Does anyone else's DH do this?

Send a photo back you having a drink saying we are too!!! And enjoy you evening

id text back “gutted” 😂😂😂
I would honestly laugh it off with him. Once he knows you’re not going home from his text he will stop.

Hes disgusting!

He does.it to be a PITA and make it ruin your time.out
My SIL always did it if my brother visited on his own..would call with some disaster.or other.
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@McSteamyorMcdreamy please post back on here- I know my reply, amongst many, sounded a little glib for what is potentially a fraught situation, I know others are also hoping you are alright and safe.

Hope you ok,

Probably not the only things he does…I would have a regular girlsnight from now on so that his featuring is more permanent. Afterall, he is part of the cast lead! Men! Well, some Men!🤦🏼‍♀️

I have a friend whose husband does this- at least 2-3 calls or messages every time she goes out. And if he has to get back home to take over so she can go out, he’s always, always late. It’s because he thinks he is doing her a huge favour “babysitting” their children, and taking over her job for a bit, so if he doesn’t quite do all of it, it’s still a huge favour she should be grateful for. And the reason he thinks this is because he didn’t want children, and felt he was doing her a huge favour there donating his sperm- so in his head even that bit was going above and beyond the call of duty.

That's disgusting behaviour I hope you didn't end up apologising! Hope you're ok

My ex used to do that, along with many other cuntish behaviours. He didn’t want you to go out, and because you didn’t go home early, he’s turned nasty when you did get home.
OP, there is no way this is the first time he’s been a cunt like this, I’d guarantee he’s a controlling twat, who has you walking on eggshells all the time.
Sorry to say, but it only gets worse with men like this.

Just the odd text or pic, I do the same. X

Red flags waving. He is controlling you

He would only update me if he went to A&E.

Hope you're ok today @McSteamyorMcdreamy
Has he accused you of talking to other men while you were out ?
Because this is what abusers do
They assume you will behave like they will while out, hence the accusation.
It's all to make you stay at home in future as it will be less bother for you.

This is worrying.
As I say, hope you are ok today.

Let me guess...he's the type of dad who you have to ask to "babysit" his own kids?
Boils my piss! Hope you had a great time 😊

Quote: "Why does he do it??"

This is why he does it............

Quote: "I now feel shit and feel compelled to go home."

😂😂😂 I’d reply with ‘I feel your pain, good luck, see you later’ and carry on regardless. He is their father and, as such, should be pulling his fair share of the load!

What should happen is that you tell him it is pathetic that he has an inability to father his children for an hour without texting you to complain about his shit and unfair it all is. It’s also unacceptable to tell you that you’re ‘disgusting’ for leaving him with his own children. Ask him how his family and friends would view him as a father and partner if they knew this is how he tries to manipulate you.

Mine does this and I have now explicitly asked him to stop. I don’t want to know anything bad while I’m away unless he makes the call it’s so bad I need to come home (they are very unwell, broken bone etc.) I don’t want to know about bad behaviour etc.! I really don’t think my husband did it to guilt trip me, but I don’t think he realised how negatively it impacted my time away.

So now you know what he's up to, I hope you'll make plans to head out and leave him to parent on a weekly basis.

Also, I hope you'll start envisioning life without him.

YaBU for going home..I would just answer 'welcome to my world' and enjoy your afternoon/evening. You're just being a mug to let him manipulate you like this.

Did you get the silent, petty treatment today op?

He doesn't want you to go out because it means he actually has to be a parent. He also want you world to be small with him at the centre. He's a selfish controlling prick.

Well, obviously his first text didn’t have the desired effect so he’s upped the ante with the ‘disgusting’ comment.

He really is being a complete twat.

Well OP he sounds like an asshole.
I'm sure your BF has told you that too.

Hopefully the morning involved you starting to think about leaving him.

Who the fuck calls their partner disgusting?

For comparison, DP went out yesterday afternoon with all her friends. I spent an hour at 2pm picking them all up and taking them to the pub, and then picked them all up again at 2am and took them home. This morning I popped down to Mcdonalds to pick up breakfast so that she could soak up the excess alcohol with some stodge.

DD is 16 so I didn't have to do any childcare, but when she was little I shared parenting equally. If DP was out, there was no difficulty putting DD to bed because me putting DD to bed was a bi-nightly occurrence.

That is what you should be expecting from your husband. If that's not happening, start questioning why he's still your husband.