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Snoring on hospital ward

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ffssssssssssss · 25/07/2024 01:59

Night three in hospital with 1 yr old DC who's recovering from a serious 12 hour surgery (and obviously needs as much rest as they can).

4 bays to this ward, other families fine, fairly considerate, one listens to the radio all day which is a bit annoying but what can you do.

New family (2 parents + baby) arrives this evening at 10pm, their child sounds 2-3. All have very loud conversations with each other despite being surrounded by sleeping babies (eldest on the ward is about 7). All wake up.

They order a Deliveroo which is delivered at midnight. Noisily eat it in their bay (there's a v nice family room down the hallway).

Dad of the family has been snoring like a freight train for the last hour, has woken my DC up 3 times. Ironically my baby's cries aren't waking up snorer.

Can hear mum moving about next to him and not doing a thing about the vibrations coming from her partner (I'd be kicking my husband).

Ward policy is one parent only over night 😒 would have loved DH's help when I was here post op with my baby.

After the third wake up I went to the nurses station and told they can't help snoring - not even having a word. But it was 'situational' that two parents were sleeping in the bay and it wouldn't happen again.

Can't work out if I'm overreacting because I've had 4 hours sleep the last two nights. AIBU if you know you snore you do something about it if you're spending the night on a ward with very sick kids? Or, you know, just follow hospital policy and let your wife take the shift? Please let me know before I club this man with a bed pan.

(Before you suggest ear plugs, I don't want to wear any because I want to be aware of the noises DC is making/be there if he wakes up)

OP posts:
niadainud · 25/07/2024 02:39

Ok, snoring can't be helped, but they do sound very inconsiderate in general.

Piccygirl · 25/07/2024 02:31

I don’t think anyone is the asshole here.

The deliveroo; they were probably exhausted and hungry. I can imagine they didn’t want to leave the child, hence eating on the bay. Somewhat rude but in situations like that you aren’t always thinking straight. Also with meds and obs, midnight isn’t always prime sleeping time.

The snoring; he can’t help it and it’s one of the painful things about being in a shared bay. The nurses were right; it’s not their job to wake someone snoring.

The family; here is where you could argue that sticking to the rules would have made your experience easier and should have been instigated. Clearly the nurses were aware of the ‘situation’ and had information you, rightly, don’t know.

Can you ask for a Ronald McDonald family room so you can get some sleep today or do a shift swap with your OH?

You must be so emotionally and physically exhausted. I am sorry you’re going through this, and hope that your little one improves soon.

Ponderingwindow · 25/07/2024 02:23

They have a child in the hospital and you want them to worry about snoring. people snore. Sometimes the parent taking care of a child is going to snore. There might be a good reason for 2 parents to be present and even if they have only 1 stay, the dad has every right to be the parent on night duty.

direct your ire to the existence of antiquated wards and the lack of privacy, not the fact that some people snore.

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