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Friend had a go at me over a can of Diet Coke

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coldayscientist · 26/07/2024 14:11

Last Saturday friend had a few people around, she lives in the country so taxi/uber is impossible so all those drinking stayed over.

In the morning there was still some stuff out from the night before, including cans of Diet Coke, I opened one and had a sip, put it down not really thinking and said my goodbyes, my friend said “aren’t you taking that with you?” I responded “no I’m good thanks” and she retorted “what I’m absolute waste” - awkward silence, I grabbed the can, mumbled sorry and left.

Shes now messaged me to apologised. I’m just so annoyed that she spoke to me like a child.

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annamilo · 26/07/2024 18:00

NeverDropYourMooncup · 26/07/2024 14:21

Hangovers rarely make for good relationships. And she's had a bunch of people hanging around her, along with probably a fair bit of cleaning to do.

She hardly said anything bad though just stating facts

PreciousMahoney · 26/07/2024 17:59

Yeh it might sound petty but it's the disrespect of taking a sip then discarding it at your arse for her to clear up.

So apart from the waste it was something a toddler would do. No you didn't have to ask if they were left over but the right thing would be to take it with you.

No need for her to apologise

AquaLeader · 26/07/2024 17:58

You opened a can, took a sip and then left it there for your friend to clean up after you.

What childish behaviour.

TeaAndTattoos · 26/07/2024 17:57

YABU your friend is right it was a complete waste of a drink and how utterly rude are you than you would think nothing of opening a drink and then just leaving it in someone’s house after they where kind enough to not only host you in their home but also letting you stay it’s you who needs to apologise and learn to some manners my 10 year old niece has better manners than you.

annamilo · 26/07/2024 17:55

InTheRainOnATrain · 26/07/2024 14:17

It was an off the cuff snappy comment after a late night drinking and probably a shit nights sleep that she’s now said sorry for. And tbh she wasn’t wrong because it was a waste. Get over it and reply ‘no problem, thanks for having us’ would be my advice.

Huh? All she said was ‘what a waste’ which she is completely correct and this is such a non issue. ffs 🤦‍♀️ 😂

Shesellsseashellsunluckyshespoor · 26/07/2024 17:54

YABU because it is a waste
Annoyed she spoke to you like a child? For pointing out the truth???

annamilo · 26/07/2024 17:53

Procrastinates · 26/07/2024 14:13

I wouldn't have been as harsh as your friend but she's absolutely correct. One sip is ridiculously wasteful and to just leave the can there for her to clean up later seems pretty rude.

How was she harsh to say ‘what a waste’ 🤣 🤦‍♀️

annamilo · 26/07/2024 17:52

DirtyCheeseBurger · 26/07/2024 14:12

What a non event.

I know 🤣 seriously, if this is all they have to worry about 🙄 🤣

annamilo · 26/07/2024 17:51

What a ridiculous post 🤣 if you wasted a can by taking just one sip then your friend is right, she apologised so what’s even the issue?? Seriously, 🤦‍♀️ 🤣

phoenixrosehere · 26/07/2024 17:48

coldayscientist · 26/07/2024 15:11

Why would I ask? It was leftover on the buffet. If you go to a buffet or bbq etc and the host lays out food and drink on the table for guests do you ask every single time if it’s ok to have something?

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I do if I’m about to leave. It only takes a moment to ask the host.

I don’t see why wouldn’t you unless the host says to take some with you because they’ve overstocked or made too
much of something.

MyNameIsFine · 26/07/2024 17:48

You're friend was annoyed at you being so wasteful, was rather blunt about it, with hindsight regretted being rude to a guest, so messaged to apologise. Message back and say you're also sorry that you opened the coke when you didn't really want it and you're both good. This is not a difficult social interaction to negotiate!

ClemmyTine · 26/07/2024 17:45

She was right. You opened it, took a sip and left it there. If she didn't want it she would have had to empty it and put it in the bin.

I think you were rude and lazy.

Fargo79 · 26/07/2024 17:42

Sounds as though you just don't like being called out on crap behaviour, hence being annoyed now.

You were beyond rude and actually I would find that really disrespectful for a guest to be so casually and needlessly wasteful and then leave me with the can to clear away. My 6 year old knows better than this.

I don't know why your friend apologised. She did nothing wrong.

Sunshineandpool · 26/07/2024 17:42

I really want to know from the OP if she does this at home? Does she buy a 6 pack of cans and take one sip out of each one?

Although presumably her parents wouldn't let her!

Sunshineandpool · 26/07/2024 17:38

honeylulu · 26/07/2024 17:11

I really loathe this sort of selfishness and waste. In your friend's position I would have tried to bite my tongue but if I was feeling tired/hungover it might have slipped out.

If one of my kids had done that they would have had pretty short shrift from me. So maybe you were told off "like a child" but you deserved it. Most children would know better!

Yes, my children would never do this. As you say it snacks of selfishness and the friend was probably tired so the truth slipped out!

AllstarFacilier · 26/07/2024 17:36

You’re being petulant because you don’t like being told off. You were wasteful, it was pointed out. You can pout because she didn’t sugarcoat it like you’d have preferred, but ultimately you were in the wrong and called out and you’re reacting to that.

Eyelashesoffire · 26/07/2024 17:34

It reminds me of that scene in Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt where Jacqueline offers Kimmy a bottle of water and when she declined, Jacqueline throws the bottle straight in the bin. 🤣🤣
But seriously what a waste to take one sip.

Dumbledoresniece · 26/07/2024 17:22

You were obnoxious and rude. I wouldn’t even do that in a restaurant where I was paying for the drink. Wasteful.

Opentooffers · 26/07/2024 17:22

You behaved like an entitled child, so got treated like one. If the cap fits. You're lucky to have got an apology.

wtfissummer · 26/07/2024 17:22

Pharticle · 26/07/2024 16:57

Can’t believe there’s 9 pages of people complaining about a can. Get a life

Did you read all 9 pages.

Or are you too busy living a life?

MartyFunkhouser · 26/07/2024 17:20

I’d have held my comment in. It’s the sort of thing my kids would do when teens.

You were rude.

loudbatperson · 26/07/2024 17:20

I agree with your friend, it's a waste and just a mess for her to clear up.

Although as she apologised I am guessing she was probably a little more snippy than she intended, likely due to feeing a little ropey from the night before.

I would just let it go.

coldcallerbaiter · 26/07/2024 17:15

Friend is right. Sure friend could use the rest up but you have sipped from it, so what did you think would happen to the rest?

willWillSmithsmith · 26/07/2024 17:15

I wouldn’t have said anything but my sentiments would have been the same as your friend. I wouldn’t open a can at someone else’s home just to have a sip and leave it.

Menstrualcycledisplayteam · 26/07/2024 17:14

She's not the one who should be apologising.

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