To want my adult niece and nephew to call my Aunty Emma?

I'm in my 70s and my DC and DGC have always just used first names.

I’ve never been called anything except my first name by nephews and nieces ( all by marriage) step children and now sons in law. It’s my name, wouldn’t expect to be called anything else. Dsgc has always used my name too.

But I never called them Granny Mary or whatever just Granny. So I think it's different. I'm in my 40s and have never used uncle or aunt Infront of their names.
My nephews and nieces did for a while but certainly not by the time they were at secondary school .
YABU.

Always used auntie, uncle, still do 40 yrs later and so does my massive extended family, older and younger.

I'm British, 32, female. Me and my siblings always call our aunts and uncles 'aunty X' 'uncle Y'. Would never dream of just calling them by their first names.

But then I appreciate I'm from a different culture... where I'm originally from we call our parents friends eg Aunty Jane out of respect. If they're the generation above.

Hopefully he took it on good spirit and you said it on good humour. I quite like to keep the titles going, but I would refer myself just by my name now to adult neices and nephews and let them do as they wish.

50 in a few days and still use it, it feels right to me.

My adult nephews still use it for me, I don't think it's odd.

And no, I would never say, Granny is ill, without explanation, that is odd.

Wow I'm surprised at the vote.

I've lived in the uk for most of my life and naturalised British but I guess this is one of the things I've subconsciously kept from my original heritage - I'd gasp in shock if I saw a nephew or niece do that.

Don't you still call your grandparents Gran and Grandad (or whatever) as an adult? And your parents Mum and Dad? Why don't the aunts and uncles still keep their titles?

Are you my MIL?

She stopped talking to DH's cousin because she didn't call her 'Auntie X'.

She visibly flinches when I use her first name (I'm her DIL). I'm in my mid forties!

It's called the authoritarian personality. Strict hierarchies so that you can treat people beneath you with contempt and kow-tow to those above you.

But that’s not your name.

Aunty is your relationship to them. Your name is Emma.

The only time I call my Aunties ‘Auntie first name’ is if I am referencing them to someone who doesn’t know them so I don’t need to explain who they are. So if someone asked what I am doing today ‘I am meeting aunty X for lunch’, rather than ‘I am meeting my auntie for lunch’ or ‘I am meeting X who is my auntie’ .

Aw I’m 45 and I still call my aunts, uncles and godparents Aunty and Uncle.

I’d definitely find it weird if they corrected me if I didn’t though. So don’t do that.

Out of interest, are the adults on this thread referring to other adults as Aunty Alice or whatever the same people who talk about their family members without using 'my'. So "Grandma is ill" rather than "My grandma is ill" when talking to people outside the family. Again my husband's family do this and it drives me mad!

Annoys me too OP. But it's seen as old fashioned. I still use uncle and auntie for mine. Personally I think it shows respect and I love the family connection.

I wouldn't have mind if I'd been asked but it was just dropped. I was proud to be auntie, as a lot of modern things I'm just sidelined.

My niece calls me just by my name which I encouraged from when she was quite young but despite my advancing years, I still call both my aunts and uncles, all in their 90s now, aunty and uncle in front of their name.

I know it's weird but I can't seem to drop the aunty and uncle bit. 😆

I think it's perfectly fine they don't call you aunty Emma, just plain old Emma.

Calling my aunts and uncles “Aunt/Uncle X” was something that gradually stopped with childhood for me. I’d write it in a card, but just say their names. If that was your reaction though, you might not have to worry a huge amount about what your nephew calls you when he’s around.

I always call aunts and uncles, by auntie or uncle with their name. It’s special to me to have aunts and uncles I would dream of calling them by their first names only.

I guess you could say that we’re quite a traditional family, but the young generation has NEVER referred to us as Aunty or Uncle. I did to mine when I was little but around my mid to late teens I must have stopped. It’s a very old-fashioned concept really.

To me, that’s ridiculous.

My nieces and nephews called me by just my first name from when they could speak. We’ve never used Aunty or Uncle in my family.

My 50 year old brother in law still calls his 80 year old aunt Aunty. It makes us laugh and him sound like an overgrown toddler.

Me and my cousins are all in our 40s and 50s and still use Aunty and Uncle before names!

Haha the responses to this are making me laugh because I had no idea people drop the title.. mid thirties here and still referring to all aunts and uncles with their title. That works for me and I will continue to do so but if they don't want to I don't suppose you can enforce it

Even the grandchildren call me by my first name. My neices and nephews only throw the Aunty in when they are being cheeky

My kids call theirs by their first name. Is this real? Are you from 1800's? Bizarre!!!

Your name isn't Aunty's Emma it's Emma. My nephew couldn't pronounce my name and called my a cute nickname, then my sister had a kid and so on, anyway they all called me this name, then they grew up and now call me my actual name.

You sound like Miss Marple. 😁