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Friend had a go at me over a can of Diet Coke

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coldayscientist · 26/07/2024 14:11

Last Saturday friend had a few people around, she lives in the country so taxi/uber is impossible so all those drinking stayed over.

In the morning there was still some stuff out from the night before, including cans of Diet Coke, I opened one and had a sip, put it down not really thinking and said my goodbyes, my friend said “aren’t you taking that with you?” I responded “no I’m good thanks” and she retorted “what I’m absolute waste” - awkward silence, I grabbed the can, mumbled sorry and left.

Shes now messaged me to apologised. I’m just so annoyed that she spoke to me like a child.

OP posts:
DottieMoon · 26/07/2024 14:54

Eart · 26/07/2024 14:13

Sorry but I agree with her.

Why would you open a can to take one sip then leave it? That's so rude and wasteful!

Cans aren't cheap either.

Agree

Sounds like something a child would do she spoke to you correctly!

Funnywonder · 26/07/2024 14:54

I wouldn't have expressed it quite like your friend did, but I agree with her. And I wouldn't have apologised. Terrible waste. And very lazy to just leave it lying at her arse.

KatiesMumWoof · 26/07/2024 14:53

Normalwahatisnormal · 26/07/2024 14:15

She's dead right, what a waste

@Normalwahatisnormal

why would she want to when the OP has already slobbered over the can AND not many people want warm Diet Coke first thing in the morning.

@coldayscientist

why not just have some water? You were wasteful & rude.

ItsTheGAGGGGGGGG · 26/07/2024 14:49

Don’t you have common manners? Why did you put the can back down expecting someone else to clean up after you? That’s actually very rude

LittleGreenDragons · 26/07/2024 14:49

Posting for the deletion message as there is no way this isn't a reverse (which isn't allowed btw).

Why did you apologise to your thoughtless friend? And more to the point, did she use a coaster? 😬

ByCupidStunt · 26/07/2024 14:48

Why did you do that? Genuine question

WiddlinDiddlin · 26/07/2024 14:48

You behaved like a child... a pretty rude, ignorant child at that.

Taking a new can, opening it, having a sip and then just dumping it on the table and going to leave...

Rude as fuck. I'd have been a lot sharper!

Flumpie59 · 26/07/2024 14:47

She did apologize so don't let it bother you any more! It was only a can of coke!

paddlinglikecrazy · 26/07/2024 14:47

It was really wasteful, just leaving her with a coke you’d taken a sip out of ? She spoke to you like a child because it’s the sort of thing a kid would do.

Tumblingjungleofchaos · 26/07/2024 14:47

Procrastinates · 26/07/2024 14:13

I wouldn't have been as harsh as your friend but she's absolutely correct. One sip is ridiculously wasteful and to just leave the can there for her to clean up later seems pretty rude.

Yep.

You were thoughtless and wasteful. Maybe you need to be spoken to more often about your behaviour!

prescribingmum · 26/07/2024 14:47

Behave like a child then expect to be spoken to as though you are one.
My 7 year old knows better than to be so wasteful

Shoxfordian · 26/07/2024 14:46

Yabu and casual about your friend's house and stuff

BarbedButterfly · 26/07/2024 14:45

Totally agree with her

stopthepigeonstopthepigeon · 26/07/2024 14:44

Well you opened a can of drink you had not intention of actually drinking because you wanted “a sip”. It is a waste isn’t it?

GogAndMagog · 26/07/2024 14:44

She didn't have a go, didn't speak to you like a child and yes, you were in the wrong.

Did you thank her for the party and hosting you?

user8464987632 · 26/07/2024 14:44

Another in agreement that it was a complete waste and she did nothing wrong.

ComealongMartha · 26/07/2024 14:44

The only thing that your friend has done wrong is to apologise! It was a non event and she stated a fact. It was wasteful.

Favouritefruits · 26/07/2024 14:42

Your friend was correct to confront you, there’s people without food and drink and you’re wasting it so freely. I would be so embarrassed if my kids took a drink and didn’t finish it at someone’s house never mind a grown adult.

SecondClassmyass · 26/07/2024 14:41

Reminds me of my cousin who came to stay with me for the weekend. I left a fresh towel for her in the bathroom. She came out of the bathroom and asked if I can give her another one as she dropped this one on the floor 🫳🏼

Itisjustmyopinion · 26/07/2024 14:40

SummerSummeySun · 26/07/2024 14:16

Unless this is a ....dundundunnnnn

Reverse....

My first reaction too. Or even if it’s not OP will come back and say it was because people are not agreeing with her and she is obviously unreasonable

TarantinoIsAMisogynist · 26/07/2024 14:40

Iamuhtredsonofuhtred · 26/07/2024 14:37

If you were both hungover and tired then I wouldn’t give it another thought. You were dozy and thoughtless and she was arsey. It happens

I don't think the friend was arsey. She stated a fact: "What an absolute waste"

What should she have said instead?

(The OP was very blazé about wasting someone else's stuff. I bet she's not so relaxed when she's the one who's paying.)

Katiesaidthat · 26/07/2024 14:38

My husband doe this, does my head in.

TheHuntSyndicate · 26/07/2024 14:37

No need for her to apologise. You were wasteful.

Iamuhtredsonofuhtred · 26/07/2024 14:37

If you were both hungover and tired then I wouldn’t give it another thought. You were dozy and thoughtless and she was arsey. It happens

Loloj · 26/07/2024 14:37

This is a complete non-event and happened almost a week ago. I think you need to stop thinking about it and stop feeling annoyed!