To stop my kids dad's new GF take my kids for the day

Why do you think they would be unsafe?

the only concern I would have is the ratio of adults to kids in terms of height restrictions and who's gonna sit on what rides alone?

we took my 9 year old son to Chessington a couple of weeks ago and there was plenty he wasn't able to go on, some things were with an adult. 2 kids and 1 adult at a theme park is asking for issues. Why can't dad go? Or could she maybe take a friend so it's 1 child each.

I will say though him having a girlfriend who's interested in the kids enough to take them out for the day on her own after only knowing him 4.5 months she's clearly making an effort to be kind and generous to them. Let her, would you prefer a sour faced cow that dosnt like them? She's not replacing you. You're there mum you're irreplaceable just remember that.

Unfortunately if it's his day you don't have a say. You chose to have children with him and he has regular contact with them so presumably you feel he is a safe parent who can make good decisions for them? I can totally see why you would hate. I would too. But part of being a separated family is coming to terms with the fact that you hand over complete control when your kids are not with you.

If you have any reason to believe that she may be a danger to your children then that's different. If not then prep them well before they go about safety, staying together, have they charged phones, do they know numbers and then let them go and have a nice time.

I understand completely people saying his day its up to him but if i felt like my kids would be in a situation where they are potentially unsafe i just wouldnt allow it sorry - wouldn't care if it was his day or not, you do not stop being a caring parent just because its not your day to have them. The kids come first always, its our job make these decisions for them

As you say, soon she will be living in the same house as your children and you can’t control who is around the children during the time their father is responsible for them (and vice versa). Unfortunately this is the reality of parents being separated.

He gets to devise what his kids get to do on his days and who with.

You don't get a veto.

Just like he doesn't get to control what you do when the kids are with you.

They've been together for 4.5 months and she's taking them out by herself... I don't think there's anything you can do but he's fallen on his feet getting new GF to look after his children. Is she young?

I wouldn't trust someone I knew for 4 months to take my kids to a theme park for the day let alone someone their dad knew. Too many horror stories from ex husbands new girlfriends. But thats just me and I'm so glad it's not me, because there's not much you can do on his day with them I'm afraid. It must be rough x

2 and 4 and she has no kids herself, I'd be a bit concerned. 8 and 9 and she's a parent, not as much.

Is it his day tomorrow?

Do they know about the trip and what are your reasons for not letting them go with her?

As much as I wouldn't like it either I don't think there is much you can do to stop it at all - just the same as if he was using childcare on "his" days you wouldn't be able to dictate it

I understand the maternal feelings and jealousy.
However as a parent he's deemed this person responsible enough to have the kids so yabu if it's on his time.

If tomorrow is his time to spend with the children then yes, YABU.

Have you met her?

Why isn't their dad going?

I don't think I'd be happy in this situation either