Made a fool of my self tonight and now I feel so low

You def have some leverage there then, with the landlord, so that's good and the best way forwards. I think even if council is the landlord now, they have more welly over ASBO tenants than they used to.

Totally fine

if the situation is as you described then it’s ok to reach breaking point

you are in a lose lose situation

say nothing & it bothers you

say something & it’s a divide with a neighbour

Well done 👏 he sounds awful

Good for you
but from your husband point of view it’s alright you Charging mouthing off but it’s your husband who will end up in hospital after a kicking not you

Question, is his house owned or rented? If its Council/Housing Assn then get onto them

Well if not then everyone get onto The Police every day.

He's a threat to your and your childrens safety

He might respond by getting all his mates together.
Then it will be the mild mannered people who live in the street versus him and his gang of raucous reckless young men.
Who do you think will come out on top?

You didn't make a fool,of yourself. You did what needed to be done. People like him need a lot more than a telling off though. Someone might do that and he might stop being a little cunt.

Why not get the street together and stand outside his house making a strong suggestion that either he drives properly or else

I'd hate to be neighbours with a judgmental snob like you. You people are the worst.

Mmm. Im not sure to be honest. There’s always a judgement to be made as to whether something could escalate - it’s not as easy a “having a backbone’. Doubt it will actually change his behaviour if he’s as horrible as you say.

Yes, because drunk abusive men are usually sooooo receptive to being 'shown' where they are going wrong. I'm sure he would have listened carefully, pondered on his actions before having a Damascene moment and going on to lead rich and fulfilling life. Anyone who has worked in a bar or nightclub would have seen how quiickly thigs spiral out of control into very real violence when two men need to 'have a word' with one another. I guess its easier to label someone not wanting to get into a volatile situation a coward but don't underestimate the self preservation instinct of not getting your head kicked in.

You obviously didn’t read the thread properly as TCA was replying to a poster that said it was shameful that the men on the street didn’t ‘threaten to paste him’.

In the words of Martin Luther King:

“Returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars... Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.”

Or to actually have a backbone, speak up and show a man that he is wrong by both verbally assaulting a woman and being a noise nuisance

Umm.... there's kerazzzzy thought

To stand by and say nothing, or get into a physical fight are not the only 2 options, you know.

100% agree.

@BlackShuck3 · Yesterday 23:22

I DO understand why he is getting some flack on here BUT I think your husband probably took the best course of action. He knew this guy wouldn't do anything with so many people watching and that if he waded in it would only inflame the situation.

@seethingmess

Or he could just be a spineless coward who wants everyone, including a drunk joyrider, to like him?

100% what seethingmess said. ^

This is my stance too. I can't get past the OP's husband just looking on whilst his wife was abused by the neighbourhood thug, threatening to batter her. That would be the end of the marriage for me to be honest. I couldn't stay with a man like this.

I guess the only real problem is that if nothing changes then you won't be able to report him for antisocial behaviour because he'll know who it most likely was now. Apart from that it's not surprising people lose it sometimes. We all have people like that in communities ruining neighbourhoods for everyone else.

Report him every time, especially the drink driving. He needs to be caught in the act to be charged. I would also look into whether speed bumps could be installed.

You did good op. Shame on your husband not supporting you better. He should have been by your side and saying the same.

You didn't make a fool of yourself.

I bet your the local hero - especially making Mr big bollocks end up apologising. That would have been his lowest moment!

You did nothing wrong. You you feel proud of yourself!

Good for you missus. Also echo getting door cameras.