So today I'm off work and had ds (who is high needs due to asd /developmental delays) did a combination of activities and screen time this morning (use the screen time as a op to get housework done) Took ds out this afternoon.
Dh worked from home 8-1. Then he mowed lawn and tidied garden.
When I got back around 4 dh was prepping tea. I noticed water on the work top dripping to the floor. Dh had clearly been running the tap and as he had left his pots in the sink (not the dishwasher) it had splashed/ran off the pots on to work top. This has happened before and I've mentioned it as he just leaves it. The annoying thing is we have a half sink with no pots in he could use. I said there's water dripping to the floor. No reply.
I walked the dog and when I got back it was still dripping. I mentioned the work top will warp if we keep leaving it covered in water. (Dh said it won't)
Dh angrily grabbed a hand towel mopped some (but not all) of the water then threw the wet tea towel in the hall and said happy now? I said not really given it's still dripping and you used a hand towel to clean it up. He stormed out the room.
I left it a few minutes then went in. I sat down and explained that when he makes messes and leaves them for me to clean it feels like he values his time more than mine and he's too important to clean up.
Dh then retorted that I don't always put the cutlery in the right sections. I said that's not the same as spilling something and leaving it for someone else to clean.
Dh got angry and started shouting and swearing saying I never appreciate anything he does ( not true I always thank him for doing jobs etc )
I asked him not to shout and swear at me and he told me to stop taking the moral high ground and stormed off (again)
Am I wrong if he makes a mess to expect him to clean it up.?