Snoring on hospital ward

YANBU Op & I'd have gone ballistic (in a quietly seething way!) & woken him up every time he snored as your DCs ability to rest & recover far outweighs another adult's sleep!

It's a pity there aren't strict matrons around anymore to sort this stuff out.

Rest and sleep is really important for patients of all ages. NHS Hospitals don't seem to view it as important though. Funnily enough it's not like this in private hospitals. Ditto good nutrition.

I had a similar experience OP. A dad was lying starfish in the kids bed keeping the whole ward awake, the kid curled around him. Every other parent was on a recliner chair. I can vouch that he was not tending to a sick kid at all as he didn't shut up snoring and I also known he wasn't a long timer who was overcome with exhaustion as he arrived only that evening a few hours earlier. I have never felt angrier with another human, the nurse woke him at my request and he just went back to sleep without changing position, even I know sleeping on your back encourages snoring. Everyone was exhausted and upset, thank god it was only one night.

I'd be team club him with a bedpan, OP.

💐to all of you with kiddos in hospital.

@seedsandseeds Nope! Do you? As you seem to be excusing their skanky selfish behaviour

I was staying in the hospital with my child for a few nights.

It was also a 4 bed bay and the child opposite us who was about 7 snored so loudly I actually thought it was one of the parents.

Very frustrating as my child couldn’t sleep with the noise yet we couldn’t complain.

You really dont get any restful sleep in hospital unless you are in a private room & even then theres still a lot of noise.

Hope you got home soon and your child makes a full recovery.

@PenelopeHofstadter Do you know the parents?

Not downplaying what OP is going though at all but there are different levels of really unwell.

the first time ds was in rules were bent because he was “has he been christened” ill. He has been “very ill” since but thankfully not that very ill.

it’s shit being in hospital with a poorly child no matter what and everyone is generally doing what is needed to survive. Yes some people are rude (and the people in the OP sound like they fall into that category) but everyone is stressed.

My eldest son was allowed both parents to stay with him when he was diagnosed with a condition that is not compatible with life and was in PICU. Fortunately he had a complete repair, and I stayed in hospital alone with him when he only needed HDU or ward care. I was just sharing my experience of the situations where both parents or only one parent is needed. Obviously I have no idea what type of care any of the children involved in OP's situation require.

@Jimmyspiano erm from what OP has said her little one has been really unwell, too. She could have probably done with having her DH there for support but couldn't as she wasn't allowed.

Why are some parents allowed to both be there to support each other but others aren't?

I was not excusing the man's behaviour. I was just pointing out that the fact that they moved does not necessarily mean the child has been discharged.

Stop make excuses for the man's rude behaviour @Jimmyspiano.
He's just self-centred and his wife is probably too terrified of him to wake him up.

Maybe the child with the snoring Dad was moved to PICU. Both parents might have been there because the child was so unwell that they needed each other for support.

I hope your baby gets better and is allowed home very soon OP.

That’s a good point on not knowing where the parents room is, on many occasions staff have asked me to show other parents the parents room and other bits because they simply don’t have the time.

On DS first admission the ward also very much relaxed the visiting rules to allow my Mum to also be about because of how ill DS was.

You have my sympathies. When I did a 2m stint with my child most parents were courteous but I'll never forgot the REALLY LOUD snoring dad. His child was thankfully only in one night, but he kept everyone else awake. I remember eating biscuits at 3am with another mum, just so frustrated. And no, it wasn't his fault exactly but putting cbeebies on loudly at 6am when the other kids were still asleep was.

Re single rooms - sometimes there's not practical. We were 6 to a room because there need to be a nurse present at all times. They weren't even allowed to leave the room unattended for 30, seconds. These were very sick kids that need that level of nursing. We merely missed needing to be in isolation at one point, but if we had, a nurse would have stayed on our single room as of child had to be within sight of a nurse at all times. Single rooms aren't always practical for very sick kids.

When we were in, I was miffed that both parents were able to stay for one child. We weren't allowed this even when things were really rough when we were admitted. But we later discovered that it was for a newborn baby that was unlikely to live and mum needed that support. They made the right decision though it was hard to see at the time.

Giving the poorly in the OP the benefit of the doubt, maybe this was their first admission and they didn't know whether the parents room was or ward etiquette. Or maybe they were just awful people. Who knows. If they were only in one night then it doesn't sound like things are so grim both parents need to be there in any event.

😆ummm what???

Do you know them?

It reminds me of the matron in 'Boy' who shaved soap into the mouth of a child at his school, who was snoring. Kind of tempting if you could avoid being knifed or something.

Sadly, their antisocial behaviour makes them sound like the kind of people that would have 'connections' you wouldn't want to mess with. I have no advice short of looking forward to the day your child is discharged, or just putting more faith in the hospital staff. If anything happens that's serious, they would wake you. Be a tiny bit more selfish or you'll endanger your child through not taking care of yourself enough.

@seedsandseeds yep the 'reason' was the family were chavvy and skanky

They mostly deliver outside the hospital, parent picks it up and brings it to the ward. That's what they do with me anyway.

How are fast food deliveries even getting access to a ward in the middle of the night?

Nope. I didn't comment on that. The nurses said there was a reason for that.

Next.

It’s really tough being in hospital with dc. He can’t help snoring though but I do feel for you.

@seedsandseeds the rule about only one parent allowed to be with the child

Which rules sorry?