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Friend had a go at me over a can of Diet Coke

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coldayscientist · 26/07/2024 14:11

Last Saturday friend had a few people around, she lives in the country so taxi/uber is impossible so all those drinking stayed over.

In the morning there was still some stuff out from the night before, including cans of Diet Coke, I opened one and had a sip, put it down not really thinking and said my goodbyes, my friend said “aren’t you taking that with you?” I responded “no I’m good thanks” and she retorted “what I’m absolute waste” - awkward silence, I grabbed the can, mumbled sorry and left.

Shes now messaged me to apologised. I’m just so annoyed that she spoke to me like a child.

OP posts:
ItsAlrightDarling · 26/07/2024 15:11

Assuming this is a reverse but whoever had a sip of the Coke and then left it was BU, obviously.

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coldayscientist · 26/07/2024 15:11

SeeSeeRider · 26/07/2024 14:20

I think it would have been nice to ask first before snapping open one of her cans. I don't see any mention of doing that. That would have got me pissed off to start with, and when you just took a sip and plonked it down that would have put the lid on it, and you sound a bit sort of thoughtless. How old are you?

Why would I ask? It was leftover on the buffet. If you go to a buffet or bbq etc and the host lays out food and drink on the table for guests do you ask every single time if it’s ok to have something?

OP posts:
Lavenderflower · 26/07/2024 15:10

I would not have said anything. She is not wrong. that was rude.

CountessWindyBottom · 26/07/2024 15:10

You were beyond rude @coldayscientist. And your friend was right to pull you up on it as it shows a lack of very basic manners.

Differentstarts · 26/07/2024 15:10

This is like my daughter says she's hungry asks for an apple takes a tiny bite and then says she's full and doesn't want it. Really pisses me off but she's 3. I wouldn't expect an adult to act like that

Monkeysatonthewall · 26/07/2024 15:09

People these days seem to be offended about absolutely anything.
Like another poster said, what a non-event....
And your friend was correct.

LittleGreenDragons · 26/07/2024 15:09

OkPedro · 26/07/2024 15:05

This thread is insane 😆 the op didn't harm anyone FFS

Correct.

But she's here complaining about a friend treating her like a child despite her behaving like a child, and most of us are agreeing with her friend. You obviously think OPs behaviour was acceptable. Why?

Charlottescobweb · 26/07/2024 15:08

OkPedro · 26/07/2024 15:05

This thread is insane 😆 the op didn't harm anyone FFS

Leave an open can full of coke in my house and see what happens.

OkPedro · 26/07/2024 15:05

This thread is insane 😆 the op didn't harm anyone FFS

OblivionAndBeyond · 26/07/2024 15:05

She was right in the intent, even if the delivery was a bit harsh - but then later apologised for the delivery.

Not sure what else you want from her or why you're still moaning a week later tbh.

Overtired345 · 26/07/2024 15:05

I’m just so annoyed that she spoke to me like a child.

Because you acted like a child. Who opens a can of coke, takes a sip and leaves it there?

She probably just blurted it out because she was surprised an adult would do that.

Thistooshallpass. · 26/07/2024 15:04

So annoying and so wasteful .
The entitled behaviour- "I want one sip then I'll just leave it ?! "
This really would grind my gears - despite being comfortably off now I grew up relatively poor - cans of drink were not on our radar as kids as they were far too expensive. So the wastefulness and lack of regard would upset me .

Charlottescobweb · 26/07/2024 15:04

OkPedro · 26/07/2024 14:56

Oh no not someone else's mouth 😧

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My 9 year old don't share bottles of drink with me anymore😢

Differentstarts · 26/07/2024 15:04

Wishimaywishimight · 26/07/2024 14:15

How is it a waste? Surely she could have poured the remainder into a glass?

What warm flat coke with backwash that her friend didnt even want 🤢🤮

Screamingabdabz · 26/07/2024 15:03

You were prepared to waste a whole can of Coke just for one sip? And leave it for her to clear up? Yep that is dick behaviour. Good for her for calling it out. I’ll be surprised if you’re invited back.

CaptainMyCaptain · 26/07/2024 15:03

Wishimaywishimight · 26/07/2024 14:15

How is it a waste? Surely she could have poured the remainder into a glass?

After someone else had drunk from the can? In any case it might have gone flat before anyone wanted it. It was a pointless waste.

BobbyBiscuits · 26/07/2024 15:02

Neither were totally wrong. But I wouldn't open a coke and take one sip and just leave it on the side. As no-one else can drink it so it's just going to be binned.
If I had my fill I'd pour it away and put the can in recycling. But I wouldn't snap at someone over it.

She apologised, you were both probably hung over and a bit fragile at that moment.

My solution, get full sugar coke instead. It's much tastier so less likely to be wasted. After a night on the sauce you need real sugar! 😂

Beautiful3 · 26/07/2024 15:02

I'd be annoyed too. Opening a can for a sip?!

ShouldhavebeencalledAppollo · 26/07/2024 15:00

Come that’s something a child would do.

You are in her home. You open a drink. Sip it. Put it down and go to leave?

So not only wasting it but just leaving it in the side for her to pour done the sink and bin?

and you are upset that she snapped at you? You were really rude.

Though I suspect this is quite true is it. A reverse?

Charlottescobweb · 26/07/2024 15:00

This is why I buy bottles of drink instead of cans. Op your friend thought you was a CF opening a can that someone else could have drank. You mumbled sorry do you normally act like a child?

PyongyangKipperbang · 26/07/2024 15:00

Only wanting a bit is fine but maybe asking if anyone wanted to share one would have been better than just wasting it.

I am afraid your friend is right and you are feeling salty that she put you in your place in front of other people. Good for her. Perhaps she spoke to you like a child because you were behaving like one, its the sort of thing I would expect a young thoughtless teenager to do not a grown adult.

maddiemookins16mum · 26/07/2024 15:00

Were you both still hanging from the night before?

PurpleHiker · 26/07/2024 14:57

You were in the wrong, but your friend values your friendship so she apologised as it's not worth falling out over. After you begrudgingly took the can, did you finish it, or chuck it?

OkPedro · 26/07/2024 14:56

SummerSummeySun · 26/07/2024 14:16

Ew when someone else has had their mouth around the can @Wishimaywishimight

Oh no not someone else's mouth 😧

Funnywonder · 26/07/2024 14:55

Sorry *your arse, not hers. But then this reads like a reverse.