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To be angry at partner?

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righsaidlead · 25/07/2024 08:22

My partners dad lives down south
He is in the area on holiday
Last week he said he would visit today to see partner.
All week I have said to him to text his dad and ask what the plan is.
What time he is coming etc
My partner has a hospital apt at 2 ,so I said ask him to meet you after your appointment.

His dad rang last night and he said to him
"Yeah I'm at hospital at 2 ,if you want to come over first or meet me after ,up to you"
His dad said il come over before.

Partner didn't ask for a time
Or if he wanted to grab lunch before

So this morning I'm up but have to pop out
I have repeatedly asked him to text his dad and ask for a time he is coming.
He refuses saying "he will come when he is ready "

I say "do I need to buy something for lunch "
He says "don't know ,dad might want to go out "
So I ask him to text him again ...
No he will just come over

Aibu to be pissed off ?
1.he should of said after 2 In the first place
2.have common sense to be a adult and ask a Time

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MWNA · 25/07/2024 20:24

righsaidlead · 25/07/2024 08:33

The house is a mess
My partner has been off work all week and done nothing
So this morning I have to clean everything before the dad gets here
So I'm stressed

You're ridiculous.
Why do you have to clean up for his father?

politicalintrigue · 25/07/2024 15:04

i didn’t think the op would be back after her blatant lie about working and taking a day off!

feathermucker · 25/07/2024 09:05

OP, seriously?

paintedpumpkins · 25/07/2024 08:52

This kind of thing drives me bananas, but you can’t change people who are like this.

JMSA · 25/07/2024 08:42

Just butt out! I'd be absolutely demented if I were your partner.

politicalintrigue · 25/07/2024 08:40

IncognitoUsername · 25/07/2024 08:39

Oh well that changes things! I mean it must be impossible to take a day off work when you don’t have a job!

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and the irony that the other thread about lying on her application

IncognitoUsername · 25/07/2024 08:39

politicalintrigue · 25/07/2024 08:35

OP

according to your thread YESTERDAY (about lying on your application)

you haven’t worked for 6 years

So now telling porkies here

Oh well that changes things! I mean it must be impossible to take a day off work when you don’t have a job!

Macaroni46 · 25/07/2024 08:39

righsaidlead · 25/07/2024 08:32

He asked me to take the day off work especially
At first he said we will go for tea after my appointment.
Then he said he wasn't sure
I said well il just go to work
He said no you have to be here

So surely I should have a idea if I need to get ready to go out somewhere nice or if he is just popping for a cuppa
If it's the later -I've just lost a days pay for nothing

This info would've been helpful in your OP. Now it's more understandable why you're irritated.

WorkCleanRepeat · 25/07/2024 08:38

YABU It doesn't really matter what time he comes. You seem to be making a mountain out of a molehill.

Make sure there is something easy in for lunch. They might decide to go out for lunch. Who really cares it's just a brief visit from a parent.

politicalintrigue · 25/07/2024 08:38

Edingril · 25/07/2024 08:36

Why on earth would you take a day off work?

she didn’t
she telling porkies
had t worked since 2017

pictoosh · 25/07/2024 08:36

You don't have to clean everything.

Edingril · 25/07/2024 08:36

Why on earth would you take a day off work?

Ginlfixit · 25/07/2024 08:36

Micromanage? Much?

politicalintrigue · 25/07/2024 08:36

yesterday you had not worked since 2017

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/5126929-i-lied-on-job-application?page=2&reply=137034672

Drizzlebizzle · 25/07/2024 08:35

I'm with you a bit OP. If i'd been asked to take a day off, i would then be involved and would like to know what's going on. Leave them to sort food though.

politicalintrigue · 25/07/2024 08:35

OP

according to your thread YESTERDAY (about lying on your application)

you haven’t worked for 6 years

So now telling porkies here

Merryoldgoat · 25/07/2024 08:35

You’ve got bigger problems.

DrinkFeckArseBrick · 25/07/2024 08:34

I think I'd be making arrangements to go into work a bit late to be honest, unless his dad is ill or lives ages away and you barely see him, I wouldn't be taking the day off to have a sandwich with anyone

cupcaske123 · 25/07/2024 08:34

righsaidlead · 25/07/2024 08:28

@politicalintrigue utterly obsessed with this meet up ? Get a grip
My partner told me to take the day off work because his dad wanted me to be here
Surely I should know what the plan is

Well you know he'll be there before the hospital appointment at two. Are you planning a welcoming parade that needs to be organised?

IncognitoUsername · 25/07/2024 08:34

I would be cross if I’d taken a day off but didn’t have a plan. How long is Dad going to be there and how difficult was it for you to take the day off? (This may be me projecting as it’s very difficult for me to take a day off on a whim in my job)

pictoosh · 25/07/2024 08:34

I'm with the rest...let them organise themselves. You have broached it repeatedly and been waved away...so take it for what it is and go with the flow.

Original poster
righsaidlead · 25/07/2024 08:33

The house is a mess
My partner has been off work all week and done nothing
So this morning I have to clean everything before the dad gets here
So I'm stressed

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politicalintrigue · 25/07/2024 08:33

righsaidlead · 25/07/2024 08:32

He asked me to take the day off work especially
At first he said we will go for tea after my appointment.
Then he said he wasn't sure
I said well il just go to work
He said no you have to be here

So surely I should have a idea if I need to get ready to go out somewhere nice or if he is just popping for a cuppa
If it's the later -I've just lost a days pay for nothing

💧

DrinkFeckArseBrick · 25/07/2024 08:33

I've just seen your update. That makes a bit of a difference. Your partner 'told' (not asked??) you to take the day off work...to see his dad for an unspecified amount of time, and you might or might not be going out for lunch...yes that's a bit annoying

Stressybetty · 25/07/2024 08:33

Yeah this would annoy me too, him potentially appearing any time. I'd have been up early just in case etc. But really if you need to pop out just do it and grab some sandwich stuff while you're out.

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