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Violated by MIL

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Workaholic99 · 27/07/2024 22:04

My MIL kissed the back of my neck.

Today i was hosting a birthday party for DD2 and had invited MIL because it's the right thing to do (not because I wanted her there).

When MIL arrived she completely ignored me - for the whole party barely more the 5 words were exchanged between us! (great, no complaints from me) however, as she was leaving I had my DD on my lap and so couldn't easily get up to say good bye, so she comes from my behind and plants a slobbery kiss on the back of my neck. There was nothing to stop her coming around to my front to say bye.

I was never felt more cringed or violated in my life. It doesn't help that I really detest the woman. My DH said he saw the whole exchange and thought it was very weird.

How should I handle that in future? I never want to be in that situation again

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SeeSeeRider · 27/07/2024 22:21

More MN batshittery

Molone · 27/07/2024 22:21

It’s weird but violated seems a little dramatic. Just tell her not to do it again.

Soubriquet · 27/07/2024 22:20

I think violated is a bit strong

vodkaredbullgirl · 27/07/2024 22:20

Violated 😆 cringe yes.

PeriIsKickingMyButt · 27/07/2024 22:20

Stop being twats please! OP is perfectly entitled to her feelings. Would you be minimising them if it had been FIL who kissed her fucking neck without consent? It's utterly gross and inappropriate. Your DH should be having a word with her.

RobertSalamander · 27/07/2024 22:19

Ew. That’s gross. What an odd thing to do. Utterly irrelevant that you’ve never been more violated than that before.

Screamingabdabz · 27/07/2024 22:18

YABU

Peterbeardwy · 27/07/2024 22:17

Violated ?????

combinationpadlock · 27/07/2024 22:16

wow! you have had a sheltered life!

TwigletsAndRadishes · 27/07/2024 22:15

Well it is weird, yes, but frankly if that is the most violated you've ever felt in your life I'd say you don't have much to complain about.

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