To want my adult niece and nephew to call my Aunty Emma?

Not Caribbean but I've always grown up with adults calling older adults aunty/uncle. Can't see what's weird about it.

Too overfamiliar yet also detached to drop the title from aunty like she's any random from the street. It's nice to have titles to show meaning and respect.

It's not. In my culture we would never dream of calling an aunty or uncle by the first name. Even our parents friends are aunties and uncles.

It's just a form of respect which may not exist in anglo- saxon culture but it does in many others.

I'd correct my neices and nephews if they didn't call me aunty.

"I don't think most British and Irish people expect adults to use the aunt and uncle titles."

My experience has been very different. I have eight sets of aunts/uncles (my mum has three siblings and my dad had five siblings).

On both sides of the family it was normal to use those titles.

Growing up it was aunty and uncle, but as adults it is aunt and uncle.

My DH was born abroad and in his family it is also common for adults to use aunt/uncle. Although, interestingly, in their language there isn't the diminutive that is equivalent to "aunty" - well, at least there isn't one that doesn't have a negative connotation.

"I'd be wary that if you're correcting grown men and women about this that you're behaving similarly about other stuff too."

I'd definitely agree with you here though.

We’re all in our 40s and 50s now and it’s never even occurred to me or my siblings and cousins to drop the Auntie/Uncle.
In fact DM has an aunt in her 90s who is still ‘Aunt Mary’
As adults we dropped the honorary Aunt/Uncle we used to use as children for parents’ friends, cousins etc. But for actual aunts and uncles (and greats) that’s just who they are - personally, dropping it would just feel really weird and uncomfortable for me, like starting to call my parents by their first names.

It’s Aunty or Uncle in my family regardless of how old the child is and my eldest is now 46. Even older people outside of the family would be referred to as Aunty or Uncle.

The irony

I have a great auntie in her 70s who we all call Auntie Elsie. Including my mum who’s in her 50s. It just wouldn’t feel right to drop the Auntie!

i have 2 other aunties but they’re by marriage and I rarely called them auntie to begin with. My great auntie is my only blood relative auntie which is maybe why it’s stuck.

im 38 and all my nieces and nephews call me Auntie (then my nickname). It’s super cute. The eldest is 11. One day when she’s older she might drop the auntie and that’s fine.

I think yabu op.

I'm 32 and call my aunties and uncles auntie ... and uncle ....

Feels weird not saying it 😂

Nope.

This made me smile. I’m the same with my adult nephews who I absolutely adore and have an amazing relationship with.
noone else has the privilege of that title and so I’ve told them tongue in cheek that even when they are 70 they have to use it. They fully indulge me, because I’m ace.

My adult DNs still call me Auntie Hat and my adult DCs call my DSis the nickname she's had since my eldest couldn't pronounce 'auntie'. In fact, my DIL had no idea that the nickname wasn't my DSis's real name!

I think you just have to go with the flow. My aunt told me to stop using 'aunt' and 'uncle' and just call them by their names when I was about 21.

I’m 37 and I still call my dad’s aunties and uncles auntie x and uncle y! Let alone my own aunties and uncles!!

I have 2 nieces (sisters), aged 23 and 19. 23N calls me "Auntie Vicky" and 19N calls me "Vicky".

I prefer just my first name but am happy to leave it to their preference.

Don’t be daft.

We all still use Auntie and Uncle in our family.

No you're not. You are their aunty and it's nice to be acknowledged as such and it's a sign of affection. My own nephews are all over 40 now and still call me aunt and their children also call me aunt. I called my own aunts 'aunt (insert christian name here) until their dying day.
The folks who have eaten a sociology book for breakfast (or worse have read one) can just do one!

But withdrawing that affection and being openly hostile because someone doesn’t call you ‘auntie’? It’s not very affectionate!

In my family it’s a sign of affection.

Same! I'm 60 and wouldn't dream of calling any of my aunts/uncles by their first name only. To be fair, I don't have many left now, but they will always be 'Aunty Joyce/Uncle Frank' (or whatever!)

My own nieces and nephews call me Aunty and my own children call theirs aunty or uncle.

In all honesty, I wouldn't be offended if they dropped the title (maybe a bit sad, but not offended)...but I can't see it happening 🤷‍♀️ It's obviously something that's personal to each family dynamic I guess.

Not sure why most posters feel it's outdated or ridiculous for adult 'children' to still use the title...your aunts and uncles are still your aunts and uncles whether you're 3 or 33!

I have umpteen aunts and uncles and even more cousins and we all still use Aunty and uncles. I’m practically 40! But then we are in Lancashire where you are aunty/uncle to your friends kids too.

Years ago, I was mocked for calling my aunt, 'Aunty Emma', when I started at Oxford. I didn't realise that it was such a class thing.

I think it’s entirely a matter of personal preference. If someone preferred being called “David” to “Dave”, you would respect that. If an aunt wants her nieces and nephews to address her with the honorific “auntie”, then politeness should dictate that they will do so. I know it varies from family to family - in mine, we say auntie and uncle; not everyone does. I don’t think there’s any prescriptive right or wrong answer here - but if the OP wants to be called auntie, it’s rather rude of her niece and nephew not to.

I’m in my 30’s and still call my Auntie and Uncle, Auntie and Uncle .

I think I’d feel weird just calling them by their first name, but that’s just me!

My children are 12 and 14 they have always just used their names. Not sure why really.

YABU! It's totally normal to call your aunt and uncle by their first names once you get older than say 16. They aren't children anymore!