Made a fool of my self tonight and now I feel so low

Good for you, really hope it helps too.

If someone said they would'batter' me and my husband was not by my side backing me I would be unimpressed

A man was threatening to 'batter' you and yourhusband did nothing?

He's the one whos made a fool of himself.

Exactly what I was going to say...!!!

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Don't feel bad OP, we can all lose it when, especially when we are tired and our kids are asleep and we dont want them to get upset or wake up. It also sounds like he deserved it.

Fishing for compliments thread?

He sounds like he deserved a lot more. 🤷🏼‍♀️🤣Well done. Bet the curtain twitchers were egging you on! Don’t worry about it!

Ashamed for what? Why aren't you allowed to be angry about something that would make any reasonable person angry?

This.

Many years ago I got into a similar row outside a nightclub with a twat of a man. DH played it very calm and tried to diffuse the situation, which was infuriating to me at the time. I could (should) have just walked away but instead things escalated and eventually as DH went to get in between us the guy produced a knife. Thankfully DH wasn’t stabbed that night, but the whole incident changed my attitude for the future. The thought that DH could have been killed because I just couldn’t let it go makes me feel sick.

I think those posters gleefully stating that their DH’s would ‘deck’ the OP’s neighbour are married to thugs. There is no excuse for escalating verbal abuse into physical in my opinion and who knows where it would have ended. When the neighbour started to threaten the OP, the best thing to do would have been to withdraw and call the police.

And you sound like a stuck up prick.

Your husband was nowhere to be found when a man was threatening to "batter" you, his wife? Because he's a "nice guy"

Sheesh. Well done you but I'd say you have a big red flag there at home!

Shame is a normal feeling after losing one’s temper, especially if it doesn’t happen often. But also: we women were taught to be the “good girl” and never make scenes- even if someone is harming us.
I imagine it’s this training that’s coming up to bite you.

what you did was fine. Try to be proud of yourself for standing up for yourself, your child, the neighborhood.

what you said was true.

you also spoke the only language he could possibly hear, as it sounds like he spends a good portion of his life in noisy rows.

I am glad he apologized. I hope this means he will be more respectful.

Sorry, some of us have to live in rougher places because we don't earn whopping mumsnet office pen-pushing salaries of £50k, £100k, or even more.

You were right to intervene OP. Your neighbours were relieved that you have the courage to stand up to him, as they were feeling the same as you, hence the positive feedback they gave you as you had the balls to confront him.

Your young child was being negatively affected by the reckless actions of this selfish, out of control feral, vagabond whose shameful actions have brought the police to his door.

If I was you, if you log the noise nuisance, and ask your neighbours if they will do the same, it is a list including dates and times of when these incidents occured(d) to the council who will have to intervene.

If your neighbours do the same, it will add more weight to your complaint so it may speed up their action.

Also include the threats he made against you as well as the fact he is stopping your 3 year old from sleeping.

You have every reason to hold your head up high, the weak one here is the lunatic neighbour.

Hang in there, your doing great.

Sounds like a classy area

You brave mama bear! I bet your neighbours will have a new-found respect for you now (and be secretly envious they don't have your bottle). You should be super proud of yourself.

I also don’t see why you need to feel bad, you did the right thing to stand up to him.

Yoir husband comes across as a wimp tbh. I get trying to be nice but sometimes you need to stand up for yourself. would he have continued to stay out of it if the guy actually hit you?

Report EVERY time you see the man driving like an idiot.
You can make a statement to the police (he doesn't need to know who it was) and they should serve a Section 59 notice on him.
If anyone seems him driving in that manner again his car will be taken off him.

I should think everyone admired your balls and were relieved that someone had the nerve to confront him. I think they will be delighted if things get resolved without them getting involved.

I know I would be.

Definitely not on you. Hope you're ok.

Are you joking!
He sounds awful. I am so sad for you that you have to tolerate a neighbour like that.
You have not made a fool of yourself at all??? Who cares if you exploded?
I would've done much worse, believe me.
I mean, you've probably not gained anything through it, but whatever. He is despicable.

I agree men and women who fight are thugs.

But I don't include self defence, and if the OP's DH got a punch on the nose for sticking up for his wife, because this man threatened to batter her, self defence is what it would be when he fought back.

Is this one of those threads?

I'm really glad you rallied up the confidence to challenge the offender - but, you must have known that all of Mumsnet would have your back, and tell you that you did exactly the right thing?

I don't think I understand why you're "feeling so low"?

Good for you. Speeders ruin things for everyone

Men who get into fights are thugs
@shuggles, yes and they tend to be pretty messed up by the time they get to 57, IF they do.