Friend had a go at me over a can of Diet Coke

@MyNameIsFine it was a scummy thing to do - open a fresh can, slobber on it, then put it back, making it unpleasant for someone else, and therefore wasting a perfectly good drink. Rude behaviour. But yes, I agree, the worse part is that despite the friend (unnecessarily) apologising, OP thinks she has the moral high ground.

This thread is going over the top now! All she did was take a sip from a can a coke and then decide she didn't want it any more! What's petty and odd is not accepting the friend's apology. She was a bit grumpy over a can of coke, but now she's apologised. Why not just accept it and move on? Why start a thread about it on mumsnet?

I'd feel the same as your friend. I can't stand waste! Just don't open the can if you won't drink it all (or most of it). My DD has a friend who'll stay over. If we give her a croissant or pain au chocolate, she'll take one bite and bin the rest! Drives me mad! Someone else could have had it.

By that token, the friend could have drunk the leftovers. She could have decanted it into a bottle to preserve the fizz.

@Sethera do you really not understand?

If you buy a chicken pie and you’re full after half of it, you’d probably put the rest in the fridge and eat it later.

If you’re at the home of someone who has hosted, and as you’re leaving you open a fresh can, take one sip and abandon it - you’re basically rendering a can of drink undrinkable for anyone else, when all you wanted was a sip. Why not get a small amount of water from the tap, if you’re not that thirsty? Why waste a whole can?

Of course it does. If you only want a sip you don't open it in the first place.

Of course not. You eat leftovers then next day or whatever. You don't waste them, obviously.

What is the point of your post? It is clear that you have zero interest in reflecting on your behaviour. You think she is wrong and that you are not rude despite 96% of votes saying you are and 100% of the comments agreeing. You are rude. You behaved disrespectfully in front of your host. You can disagree with that all you want, but that doesn't override what your host and everyone else think about your behaviour. Your friend only apologised because she has manners. Did you bother to offer to help clear up before you fucked off?

If this is true then you were very rude OP, and I expect everyone talked about you after you left, and how rude you were. I’m shocked that you can’t see this is scummy behaviour.

Sorry to say but I agree with OP here.

The norm around here is you bring something for the buffet or you bring something for people to drink. But you don't bring chocolates or flowers for the host. If you're having 10 friends round you don't really want 10 bunches of flowers taking up space or 10 boxes of chocolates to sit in the cupboard.

But, OP was rude as hell to crack open a can, take a sip and expect someone else to tidy up after her.

The can is a sunk cost! It doesn't matter how much of it you drink once it's opened.

If you buy a chicken pie for dinner and halfway through eating it, you're full, do you force down the rest of it just to avoid the waste?

Team Friend here too

And what is your age? You still haven't told us.

You have to be a troll or just extremely immature. The thing is, don’t bring a pathetic argument to Mumsnet if you aren’t going to take in what people are saying. You asked us and with a resounding YES you are being unreasonable as well and rude, arrogant and immature. Grow up as it’s embarrassing

So you do this at home do you? Drink one sip out of each of your cans because you can't possibly know how thirsty you are until you've opened a can and sipped from it? Do you do it in cafes too? Have a sip of your coffee, thirst quenched and off you go!.Assuming you are a teenager too - surely adults don't act like that?!

I would hope that neither of my DSs opens a can of coke, takes a few sips and then leaves it. What a waste.

You were in the wrong to do that. Your friend was a bit blunt - I wouldn’t have said anything to a guest. I would certainly have said something to my DS. She’s apologised. You should apologise for wasting the can.

But, did you do any of the other things? I am guessing the answer is "no", since you only decided to mention one thing.

P.S. Everyone knows it's not 1950. Bringing a gift for the host is the sign of being an adult and a person with manners. The year is meaningless.

This!

You sound so very charming and lucky to have any friends 🙄

OP AIBU

MN YABU

OP no I'm not, then acts like a badly behaved child.👧

In a hungover state I could have seen my younger self doing something like this. But I now agree with your friend, it is a waste.

I go away with my friend and her kids a few times a year and as a treat we buy cans of coke. By the end of the week I find half drunk cans all over the apartment, drives me batshit as a, it's wasteful and b, it's expensive stuff to take a sip and leave

If you were thirsty just as you were about to leave, have a glass of tap water. If you really fancied Coke, opening a new can for just one swig and then leaving it, is both rude and wasteful. I am guessing you are young OP so all these are life lessons! You asked people’s opinions so don’t be defensive if you get honest answers!

That does not make it right. It just means you have friends who are almost as rude and immature as you (at least they contribute food/drink).

Hopefully you will grow up one day.

I think you sound not only rude but immature