and listen to a man (or a woman) threatening to batter me...no way in the world, even if he was the one who ended up getting battered.

We've been together almost 25 years and during that time, we've both had occasions where we've needed to stick up for each other, even when it was really scary.

Because that's what you do in a marriage. As a partnership/team, you look after each other and have one another's backs. You make each other feel safe.

I genuinely couldn't look at my husband the same way if I was in the OP's position.

He deserved to be told! Well done, you were definitely angry but with very justifiable reason.
Hopefully he'll be more respectful.
You did him a favour not trying to get him evicted or arrested! You've done a good deed to the community.

If you have video evidence of him driving at 60 mph in a 20 mph zone, the police have to take action against that. That's because if he runs over a pedestrian and it transpires that the police never took action against him, they will be in trouble.

Get a CCTV camera and have all of this on record.

This. He's insane.

You definitely didn't make a fool of yourself and I think I probably would have lost it more if some little scrote told me he was gonna batter me lol I'm not saying I'm a hard nut but nothing pisses me off more than a man who thinks he can say that to a woman and she will scurry off like a scared mouse. It probably would be advisable to walk away though because statistically any man would be able to seriously hurt a woman so I am absolutely not advising any woman to square up to an angry bloke lol. My ex husband ran into the house once while I was left outside face to face with a bloke that wanted to kick his head in and tbh looking back I should have let him do it lol god it sounds like I'm always on the street fighting haha I'm really not but fuck any bloke who thinks he can intimidate me just because I'm a woman

I wish I could buy you a big box of chocolates and pat you on the back. You did great girl!

That took some b**ls well done it needed to be said OP. Try not to let it get to you now.

You were amazing and I bet everyone wanted to have a go at him, I'd be annoyed that dh didn't back you up though! If uts been going on 7+ years I'm assuming you've reported to council and police and everything?

The world needs both fight and flight people when there’s a conflict situation. I bet you’re also the kind of person who would stand up for someone being bullied or come to someone’s aid if they had an accident. Absolutely don’t apologise for being you and loosing your shit.

He said he would batter you huh? That is a threat, you have witnesses. He knew he had better apologise, he is the one that made a fool of himself.