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Friend had a go at me over a can of Diet Coke

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coldayscientist · 26/07/2024 14:11

Last Saturday friend had a few people around, she lives in the country so taxi/uber is impossible so all those drinking stayed over.

In the morning there was still some stuff out from the night before, including cans of Diet Coke, I opened one and had a sip, put it down not really thinking and said my goodbyes, my friend said “aren’t you taking that with you?” I responded “no I’m good thanks” and she retorted “what I’m absolute waste” - awkward silence, I grabbed the can, mumbled sorry and left.

Shes now messaged me to apologised. I’m just so annoyed that she spoke to me like a child.

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6pence · 26/07/2024 18:50

So op?

Didimum · 26/07/2024 18:45

Agree with your friend. Don’t do it in the future.

take10yearsofmylife · 26/07/2024 18:43

WorriedMama12 · 26/07/2024 18:28

To be fair, it was pretty selfish. Someone could have enjoyed the can of coke, instead of you taking one sip and leaving it.

Exactly

CaptainMyCaptain · 26/07/2024 18:41

Sethera · 26/07/2024 18:24

Sounds snappy to me. You don't always know how thirsty you are until you start to drink something; and we don't know where the friend lives - in some hard water areas, water straight from the tap tastes pretty foul.

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That's ridiculous.

LBFseBrom · 26/07/2024 18:40

Malahide · 26/07/2024 14:12

Your friend was harsh but correct.

I quite agree. You should have taken it with you without her having to tell you.

take10yearsofmylife · 26/07/2024 18:36

I think she just annoyed with your attitude (wasteful), I would be upset if my kids do that! She just snapped at your behaviour, you are right, it is not worth getting angry at, that's why she apologised.

MonsteraMama · 26/07/2024 18:35

Sethera · 26/07/2024 18:24

Sounds snappy to me. You don't always know how thirsty you are until you start to drink something; and we don't know where the friend lives - in some hard water areas, water straight from the tap tastes pretty foul.

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She still could have taken the can with her instead of leaving it for her friend to clean up after taking her sip. It doesn't go off in three seconds, she could have finished it on the way home.

PracticalLady · 26/07/2024 18:30

Not hugely wasteful, but I do agree you should have taken it with you. She apologised, so let it go.

WorriedMama12 · 26/07/2024 18:28

To be fair, it was pretty selfish. Someone could have enjoyed the can of coke, instead of you taking one sip and leaving it.

Walkaround · 26/07/2024 18:26

Sethera · 26/07/2024 18:24

Sounds snappy to me. You don't always know how thirsty you are until you start to drink something; and we don't know where the friend lives - in some hard water areas, water straight from the tap tastes pretty foul.

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If you only need one sip of something, you aren’t thirsty at all.

Sethera · 26/07/2024 18:24

DuncanMeBiscuit · 26/07/2024 18:12

The friend wasn't snappy.

If the OP only wanted a sip of something, she should've gone to the kitchen tap.

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Sounds snappy to me. You don't always know how thirsty you are until you start to drink something; and we don't know where the friend lives - in some hard water areas, water straight from the tap tastes pretty foul.

DressOrSkirt · 26/07/2024 18:19

Not just wasteful but really rude. You just left it there for her to clean up after you?

LegendInMyOwnLunchtime · 26/07/2024 18:18

coldayscientist · 26/07/2024 17:02

And yet so many have answered it 😂. So “triviality” but you still take time to read AND comment

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Err, people have answered the question you asked, and told you that yes YABU for being upset because it is a non event.

Pp read, and answered the question you asked from their own pov.

Maybe you should have drink the full can and your bear with sore head feeling would have worn off.

My advice is to reply graciously to your friend’s message and thank her for her hospitality.

Ivehearditbothways · 26/07/2024 18:17

coldayscientist · 26/07/2024 17:02

And yet so many have answered it 😂. So “triviality” but you still take time to read AND comment

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But 96% of the people replying agree with your friend and think what you did was wasteful and selfish. Any comment?

Epicaricacy · 26/07/2024 18:16

I would tell my kids off for doing this, and I would expect an adult to behave a bit better.

ShillyShallySherbet · 26/07/2024 18:16

Yeah OP you sound like an entitled child so that is why you were spoken to like one. No idea why your friend has apologised.

brunettemic · 26/07/2024 18:14

Get a grip, honestly don’t know how people like you manage to function on a day to day basis.

sweetpickle2 · 26/07/2024 18:12

You're lucky she apologised, and yet you're still annoyed at her? Grow up.

DuncanMeBiscuit · 26/07/2024 18:12

Sethera · 26/07/2024 18:08

Understandable in the haze of a hangover that you might do this without thinking, so your friend was in the wrong to be snappy with you. Also, if you're travelling, an open can isn't the easiest of things to take with you.

Finally, once the can is open and sipped, that's that. It makes no material difference to your friend whether you finish it or not; she is still a can down.

However, she was hungover too, and she's apologised, so draw a line and move on.

The friend wasn't snappy.

If the OP only wanted a sip of something, she should've gone to the kitchen tap.

PeachSnake · 26/07/2024 18:11

I'm guessing you are about 15 or 16, my kids used to do that and it drove me nuts. It's not her that needed to apologise its you who needs to become more aware. Sorry😉

LegendInMyOwnLunchtime · 26/07/2024 18:09

Mindless thoughtless waste

She apologised for the way she spoke to you.

And you are bitching on about her instead of replying “it’s fine, and anyway, you were right , it was wasteful. Lovely evening, thanks so much for having us”

Sethera · 26/07/2024 18:08

Understandable in the haze of a hangover that you might do this without thinking, so your friend was in the wrong to be snappy with you. Also, if you're travelling, an open can isn't the easiest of things to take with you.

Finally, once the can is open and sipped, that's that. It makes no material difference to your friend whether you finish it or not; she is still a can down.

However, she was hungover too, and she's apologised, so draw a line and move on.

Hellodollydaydream · 26/07/2024 18:06

Why the hell did your friend apologise you should've done

annamilo · 26/07/2024 18:04

Beth216 · 26/07/2024 14:36

I think it was very good of her to apologise, she obviously realised it wasn't worth falling out over and is being the bigger person. She was annoyed because you were annoying - now you need to act like a grown up and apologise for your behaviour.

But apologising for stating that it was wasteful which it is. OP is way too sensitive

Walkaround · 26/07/2024 18:04

Well, apart from apologising to you, she wasn’t wrong 🤣.

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