Parents new “friend”

You have fiends? I'd be concerned for you were I your family!

I would quietly tell Tracy that you already have POA and see how quickly she disappears.

Your parents are early 60’s? Not usually the time when any mental medical problem would kick in. It just sounds as though they welcome her in their lives, for whatever reason.

I would tread carefully - I’m the age of your parents, fully compos mentis, and would not appreciate my ACs trying to tell me who my fiends should be.🙄

If your parents always use the same solicitor for wills, it wouldn't hurt to write to the solicitor with your worries about a possible change.

Your parents could already be ‘lending’ Tracey money. I wonder how you could find out.

@Itllbealrightonthenight definitely seems extremely suspicious. Lots of good advice here, especially getting parents’ Lasting Power of Attorney in place, nannycam etc, investigator. What do your siblings say?

local gym. 3X week nd sort obsessed with it might be useful. ...wouldnt go in all guns blazing yet...iwho do you know that works/goes there- people do love to talk. job what \where.again who do you know.?

First thing I’d do is find her online, although not everyone has a profile or can be found (tried this last year with some dodgy characters). If there’s no online presence then I’d try to contact the dad or see where she works/lives. It’s incredibly dodgy.

Is your mother as taken in by Tracey as your father is? Could you talk to your mother about the will? She would have to be on board if it was changed as she would have to sign it. Can’t she tell your father, Don’t be ridiculous, we are not putting Tracey in the will. We
barely know her.

It doesn't really fit the profile for 'cuckooing' where the victim is usually very vulnerable (an addict, learning disabled, MH issues, very elderly, lonely) and usually in social housing.

It is weird and I agree with PP that you need to get other family and friends on board and stage an intervention but in a slow steady way where everyone is saying the same things and asking the same questions and staying close.

Please check her out. This is very worrying.

I would definitely do this too. Chancers don't want hard work so the more you can be around and about, involved will put them off

I would be getting other family members and friends to be there all the time too. If it looks like you’re the only one who’s got suspicions, it’ll be easier for Tracey to convince your parents it’s you with the problem.
would you write to them? Maybe when it’s all written down in black and white it will be easier for them to digest what you’re saying rather than it turning into a heated argument.
and definitely start surveillance on Tracey.

This is great advice. There is something really off about this story. Hope you can get to the bottom of this.

Well it depends what she's after really.

Atm she's being fed regularly.

Maybe soon she might as well stop over here & there.

Then she'll potentially be moving in, losing her job...

get her out. she is clearly after money.

OP will be retired then and her daughter will be late middle age potential with great grandchildren. Tracey's unlikely to go the distance.

Yes but in the mean time Tracey could be stealing money or objects from the parents house...

We had something very similar happen with my husbands parents, except that they were older, and they were conned by their nephew and his wife with the knowledge of my husbands uncle

It didn’t end well. His mother (last surviving parent) died penniless, when they’d owned a home worth almost a million. The cousin had their house by time.

It’s heartbreakingly sad, not because of the money but the way they were treated, particularly his mum after his dad died.

We went wrong by my husband trying to warn his parents. He tried to be really gentle (in the very small amount of time they were left alone) but they’d been pretty much brainwashed. This was a few years ago now, and reading this post has brought up feelings I’d buried

Please don’t let yourself be pushed out OP, but equally tread really carefully with advice

Very true, but some people also just want to be loved and a stable relationship with a mother or father like figure. I wonder if there is a way that the OP's parents could ask her to do something which would put her out.... Like giving them a lift or something... See how she acts then... but I can't really think of something that would work.

Meet her, record her on your phone, and use the pretence of wanting a photo of her and your parents together. Once you have a photo, then use google lens to see if google can match her face at all. Look on facebookfor people matching her description. (after making sure what her natural hair colour is). Take a photo of her reg and the car make / model, at the very least check if it's insured and MOTted..Find her address she's given your parents and just drive by at 4am and see if her car is there. Once you have an address, google it, and see if there are any details you can find (like companies registered against it) . Try to find her dad online, if he owns a business then phone from a burner sim and just say "Oh are you XXX dad? I was hoping you can give me a quote for xxxx."
There are ways to linking what she's saying about her dad to her.
Also, of course she could be saying the whole truth, and your parents are just worried for her. You don't know what the "adding to the will" comment was about. It might be that they want her to have a pair of gloves / or all their estate... Ultimately it's always their choice to decide what goes to whom, but it does seem quite odd. My parents have discussed that there are things goihg to various people, but these are people who've helped them or they've known for decades and are friends.

You are utterly wrong. Projecting your own issues here.

The reason I queried the ages if you must know was I was hinting at a less than genuine poster. But that's not allowed.

(I have raised concerns with MN on it .)

Happy now?

Yeah I don’t believe a word of this.

If my son tried to get POA for me in my early 60’s, I’d tell him to fuck right off.

Sounds a bit like the man who killed the vicar and neighbour, was dramatised a whole ago,The sixth commandment where the man squirrels his way into their lives, befriends them and gets them to change the will and murders them!
Not suggesting that she is planning to kill them but it's scary how quickly someone can gain trust.
Keep a very close eye, could your dad be seeing her?
Could you follow her, maybe she is doing this to someone else as well.

I was quite uncomfortable reading this as I've seen this sort of thing happen in real life too. My grandparents thought their cleaning lady was wonderful and like a member of the family. Once my grandmother was widowed she became a sort of paid companion which we were uncomfortable with as she was in sheltered accommodation and had regular family visits and support. Eventually when Gma no longer had mental capacity my mum got POA and found the lady had been helping herself to get bank account. Police weren't interested as Gma had given her her bank card and PIN.

Two other odd incidences, not money motivated though which made it harder to work out what was going on. Both were oddball characters who joined my parents church at different times. One turned out to be a convicted pedophile who was trying to inveigle himself back into "decent society". My parents were totally taken in by him and devastated when the truth came out as they'd spent so much time with him and thought he was a lovely person and good Christian.

The other was a woman who latched onto an older couple and was with them all the time. She had lost her own parents not long before and we were really shocked to hear her call the couple mum and dad. The wife grew very uncomfortable over time especially as she got very ill and the woman seemed to take over her role in the home, cooking and cleaning. She did say at one point that she was worried that the woman was "after" her husband and people reassured her as the woman had made a big thing of only seeing him as a father figure. Sure enough very soon after she died the husband and the odd woman were clearly a couple.

You are right to be wary but they may well be resistant to concern and think you are "jealous". I'd say find out all you can about this character as you may turn up something that will open their eyes.