To want my adult niece and nephew to call my Aunty Emma?

Same here! And it’s the same in my husband’s family.

I think it depends on the family relationships TBH.

My DH doesn't seem a lot of any of his Aunts/Uncles and still refers to them as Uncle Bob, Uncle John, Aunt Helen etc. when speaking about them.

On the other hand, mine are/were basically a constant presence in my life. One is more like a sister, has never been Auntie anything. Others are much older and have been more like an extra set of grandparents so it also now feels a bit weird to call them Uncle/Aunt when it doesn't cover what they are to me.

We call them what feels right.

You were the rude one. He used your name, you don't get to dictate a title. The cheek of you, you owe the child an apology.

In our family you would have graduated from being Aunty Emma to being Aunt Emma when they got older, but we still use the title / prefix / whatever you want to call it.

I agree with you OP but I see we are in the minority!

I find it VERY STRANGE that the general consensus seems to be that adults can call their uncles and aunties by their names.

I have never seen or heard anyone drop titles for anyone ever. For me, it's also a sign of respect for older relatives. Mr. or Mrs. is obviously too formal, so Uncle or Aunty covers things pretty well.

Bloody hell I’m just happy if my adult nephews call me at all 😂

Aah, I love being Aunty Grey, my closest nieces and nephews, and even wider family members who don’t have a blood connection, call me aunty. I do have other nieces and nephews who call me Grey though, and that’s fine too.

I was surrounded by priests and nuns when I was a child (children’s homes and school) and when I see any of them now I still call them “sister x” or “father y” even though I’m an adult and they just use their first names. It’s just comforting for me and they are a link to happy childhood times, it isn’t because I see them as authority figures at all.

I call my uncles/aunts by their first names now, but my children have only ever called my sisters “auntie” instead of “Auntie Lizzie” etc…

I don’t know why but I find just Auntie so cute and I hope they do it for as long as possible 😂

I'm in my 60s. Even as a child I found it awkward to use 'auntie' and 'uncle', though I'm not sure why, though I was never that close to any of them so maybe that's it.

In our family, none of the children have ever referred to their uncles and aunts as such, other than when explaining who they are to someone. So I have always been 'first name' to my siblings' children and vice versa. Grandparents and parents are referred to in the usual way though.

I dropped the use of 'uncle' and 'aunt' as an adult as soon as I felt I could, and none of them ever said anything. To me, it's akin to calling a colleague 'Mr' or 'Mrs' - feels alienating and awkward.

I use Auntie/Uncle when referring to them to my child (i.e. this is my Uncle Bobby) and in their birthday/Christmas cards. But in general they are John, Jennifer etc.

Because I am now an Auntie myself. Some of my Aunts and Uncles have grandchildren (two have great grandchildren).

Its not really an Aunt/Niece relationship anymore. It's adult relatives. Demanding the Auntie title from an adult means you still see them as children, not the adults they've become.

If my niece has children and I'm still alive I wonder what they will call me? Grumpy Great Aunt name maybe 😀

I don’t get it either. We only refer to our siblings as Auntie/Uncle X as a name of familiarity and affection.

Me, DH and my sister very much respect my DM but we all call her by nicknames. Sister and I mostly call her mum but sometimes a shortened version of her real name and DH calls her a completely different name that’s comes from a family joke.

As long as the name is intentionally disrespectful, surely it’s fine.

Depends - I am part Asian and if I ever called my aunt my or uncle by their first name I would expect a slap 😂 - my children call my siblings aunty and uncle too - I do think it’s more of a European thing to be on a first name basis tho?

My young nephews just call me my first name .
Cant really get worked up about it although i would prefer aunty

personally think that my sil hates me snd would prefer to ignore the fact we are related

I would always use Auntie and Uncle, even now Donkey's years after they died.

I had no idea you stopped using it at a certain age?

That's bizarre (mid 50's, up North)

Yes. Sorry.

I continued calling my aunt and uncles with the title and then their name. But - they were around 35-40 years older than me. So it’s a very different relationship.

My nieces were born when I was an older teen, I only got “aunt” when they were joking or trying to be cheeky for a laugh.

I'm from a large Caribbean family and I genuinely don't know what would happen if I referred to my aunties by their first names 😅

What does she want you to call her? 🤨

You're being too familiar allowing the use of the term 'Aunty'.

You should be instructing these people to use your correct and full title.
e.g. Duchess (I'm assuming you are, based on your post) Worthington (use your own surname here).

I always called my aunty by her first name. In fact, I couldn't pronounce her name as a child so had a shortened version which I and many other family members are still calling her 40 years later. I once referred to her as my aunty when introducing her to someone and she burst out laughing.
I only have one relative I call aunty and that is because her and my granny have the same name so I guess, as a child, I had to differentiate. Although, looking back I am not sure why as I have never called my granny by her name.
If someone in my family insisted on being called a certain title, I'd think them odd. My ex's elderly family member insisted I called her "cousin Mary" and I couldn't do it with a straight face.

I hate the whole Auntie thing. I refuse to be called it. First name is fine.

I still call one of my aunties 'Aunty Jean' sometimes but the other one is just 'Mary'. I was closer to the aunty one growing up. I like the title because it denotes a special relationship, distinct from other adults but she asked me to drop it and I try to remember.

OP I understand why you like it but you can't enforce it on adults!

I dont have any aunties/uncles left but up until they died I called all of them auntie/uncle.

My cousin who's 68 still calls my my mum auntie (my mum is the last of that generation)