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Not trying to be inflammatory but why do people *need* more than two kids?

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ConstantlyFuriosa · 27/07/2024 05:01

Just that.

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Edingril · 27/07/2024 05:25

Because it seems to be a hobby

FateReset · 27/07/2024 05:24

This puzzles me too. You would think, after the second child they would ask themselves if they can afford to have a third and give it a good upbringing, without the first ones missing out.
I sort of understand when people have 2 boys yet desperately want a daughter and had hoped their second was a girl, this seems a fairly common reason for having 3+ kids.

Tibssix · 27/07/2024 05:22

TheOriginalEmu · 27/07/2024 05:21

Me too. It’s bloody hilarious trying to keep 5 under 6 alive, I highly recommend it as therapy if you’re sad, just sacrifice sanity, financial stability, personal space, any notion of quiet and pelvic floor and you too can have the funniest time!

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TheOriginalEmu · 27/07/2024 05:21

Tibssix · 27/07/2024 05:18

Nobody needs kids. I have 5 for a laugh.

Me too. It’s bloody hilarious trying to keep 5 under 6 alive, I highly recommend it as therapy if you’re sad, just sacrifice sanity, financial stability, personal space, any notion of quiet and pelvic floor and you too can have the funniest time!

PurpleFlower1983 · 27/07/2024 05:19

No one needs any, the planet certainly doesn’t. Counties need them for workers/tax payers but if we carry on as we are there won’t be a need for any of it in the not so distant future anyway.

Plenty of people want them though.

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ConstantlyFuriosa · 27/07/2024 05:19

No issue, per se. Prompted by the two child benefit cap. Am interested in perspectives.

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Firefly1987 · 27/07/2024 05:18

I don't want any but I'm the youngest of three and my mum wanted a girl after two boys. My dad was not really fussed about having a third (he had his boys to take shooting and fishing) and I was basically a drunken accident I think, which is always good to know! My mum was happy about it, my dad less so (they were both fairly old at the time) but he came around eventually. My mum had pretty easy births (was induced with me, just cos of high blood pressure I think) but all went fine, so no horrific birthing experiences to put her off.

Tibssix · 27/07/2024 05:18

Nobody needs kids. I have 5 for a laugh.

MillyMollyMand · 27/07/2024 05:17

What’s your particular issue with it?

unlimiteddilutingjuice · 27/07/2024 05:13

Adults don't "need" any kids. They are motivated to have them. Because of our basic biological drives.
Kids need adults. They need to be cared for and provided for once they are here.
Societies need to replenish their population. To ensure workers and tax payers for the future. Many societies choose to invest public funds into children's welfare, as an investment into the adults they will one day become.

BigMandyHarris · 27/07/2024 05:10

I have 4, for no particular reason

SwingTheMonkey · 27/07/2024 05:06

I didn’t need more than 2. I wanted more than 2. So I had more than 2. Just that, really.

Morningsiesta · 27/07/2024 05:04

Yes, nobody needs any kids

MumChp · 27/07/2024 05:03

?

Just that.

heavenisaplaceonearth · 27/07/2024 05:02

Why do they “need” two? Or any? Why do you need more money than the basics?

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