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AIBU to remove MIL from Facebook?

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Hidingplace · 26/07/2024 20:42

MIL added me to FB years ago. Like many older people, she uses it a lot to post pictures etc and I use it very occasionally for personal reasons but follow local groups etc, which I find really useful. Hence, why I don’t want to take myself off.

Anyway, increasingly, MIL shares awful, racist posts. Often shares Britain First memes etc…it’s horrendous.

Partner is not like this at all. Years ago we had a big sort of discussion/argument with her at Christmas where he said that demonstrated how he would never change her mind.

Anyway, fast forward to now and I’m
getting so angry with some of the things I see. I tried to ‘hide’ her so I wouldn’t see her posts but it hasn’t seemed to work. I said to other half that I was going to remove her and send her a message along the lines of ‘sorry I’m going to have to remove you but I find many of your posts very upsetting but no hard feelings’. To be clear, if this was anyone else I would have done this ages ago!

AIBU to do this? Do I have to put up with the awful racist behaviour so as not cause any issues? I just feel like if you see this you should call it out, but equally do understand his unease.

Help!!!

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Hidingplace · 26/07/2024 20:58

Thank you. Just to be clear, I was going to send her a very kind message if I deleted her…I’m certainly not looking for any kind of fight. I hate conflict and arguing with family members is definitely not something I want to do.

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Hidingplace · 26/07/2024 20:56

Interesting, thanks for replies.
I don’t understand how I hadn’t managed to do this either as thought I had. I’ve done this to one person in the past (for different reasons) and I never see their posts. I think maybe because I have an old phone that plays up and so can’t use the app so have to use the web page, things don’t work or something. Maybe when I get a new phone I’ll get a nicer news feed.

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Kitkatcatflap · 26/07/2024 20:53

ButtSurgery · 26/07/2024 20:45

Just mute her /unfollow her. Saves the drama.

This.

She is not going to change, so it's not worth the fight. However, you don't have to put up with it. If she asks, tell her - I don't agree with with some of your posts, so rather than fall out it's best if I don't see them.

ThunderRoadRunner · 26/07/2024 20:51

Go into your FB and look at her latest post. Click the 3 dots in the top right and select “ unfollow MIL but remain friends”. You won’t see her posts and she’ll be non the wiser.

Zonder · 26/07/2024 20:47

Hide her. You don't have to be dramatic or try and make a point to her - she clearly won't hear it.

Cherrysoup · 26/07/2024 20:46

Block her via the privacy settings. Follow any groups you find useful on your own account, then block. You can Google how to do this and it will also stop her finding you. I don’t understand how you can’t do this or it hasn’t worked.

ButtSurgery · 26/07/2024 20:45

Just mute her /unfollow her. Saves the drama.

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