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Friend had a go at me over a can of Diet Coke

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coldayscientist · 26/07/2024 14:11

Last Saturday friend had a few people around, she lives in the country so taxi/uber is impossible so all those drinking stayed over.

In the morning there was still some stuff out from the night before, including cans of Diet Coke, I opened one and had a sip, put it down not really thinking and said my goodbyes, my friend said “aren’t you taking that with you?” I responded “no I’m good thanks” and she retorted “what I’m absolute waste” - awkward silence, I grabbed the can, mumbled sorry and left.

Shes now messaged me to apologised. I’m just so annoyed that she spoke to me like a child.

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coldayscientist · 26/07/2024 22:29

Charlottescobweb · 26/07/2024 21:25

I grew up with very little everyday was fish finger and mash with bake beans. I appreciate what I have and would not waste anything. I was under weight when I was child. I wouldn't let anything go to waste I know what it's like to be poor.

Still didn’t answer the question though.

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Daisybuttercup12345 · 26/07/2024 22:25

I agree with your friend.
Childish and wasteful on your part.
Have you always been this annoying?

forgotmypassagain · 26/07/2024 22:25

Me thinks you want an argument.

annamilo · 26/07/2024 22:24

Fargo79 · 26/07/2024 17:42

Sounds as though you just don't like being called out on crap behaviour, hence being annoyed now.

You were beyond rude and actually I would find that really disrespectful for a guest to be so casually and needlessly wasteful and then leave me with the can to clear away. My 6 year old knows better than this.

I don't know why your friend apologised. She did nothing wrong.

Totally agree

Helpmeimtired · 26/07/2024 22:22

I’m suddenly really thirsty.

CountessWindyBottom · 26/07/2024 21:55

coldayscientist · 26/07/2024 21:11

Aww I love sheep 🐑

What age are you?

ttcat37 · 26/07/2024 21:55

coldayscientist · 26/07/2024 21:06

A present for the host? No because I don’t wear pearls, live in a cul de sac and live in the 1950s 😂

Probably why she was pissed off, you sound like an awful guest. Good manners aren’t reserved for those who wear pearls, live in cul de sacs or the 1950s. Never turn up empty handed, always offer to help, always say thank you when leaving and the following day.

TheSilentSister · 26/07/2024 21:43

OP. Have a party, supply everything and invite all of us. We'll be sure to take a chuck out of all the food, a sip out of every drink and then just leave it. Lets see you fester. Cheeky fecker.

AllstarFacilier · 26/07/2024 21:36

LiquoriceAllsorts2 · 26/07/2024 21:15

Just wow. You sound like you’re about 12. Grow up and.start acting decently towards people

She’s defo out trolling. Claiming to have been embarrassed and mumbling sorry for opening a can of Coke and then coming on here to argue with people. Aye right.

BarHumbugs · 26/07/2024 21:36

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It's not going to be the decent bits left over for you to piss on, is it?

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 26/07/2024 21:36

coldayscientist · 26/07/2024 21:06

A present for the host? No because I don’t wear pearls, live in a cul de sac and live in the 1950s 😂

Well - I was born in the 60s, and I still believe in politeness and good manners. In time, you might learn that old fashioned politeness makes life easier - it smooths social interactions. And the opposite is true too - if you get a reputation as someone who is rude, ill-mannered, and ungrateful, you may find yourself losing friends.

Being boorish is not, as you seem to believe, something to be proud of. I would be ashamed if any of my sons acted like you, or sounded as rude as you. But the poor things have had my old fashioned politeness instilled in them.

Charlottescobweb · 26/07/2024 21:25

OkPedro · 26/07/2024 20:15

What would happen? you would harm a friend? Or just realise there are bigger things in your life to get angry about and forget about it?

I grew up with very little everyday was fish finger and mash with bake beans. I appreciate what I have and would not waste anything. I was under weight when I was child. I wouldn't let anything go to waste I know what it's like to be poor.

LiquoriceAllsorts2 · 26/07/2024 21:15

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Just wow. You sound like you’re about 12. Grow up and.start acting decently towards people

WigglyVonWaggly · 26/07/2024 21:12

I think it’s a bit selfish to open a canned drink, take one drink then dump it for someone else to clear. Why open it if you didn’t want it? Why were you expecting maid service after?

coldayscientist · 26/07/2024 21:11

CountessWindyBottom · 26/07/2024 21:09

As has been demonstrated through the entirety of the thread, you have the manners and finesse of a badly reared barn animal.

Aww I love sheep 🐑

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CountessWindyBottom · 26/07/2024 21:09

coldayscientist · 26/07/2024 21:06

A present for the host? No because I don’t wear pearls, live in a cul de sac and live in the 1950s 😂

As has been demonstrated through the entirety of the thread, you have the manners and finesse of a badly reared barn animal.

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 26/07/2024 21:09

coldayscientist · 26/07/2024 21:06

A present for the host? No because I don’t wear pearls, live in a cul de sac and live in the 1950s 😂

I also do not wear pearls, live on a cul de sac or in the 1950s.

But if someone invites you to their home, feeds you, houses you for the night and you drink all (or one sip) their drinks, it's good manners to thank them with flowers, chocolates, wine etc.

Your OP and responses suggest you have zero manners though.

CaptainMyCaptain · 26/07/2024 21:07

coldayscientist · 26/07/2024 21:06

A present for the host? No because I don’t wear pearls, live in a cul de sac and live in the 1950s 😂

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coldayscientist · 26/07/2024 21:07

Julianne65 · 26/07/2024 20:48

I think it was weird and rude of you. You opened a can and took a sip. Someone else might have been able to have the whole can but can’t now. Then left the can for someone else to clean up. Your friend actually. Very strange.

Well I’m sure of the 10 cans there and the 3 people that stayed over, I’m sure they didn’t go thirsty.

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coldayscientist · 26/07/2024 21:06

arethereanyleftatall · 26/07/2024 19:21

Did you do the following normal things to do op..

Bring something to the bbq. A pudding for example. A bottle of wine too. And a present for the host- some flowers or chocolates?

Then the morning after did you help clean the mess? Again, normal for a friend to do who's stayed over.

Did you thank her profusely upon leaving?

Do you plan to reciprocate?

The above four things would be the basic norm of etiquette. I'm guessing if you've got this long in life without realising it's really fucking rude to open someone's can of drink, take a swig and just leave it; then you might not also know basic etiquette.

A present for the host? No because I don’t wear pearls, live in a cul de sac and live in the 1950s 😂

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Julianne65 · 26/07/2024 20:48

I think it was weird and rude of you. You opened a can and took a sip. Someone else might have been able to have the whole can but can’t now. Then left the can for someone else to clean up. Your friend actually. Very strange.

Cherrysoup · 26/07/2024 20:15

Blimey, seriously poor etiquette there, OP. Taking one sip-wasteful, then leaving it for her to clear up? Beyond rude. She’s not your maid.

OkPedro · 26/07/2024 20:15

Charlottescobweb · 26/07/2024 15:08

Leave an open can full of coke in my house and see what happens.

What would happen? you would harm a friend? Or just realise there are bigger things in your life to get angry about and forget about it?

mumedu · 26/07/2024 20:05

You are thoughtless and should be feeling sheepish.

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