AIBU to be angry at DH over DS 8 on water slide?

I take comfort from the fact that these threads raise my blood pressure and are shocking to me because my DH, my BILs and my friends’ DHs are all competent parents who don’t fit the MN stereotype of “fun but shit” dad/DH. If something like this happened while my DH was parenting, he would be horrified and I would have to be the one telling him that accidents happen and not to beat himself up about it.

My son used to do that all the time, and still would (mid teens now). Feet first is 'boring'. Your son was just unlucky that he got hurt, but he probably won't do it again now so I would just move on.

Is going down a small waterslide headfirst a HUGE risk? Really?

Or is it a small risk that could potentially lead to banged head and not much else?

I don't think your DH is annoyed you took the call, I think he's annoyed at your overreaction about the slide.

YABU.

No it’s not allowed, but loads of us have done it! Same as swinging on the back of your chair. Kids do silly things.

I agree with you OP- there are risks that are acceptable to let your kids take, but going down a waterslide head first into shallow water isn't one of them. I did something similar as a kid and was in a neck brace for weeks, we had to cut the holiday short.

That said, your DH probably didn't give permission as such, kids that age just go for it because they can't assess risk. Presumably, the reason you're worried/annoyed is that your DH doesn't acknowledge how dangerous it was.

sorry wrong thread.

FYI I am significantly bigger breadwinner and job interview important. AIBU?

Unless the job you're interviewing for was Chief Water Slide Safety Engineer, I don't see how that's relevant.

She was advising she was the breadwinner to avoid being piled on by the usual crowd castigating her for daring to take a phone call whilst she was with her husband and child and leaving them to it for a time. It didn't work though clearly.
I agree with the OP it wasn't a reasonable thing to allow the child to do and the result was an unnecessary head bang which thankfully was minor. Men often have no sense regarding child safety.

@Fleetwoodmax

how utterly remiss of you not to have discussed waterside safety before marrying the incompetent twat.

I'm bowing out of the thread now because my blood pressure needs a rest.

he was a twat letting DS go down head first into such a shallow pool, I'd be re thinking him looking after the goldfish.

he was an asswipe to call you boring & be so grumpy about watching DS while you did what you need to, to secure your income that you ALL rely on.

ignore the idiots criticising you for mentioning you're the breadwinner & fir assuming your DH was competent enough to look after his own child for 5 minutes!

im not sure id want that resentful, incompetent idiot looking after DS in the school holidays. I'd look at childcare & him getting a full time job.

What has how much money you earn got to do with anything?
They were having fun, accidents happen.
Calm yourself down.

YABU

@VeterinaryCareAssistant I would expect him to parent and know that going head first into a shallow pool is beyond stupid

That's because you were meant to be on holiday, not working.
Your DH was an idiot but hopefully your DS is fine and really really hopefully both your DH and DS have learned their lesson.

FYI I am significantly bigger breadwinner and job interview important.

I have put YABU for your comment above which shows that you are so far up your own arse.

maybe dad could have done some adequate parenting and not moan about it

Maybe Dad was doing adequate parenting.
None of us have seen the slide.
Potentially Dad did his own risk assessment and thought it was a reasonable risk.
We don't know the Dad and we don't know the OP - it is perfectly feasible the Dad wasn't supervising but equally it is perfectly feasible the OP is risk averse and wraps her ds up in cotton wool. I don't know, and nor do you.
Most likely, the Dad wasn't at the top of the slide as the ds got on the slide, so didn't either "give permission" or not anyway - it was the child's own decision.

He was at a water park with an 8 year old boy.

How sensible do you expect them to be? Kids mess about all the time and was fine.

I hear you, OP.
I never left my idiot (ex) husband alone with the kids anywhere near water. Just couldn't trust him to look after them properly.
You are justified in being annoyed.

@VeterinaryCareAssistant maybe dad could have done some adequate parenting and not moan about it

FYI I am significantly bigger breadwinner and job interview important

What has that got to do with water safety?

FFS, YANBU at all. You shouldn’t have to parent the other parent. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Your DH is a monumental idiot for not realising how stupid that move was. DS could easily have broken his neck. Did he really say it was fine or was he not paying any attention?

It’s depressing how many posters have no problem giving the dad a free pass to fuck up on the grounds that he’s the fun parent. 😢

You are being unreasonable because you prioritised a work call over your family when you're on holiday.

Kids bounce, your boy will be fine.

You're probably pissed off because you couldn't micromanage your husband whilst you were taking your apparently soooo important phone call.

There are accidents that happen in the ordinary course of life and then accidents that happen because people are doing dumb shit like going backwards on a slide into shallow water. I think it’s perfectly fine for adults to take risks as they see fit but deplorable when adults take these risks on behalf of their 8 year old children, presumably against the written guidance by the slide in question.

@TwattyMcFuckFace

No, but this is the fucking bear pit MN has turned into, that she felt the need to try & justify leaving her incompetent husband to watch his own child, which he moaned about.

She wouldn't be able to earn so much if it wasn't for his unpaid labour looking after their kid.

To paraphase many a mumsnet post.