Friend had a go at me over a can of Diet Coke

Would this behaviour be more or less acceptable if it had been a bottle of Bollinger?

Please don't say this, pigs are really intelligent and better behaved.

Are you 12?

Seriously this has to be a school holidays post because no grown adult could go through life being so pig ignorant

I think the apology is meant to give you maximum opportunity to say it was your fault which, on the whole, it was.

Your friend said what anyone else would have been thinking . You were rude op.

you are acting like a 4 year old,
wasting food!

Good. Bertie never took gifts to all those house parties he went to.

What on earth is wrong with you?!

It was wasteful and absolutely selfish of you!

I’m not surprised your friend said anything. Are you always this entitled?

Funnily enough, that’s the kind of things my kids do. Many people may have been too polite to say anything, but your friend was correct in her opinion (assuming the can was not bought and paid for by you).
If you wanted literally 1 sip of something you could have easily had a sip of water, why open a whole can.
But the thing that would annoy me most is leaving the can (whether you bought it or not) for me to clean up. And I wouldn’t have apologised.

I think the OP is really really young based on these responses. As in 15/16. Op I am 39 and always take something for the host ie flowers or a bottle of wine. All of my peers do it too.

Hundreds have answered your question and you've been equally rude to everyone you've responded to.

Yes, you were unreasonable. No, your friend was not. You should apologise. Your friend shouldn't have. Your friend(s) will one day realise they dislike you and that will be that.

I agree that what you did was unreasonable, it was a waste.

I would rather have a friend pull me up on something at the time than let things fester; or worse tell other people behind my back.

To me, she seems like a good friend to have.

It's not so much about the coke as OP's complete lack of manners and awareness. You obviously share her graceless personality.

Friend really didn’t just ’have a go’. They picked up on an actual thing, OP was being thoughtless with the host’s generosity and very rude. Creating wasteful mess right on your way out of the door is way too childlike to be acceptable, so it willl be taken as quite offensive. Host was right to be annoyed.

You posted because you needed, and hoped for, validation. Deep down you know she was right, but your ego is too fragile to accept you might have acted poorly- hence the snide or ‘funny’ remarks to people who have agreed with your friend. Classic ego defence.

Her apology was like a red rag to a bull, something for you to cling on to (her admittance of snapping at you), whilst also presenting you with a challenge (apologising gave her the moral high ground especially as it was your behaviour- waste and poor understanding of social etiquette, that activated the snapping in the first place). Her challenge inadvertently made you feel even shitter about yourself (though possibly subconsciously).

You were rude and wasteful but you’ve been called out and it’s a bit of a non-event now as your friend has apologised. At least you might think twice next time. Just apologise back and let it be.

Crikey OP my kids from about the age of 2 would’ve known that what you did was completely unacceptable. Really wasteful and disrespectful. Can’t believe she apologised to you, you should’ve apologised to her. How entitled are you ffs?

@coldayscientist I’m just so annoyed that she spoke to me like a child.
I'm certain that as a scientist you'll be familiar with Newton's Third Law of Motion.

That's the "every action has an equal and opposite reaction" one. You know, the one where he got bonked on the bonce by a Golden Delicious and discovered that acting like a petulant child gets you treated like a petulant child.

Why have you posted here if you were completely unwilling to reflect on your actions?

I'd have the 10 boxes of chocolates but they wouldn't be sitting in the cupboard for very long (probably lucky to get to the cupboard in the first place)

Not read RTFT, just the responses of the OP.

They are twelve in the head but a school holidays teen in reality.

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On behalf of barn animals everywhere I take exception to this.

Of course you were rude, your answers on here are rude.

Drinking from a can is yuk.

If this is your general attitude it's fucking amazing that you were invited in the first place. If it had been my party you wouldn't be invited again.

When someone opens up their home and provides food and drink and a bed for the night, to turn round and treat their hospitality like this is disgraceful. Did you even bother to thank them when you left?

Taking something, a bottle of wine or 6 pack, is just basic good manners. Turning up to a social event empty handed is bloody rude. It costs nothing to be polite but you sound like an entitled, self-centred twat.

What you wear and where and when you live are irrelevant. You can wear jeggings and a hoodie, live on the 15th floor of a block of flats and very much in the here and now and have perfectly good manners and treat people and their homes with respect.

It’s just a can of coke , I wouldn’t have even made a thread about it.
recycle and move on