To want my adult niece and nephew to call my Aunty Emma?

I’m in my 40’s and still call my Aunties “Auntie”
Just because I like it. But I wouldn’t correct my niece calling me by my name only so YABU

Mine call me auntie and my adult DC also call theirs auntie and uncle. I'm 55 and still use auntie for women who had an 'auntie role' like my mums best friends. It's very common in my circle. I wouldn't insist though.

This post isn’t for real…..but if it was then very unreasonable….I have 13 nephews and neices and 15 great nephews and neices…..we are a very close family….no one ever calls me aunty

I think it depends on your culture. I know of a few cultures where its seen as a mark of respect, and any good family friend is referred to as auntie / uncle.

If you're white British then I think you're being OTT, it's unnecessarily formal

I’m 40s and generally call uncles and aunties as such. Sometimes I drop it and just use names though. My kids (late teens) seem to have mostly dropped it for their uncles and aunties, though for mine (their greats) they seem to usually use it.

I am 70, my niece and nephew have never called me aunt, neither do my great nieces.

I think its OK either way. My DH has one uncle still alive, well into his 90s, and he is called "Uncle Ted" by most family members, even by wider family.

I have nieces and nephews and great-nieces and great-nephews. I was always "create" to my nieces and nephews as there wasn't a big age gap between us. My great-nieces and nephews called me "aunty create" when they were young, but once they got to their teens I started signing cards as just "create".

I wouldn't personally insist on it, but if it's a family tradition then I would continue to use it where appropriate to the older generation but I would be telling the younger generation not to do it for me.

Dropping the titles suggests you see no value in the familial relationship. Using the title is a recognition of the role of that person in your life and if you don't think they are important there's your fragmentation.

Dropping titles for aunts and uncles is a bit like those trendy parents in the 60s and 70s who insisted their children call them by their first names. Or those that laugh at people who call their parents mummy and daddy. It's all trying to imply you are oh so modern and progressive. But you're throwing away the baby with the bathwater. The title is not childish, it's a mark of the importance of your relationship.

I think it’s up to the individual really. Some nieces and nephews will carry on using ‘auntie’ and ‘uncle’ into adulthood, some will drop it at some stage and some never really used it in the first place. I find it very weird how many people seem to think that a close relationship hinges on using a ‘title’ 🤢 I am very close indeed to my brothers children but they only sporadically call me auntie muffin as opposed to ‘just’ muffin. It doesn’t make any odds to me, we still love each other dearly!

It's very common for people to drop the title once they become adults, but also fine to keep them. In terms of etiquette, the general rule of thumb is to call people what they want to be called.

So I don't think it was rude of your nephew to call you Emma, but now you've let him know you'd prefer him to stick with Aunty Emma, he should do that.

My husband's family refer to nieces and nephews as Niece and Nephew and address birthday cards with, for example, Nephew {Name} - I have never come across this and it's not even a cultural difference as we're both white British and our parents are all from the same county (Kent)!

On the Aunty question I dropped Aunty years ago and firstname her now! It's not a sign of respect in my family to keep it. However my husband refers to his aunt as Auntie (just that, without her first name) in passing and as a form of address.

I'm in my 70s and my mother's eldest sister (born about 1912) asked me to drop the "Auntie" when I was about 14. I'm sure I wasn't the first, as I have loads of older cousins. This sort of trickled through the rest of her enormous family and by the time I was 18, nobody was being called Auntie/Uncle by anyone over the age of about 5.

I'm 50s I refer to my Aunt as my Aunt.

My adult nieces and nephews refer to me as Aunt.

YANBU

Mine never called any of theirs aunt or uncle either. Just used their names from the start.
I don't particularly want to be called aunty , and certainly not great aunt !

I'm in my fifties and it's still aunt and uncle it's the norm in our family

I normally still use Aunty and Uncle to family members when I'm talking to them personally, writing in cards to them etc but occasionally now won't. In my husband's family's culture it would be seen as deeply disrespectful. Anyone who is older than you is called Aunty or uncle, or grandma/grandad depending on generation that they are in ot doesn't matter of they're actually related to you or not.

My partner is 60 and still refers to his aunts and uncles as aunt and uncle.

I think it's a personal preference thing.

I told my strapping 6ft 6in nephew to stop shouting Aunty Bluebird access the gym!

Your name is not Aunty Emma, your name is Emma and as for describing a 26 year old as cheeky 🤢

I'm 53 and still call my Auntie Auntie name. Never crossed my.Mind not to. She's my Auntie.

I don't like titles even when they're little. Just first name in this family!!

Im also in my 60’s and stopped using aunt and uncle in my teens, at their request.

I’m in two minds. I don’t expect my siblings kids to call me anything but my first name and makes me feel ancient being called Auntie (I’m actually already a great Aunt as well, not even 40 yet!). But I grew up in a culture where every older acquaintance was Auntie/Uncle X and I’d still call them that to this day if I saw them, it would seem greatly disrespectful not to. I think it’s down to age gap and expected formality, so I’m edging towards being unreasonable here.

I find it odd especially when adults. We never called called our Aunts "aunty", even as children. My children call their aunts and uncles by their first names.
If it doesn't feel right to them, don't force them.

How old are you? My cousins children call me by my first name but that was because I was a teenager when they were born.

Fully agree OP
I am quite far along thexage road, but have always referred to my parent's siblings as Aunt and Uncle
Nothing wrong with that