Made a fool of my self tonight and now I feel so low

I think I’d be more disappointed that my husband didn’t back me up. You’re definitely not out of order, I would’ve been right behind you cheering you on and in fact I probably would’ve joined in! Well done you, you have nothing to feel bad about.

Good on you! I would have reported him to the police by then. I don’t understand why your partner didn’t get involved when he was threatening to batter you though…

Don't do this. 🔼 Well done with what you did. See how long the new peacefulness lasts.

If there's a school on the road you can ring the none emergency number and explain that he's driving recklessly. If a few parents also report and report to school they'll often liaise and do a road safety day. They put up a temporary speed checker and if it's bad enough they'll sometimes put up a temporary speed camera. It would definitely be worth a try come September if he's still acting like a dickhead x

I would have given you a round of applause!

Tell your husband he should stick up for you, because he sure as Hell should. Good on you for confronting a nuisance - at least he can't say he wasn't warned.

Well done you! You have no need to be embarrassed.

I can't believe though that your husband 'didn't get involved' while a thug is there threatening to batter you. I couldn't even look at him ☹️.

Good for you and more of your neighbours should've stuck up for you.

You should also lobby your council and MP for speed bumps on your road. Be loud and proud!

Well done you! Not many would have the guts to do that. You should report his drink driving if you haven't already, and every time he's doing it. I'd be doing everything in my power to have his car, or preferably licence away from him.

Err, sounds as if you did amazingly!

Just adding my three cheers. Sounds like you were brilliant - unfortunately for some people the hairdryer treatment is the only thing that might get through to them.

Sorry if someone's already suggested this upthread, but could you campaign to get speedbumps, given there is a school on your road? Or a speed camera?

but you need to call them every time - you suspected drink driving today, that is a police matter.
Write to your council, to your MP and to the newspapers. Make everyone's lives uncomfortable until he stops/is gone.

You feel low because you’re having a physical response to the huge spike of adrenalin/cortisol from confronting this bastard. Your body gave you what you needed to do it and now you’re having a come down! You’re drained, that’s all. Hope you felt better in the morning

He's lucky I'm not his neighbour coz I'd have been taking a baseball bat to his car years ago you are definitely not being unreasonable and I'm surprised you put up with it for as long as you did and didn't snap sooner

I am so anxious I think in your position id go round to his when he's sober and try and make friends with him
No. Never make friends with antisocial nutters.

Well the guy was threatening to batter her so not sure DH staying tucked away in the house was a great move on his part.

Since this guy is such a douchbag I would imagine everyone on your street wants to shake your hand rn OP.

If I feel like my child would be in danger by somebody else’s carelessness and selfishness I would do the exact same.

The guy saying he’d “batter you” should be the one who’s embarrassed!

Good on you for saying it’s not acceptable behaviour!
I’ve done similar in the heat of the moment when a local drug dealer (from the new housing estate that was built behind my house), decided to do a drug deal involving multiple bags of white powder and rolls of cash being handed over through the window of a car outside my house. Cue me (in my slippers no less!) marching outside to have a rant at them both! They did drive off rather fast after denying everything until I pointed out my cctv….when I watched the cctv I almost died of embarrassment at the crazy women in her slippers shaking her fist and ranting….btw police weren’t even vaguely interested! 🙄 Haven’t seen them again though……😂

I don’t see the problem. You haven’t done anything wrong.

Yes I am!! Thank god. I know, it's ridiculous and sad isn't it!

You aren't a fool sometimes people need to be told. I let one loose at a neighbour not long ago and they have left me alone now

Good on you for speaking up, nothing to be embarrassed about at all.

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Fabulous OP. Well done.