Wish I had different parents

Having shit parents does effect you and it's not something I'd wish on anyone

When the people who are supposed to be your rock, to guide you, to comfort you and help you let you down it makes you question your self worth and everything that goes along with that

My parents are raging alcoholics. I've had it out with them in the past about how they did nothing for my life and was told by them that they weren't shit parents because

1)they celebrated my birthday every year (by going to the pub)
2)they barely physically disaplined me (because they were never there but when they did hit me it wasn't just a little tap)
3) I was fed (yes I was chicken nuggets, micro fries, beans on toast was my staple diet)
4) they didn't feel the need to attended school events or parents evening because school was for me not for them
5) they never asked me to tidy my room ( there wasn't anything to tidy in my room apart from some clothes and a bed because all their money went on booze)
6) I never had a bedtime or forced to have meal times or any routine (that's because they were either out, passed out on the floor or bloody forgot about me)
7) they never forced me to study or forced me into work( because whenever I asked them what do you think I should study or should I try to get an interview for this job I would be told 'why you asking me for it's your life' so literally zero support or guidance
8) we praised you ( when I passed my degree I rang my parents to tell them and was met with 'oh well done , I've got awful back pain' and the conversation just went back to them and how they are

This list just goes on and on

Do you know what heeled me? Having my own children and literally doing the absolutely opposite to what my parents did to me

My condolences. Poor you. This is the last thing you need at any time and certainly not immediately post partum.

How are you feeling? Has your mum left?

I’m NC with mine, my childhood was abusive and I won’t have them anywhere near us.

im often sad not to have better parents, I’d love to be close to them (not the ones I have!) Mother’s Day/father’s day are rough. Sorry you have the same OP

Sorry your mum is not very supportive.

Yup. Mum is a self centred arsehole who screams and cries if you try to challenge her. And by challenge, I mean have an opinion.
It’s been exhausting since we were children.

When my father died and I went to his funeral, the eulogy was about how he was an amazing dad to his two children.
He probably was, but I was his oldest by his first wife and he actually had three children.

Honestly! Most of the stuff you see on SM, is what people want you to have not what they really have.

It's just not true.

My mum passed when I was young. My dad has been with his partner since I was in primary school, we (My brother and i) don't get on with her. I moved out over 2 years ago and my dad has visited once and only because he wanted something. We have strained relationship with all of my dads family. But I've just come to accept it.

My parents are a pita. They are incredibly judgmental and constantly believe that they know everything better. My mum's a racist and vocal about it. She has been going on about my figure/weight since I was about 12. I had a baby 6 days ago and she told me yesterday that I need to lose lots of weight now...I've got a pretty face after all. (D)H left shortly before I went into labour and it's surely because he's got someone else and if I just had a better figure, this wouldn't have happened.
She told everyone what has happened (including all of our neighbours...and no, she doesn't live here) and is now constantly going on about how she has to support me. I'm apparently really ungrateful and have to learn to accept help. I don't want her help. It's just her trying to bully me into doing what she thinks is right and proper so that she can tell her friends how amazingly supportive she is. (While I was going through fertility treatment, she also decided she had to inform everyone and basically have everyone tell me how it'll all be fine if I just relax and go on holiday....at Christmas, two weeks after I had a mc.)

She moaned at me for not watering the garden (I had) and that my bedroom is messy (who cares??). I hadn't unpacked my hospital bag, yet. She was worried the midwife might see it. Even if she did, she wouldn't care. She had told me explicitly to not bother about housework right now and focus on my recovery.

I'm currently considering grabbing the kids and moving to Denmark to live by the coast...