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Friend had a go at me over a can of Diet Coke

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coldayscientist · 26/07/2024 14:11

Last Saturday friend had a few people around, she lives in the country so taxi/uber is impossible so all those drinking stayed over.

In the morning there was still some stuff out from the night before, including cans of Diet Coke, I opened one and had a sip, put it down not really thinking and said my goodbyes, my friend said “aren’t you taking that with you?” I responded “no I’m good thanks” and she retorted “what I’m absolute waste” - awkward silence, I grabbed the can, mumbled sorry and left.

Shes now messaged me to apologised. I’m just so annoyed that she spoke to me like a child.

OP posts:
Moveoverdarlin · 26/07/2024 17:12

It’s just the blatant disregard of her hospitality. She hosts a party, pays for food and drink, invites people to stay over and still hosting the next morning. Someone has paid for that coke and you just toss it aside because you don’t fancy it. My 4 year old does that.

When you say ‘why would I ask?’ It’s because the party is over, it’s the next morning. So wasteful.

honeylulu · 26/07/2024 17:11

I really loathe this sort of selfishness and waste. In your friend's position I would have tried to bite my tongue but if I was feeling tired/hungover it might have slipped out.

If one of my kids had done that they would have had pretty short shrift from me. So maybe you were told off "like a child" but you deserved it. Most children would know better!

UnctuousUnicorns · 26/07/2024 17:06

It is wasteful, though. Just have a drink of tap water if you're thirsty. 🤷‍♀️

Sunshineandpool · 26/07/2024 17:05

coldayscientist · 26/07/2024 15:11

Why would I ask? It was leftover on the buffet. If you go to a buffet or bbq etc and the host lays out food and drink on the table for guests do you ask every single time if it’s ok to have something?

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You do sound like a teenager.

peerie · 26/07/2024 17:04

Pharticle · 26/07/2024 16:57

Can’t believe there’s 9 pages of people complaining about a can. Get a life

They are compaining about a lack of manners

Muffin101 · 26/07/2024 17:03

She said it was a waste, which is true. You overreacted and pouted and sulked and so she felt she needed to apologise. She isn’t the one in the wrong but this is all so trivial, I’m amazed you care enough to post it on here.

BippityBopper · 26/07/2024 17:03

Rosscameasdoody · 26/07/2024 16:28

I agree with her - maybe she was a bit rude but she was right. A family member used to visit us and help herself to cans from the fridge. I pulled her up when l realised she was only drinking half and then opening a fresh one. It’s a waste.

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OP's friend was not rude at all in pointing out the waste. How sad is it if you can't be open and honest with friends.

Sunshineandpool · 26/07/2024 17:03

I agree with your friend. Why open a can and take one sip?! Do you do that at home with your own cans of Diet Coke?

She apologised as she realises she snapped but what she actually said was correct.

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coldayscientist · 26/07/2024 17:02

Omlettes · 26/07/2024 15:14

I simply cannot believe you are sharing this utter triviality on mumsnet.
Get over it

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And yet so many have answered it 😂. So “triviality” but you still take time to read AND comment

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Nicemam · 26/07/2024 17:01

Pharticle · 26/07/2024 16:57

Can’t believe there’s 9 pages of people complaining about a can. Get a life

What does your username name?

because in my mind it's Fart-icle

and if that's intentional then that's made me chuckle. If I'm just perpetually 5 then I do apologise

Boomer55 · 26/07/2024 17:01

slantedroof · 26/07/2024 14:17

Surely a reverse. You were really rude to waste her can just to have one sip. And then leave it for her to deal with. If you felt like a child it was because you were behaving like one - the same oblivious entitlement.

The only thing she did wrong is apologise to you.

This. Act like a child, you get treated like one.🙄

TwigletsAndRadishes · 26/07/2024 17:01

Pharticle · 26/07/2024 16:57

Can’t believe there’s 9 pages of people complaining about a can. Get a life

It's not about one can of Coke. It's about thoughtless greed and and waste when you are not the one who has paid for the drink. If you don't understand that then you must be either thoughtless and greedy yourself, or just a bit thick.

