To want my adult niece and nephew to call my Aunty Emma?

Never called my aunties 'auntie ' but then we have never been close.
It's more of a cultural thing I think. Indians and South africans seem to call women who are close to them this even if they are not biologically related.

What🤣🤣 it’s so interesting to see how some people live

Grandchildren calling their grandma by their first name is wild to me. What business do I have calling my 71 year old grandma by her first name as if we’re age mates?

YANBU OP but it probably depends on the sort of background you come from. Most people on this thread probably wouldn’t think twice about swearing in front of older family members however I think that’s really disrespectful. I still call my auntie’s, auntie whatever and couldn’t imagine just saying ‘hi Emma.’ It’s weird

I like it. I wouldn’t feel comfortable dropping it and I'm in my 40s.

I see it as a sign of affection. Opposite of formal here.

I'm with you, OP. It makes my heart glow to hear that 'aunty'.

Yes, my dh was brought up like that. But all 5 of the children deeply love and respect their 90 year old mother and their late father. Some of them -shock-are even called by their first names by their own children. Some aren’t and call their parents by their titles. But what I find strange is the measurement of love and importance by a title. It shows too much reverence to a status conveyed by what you call someone not what they do or say-and the belief that you value someone because they have a titular name seems very strange to me.

It's special to you OP but by insisting on it and correcting - you've removed that specialness. You've made it an embarrassing obligation - and calling a 28 year old cheeky and insisting on being called aunty suggests you have failed to acknowledge the adult-to-adult nature of the relationship - which is a shame. One of the things I enjoyed most about my aunts was when they finally moved away from the feeling they were the adult and I was the child. I got to know them properly and I developed a real fondness for them - I didn't have when I was growing up.

I’m British and all the adults in my family call aunts/uncles ‘Aunty Doris’ or ‘Uncle Derek’ 🤣 it’s just what everyone has always done. We’re a close family though 🤷‍♀️

I'm British and everyone does here.

it occurs to me to ask OP one of the MN standard questions
"Is this a hill you want to die on?"

In my neck of the woods we all still call them Auntie whatever...

It's not the done thing at all to use first names. It's seen as a sign of respect.

This applies to biological family and also parent's best friends you grew up with.

Is it a uk or English thing? I’m In Ireland and and I don’t know anyone who does that here!!!

How pompous of you.

Don't be surprised if contact is much reduced from here onwards.

Ridiculous.

Same here, it’s a mark of respect for your elders in my family. Really shocked to see how many people don’t do this. It’s not my experience with any of my friends either, they call aunts and uncles aunt Jane not just their name too

Totally normal in my family. I am 39 but have cousins mid 40s and we all still use Aunty and Uncle. I cannot ever imagine using their real names and I expect my many nieces and nephews to do the same.

It is a nice thing in my book :)

I still call my Aunts and Uncles Aunt xx and Uncle XX even though 2 aren't very much older than me. It's a sign of respect and one Aunt in particular likes it!

To be honest, I wouldn’t even consider my aunt or uncles husbands or wives either, so they wouldn’t even get any title. They are just married to my aunt or uncle. For example, my mum’s sister is Anne and her husband James. She is my aunt, he is just James.

Well, if you want to be called "aunty" and it feels special to you then I don't see the harm. It's hardly the worst crime and you are, in fact, their aunty. I always continued to use the term until my respective aunties and uncles died. However, I personally wouldn't correct them or embarrass them if they decide at nearly 30 years old to call you just Emma.

I haven't used 'Aunty' or 'Uncle' since I was a child, just first names. I would find it odd to hear an adult talking about their 'Aunty X'

YANBU - I’m in my forties and still call my Aunties “Auntie Jane/Sue/Jackie”.

No, of course yanbu. It's your special term of affection. It's fine to ask, but they may choose not to do it. Nothing remotely wrong with asking though.

I'm Needsomewarmsunshine to everyone, other than adult dc, their choice, but first name to grandkids, the world and its wife. Never have used titles except for Mrs.
Don't care for relation titles either always sound jarring , first names provided other party is okay with it.

I agree. Personally, I quite like still using these titles 😊.

He's 28 and you call him "cheeky" for not calling you Aunty - seriously?

Same here! Saying that, I’ve noticed my brother sometimes call my uncle by his name recently (without the ‘uncle’), which sounds odd to me (not saying it is, just that it’s not what I’m used to).