Mummysaf · 26/07/2024 17:00

DirtyCheeseBurger · 26/07/2024 14:12

What a non event.

This made me genuinely LOL

Pharticle · 26/07/2024 16:57

Can’t believe there’s 9 pages of people complaining about a can. Get a life

WeeOrcadian · 26/07/2024 16:56

You were spoken to like a child because you acted like a child

My 7 yr old doesn't even open a can for one sip because she knows it's wasteful

You clearly think YANBU but you definitely ARE BU

I wouldn't have apologised to you though

AbraAbraCadabra · 26/07/2024 16:53

*focussing

AbraAbraCadabra · 26/07/2024 16:53

I think you are fluctuating on the wrong thing. It's incredibly rude to open a can, take one sip, and then just leave it. You should be apologising.

Waffle78 · 26/07/2024 16:48

Seems a bit pointless to open a can have one sip then leave the rest. Was there no bottles of pop you could pour into a glass?

CormorantStrikesBack · 26/07/2024 16:48

It’s not just the taking one sip and being so wasteful. OP states she “put it down”. Put it down where?

Because I’m guessing she wasn’t pouring the undrunk wasted coke down the sink and putting the can in the recycling/bin. So just leaving it on a table or worktop? Bet the host was pissed off with the mess and lack of tidying.

When I’ve stayed at someone’s house after a party I’ve got up early in the morning and started clearing up and put the dishwasher on.

Had OP helped to clear stuff up? Had anyone?

TrishM80 · 26/07/2024 16:40

Yabu, diet Coke is rotten.

Lancrelady80 · 26/07/2024 16:39

I'm already staggered none of you helped clean up before leaving. She was probably a bit annoyed you were all swanning off just leaving her to it, and then you made it worse by creating more for her to empty out, rinse out and recycle when she could otherwise have just popped it back in the bin.

Thoughtless and wasteful I'm afraid. But I guess we're none of us at our most thoughtful after an late night, alcohol and sleepover session.

(Haven't read full thread btw, so apologies if I've missed something about the great post-party clear up.)

FOJN · 26/07/2024 16:39

coldayscientist · 26/07/2024 15:11

Why would I ask? It was leftover on the buffet. If you go to a buffet or bbq etc and the host lays out food and drink on the table for guests do you ask every single time if it’s ok to have something?

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This response is quite defensive. What I find more interesting is that you are so rude and entitled that after you had opened a can, taken a sip, put it down for her to clean up, she asked you if you were taking it with you, you replied, "no, I'm good thanks", totally failing to take the hint about your rude, wasteful behaviour.

In the great scheme of things it's not a big deal but if I'd been so thoughtless and someone had hinted at it I would have been mortified not posting on the internet to get support.

I think you should message her to say you were tired and hung over and you're sorry for such thoughtless behaviour.

Redhil · 26/07/2024 16:36

SummerSummeySun · 26/07/2024 14:16

Unless this is a ....dundundunnnnn

Reverse....

Oh dear lord can we give it a rest with this... anyone's story could be a reverse couldn't it.

LookItsMeAgain · 26/07/2024 16:35

coldayscientist · 26/07/2024 15:11

Why would I ask? It was leftover on the buffet. If you go to a buffet or bbq etc and the host lays out food and drink on the table for guests do you ask every single time if it’s ok to have something?

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No, but I also wouldn't be wasteful by opening a can (different to a bottle where you can pour a glass and drink all or part of the glass but not waste the rest of the beverage by doing so) and only having a sip or one mouthful of the drink either!

Are you usually this wasteful about things that you don't have to or didn't have to pay for yourself?

HollyKnight · 26/07/2024 16:35

Unopened drinks are not the same as buffet food that needs to be thrown away the next day. Cans can be kept. They aren't going to waste by not consuming them the next day. What you did was wasteful and rude.